wrong first impressions on people
By iluvusabado
@iluvusabado (2560)
Philippines
January 4, 2013 7:36am CST
i had this female friend in high school. she looks high-class and she walks with her hips swaying from left to right. i actually have a bad impression on her because a friend of mine was insulted/offended by her. of course, i tried to be civil with her since i was gonna spend a whole school year with her.
and then we were seatmates in one class. and then i eventually know her. we became friends. i discovered that she walks high class because they were taught that way in her former school. and then i realized i'm just glad that i wasn't that distracted by my first impression to be nice to her. maybe she changed. or maybe she's misunderstood.
my last impression on her, she's a great friend.
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13 responses
@SuperShames (780)
• India
5 Jan 13
Hi iluvusabadao
Well that is a very nice point that you have made. There are many people who get defamed without any faults of their because of rumors spread by people out of jealousy. So I always follow this policy that unless he/she does something wrong to me I will nice to him/her as well. But sometimes when you see and know if a person is very bad only then I dont respect such people. Anyways have a nice day ...
-=SuperShames=-
@SuperShames (780)
• India
5 Jan 13
Yes you are right.. What if it was the person with whom we could fall in love in future.. Or may be that person can become the best friend in your life... So if we had some pre conceived notion, we would have never be able to open up such person. Anyways have a nice day ...
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
i'm really glad we have the same opinion on this. if i closed my mind and never gave her the opportunity to know her better, i wouldn't have met a friend.
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@skyandgrassplot (1497)
• China
5 Jan 13
Haha,but I still have one thing want to know,you said that you have a friend was insulted by her,so could you tell me the details?
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
6 Jan 13
well it's just about a certain brand of purse. like my she said my friend's purse is fake. i guess it was with the way she said it.
@ShadowWolf1996 (147)
• Taiwan
4 Jan 13
I've read a research which says when you're on a interview, the first 50 sec decide what the boss think you are.
This can tell us we usually judge a person at first sight.
In the research there are two people go into a interview. One act a little bit rude at first 50 sec, and then he did quote well in the following 10 mins.
The other people is very polite at first and then don't perform very well after that.
However the final score is the one who is polite first but perform so-so got the higher score.
We can see that the first sight may judge wrong. So we should understand more before judging a person.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
yes, that's so true you are not only judged with what you say and how your records speak for you. they also observe you body language
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
4 Jan 13
I never have trusted first impressions. I have a great friend in the usa. He was always calling and talking to me when I lived there. My first time to talk to him, I thought he was a crazy nut. After i got to know him, hes a great guy. I love and care for him so much. His name is marco.. I hope to go back to usa and see him soon.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
it seems like you're in love with him. good luck to seeing him soon.
@Angelpink (4035)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
It so wrong to say that first impression is lasting because what if the person is in the middle of dilemma ? Naturally , the person would not appear good and outward expression may not be good also, so to judge her from your first meeting is never justifiable ! You can only tell the traits and attributes of a person if both of you are given the chance to be close and open to each other. As you get along with each other , inhibitions would be forgotten . Weaknesses and strength will be revealed , ,accepted and understood.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
yes. just like when a couple gets married, they discover new things from their partners that they never knew before. you will really get to know the person more if you a lot more time together.
@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
People always judge people by their looks.. and sometimes that judgement leads us to misunderstanding the people we are judging.. so it is best to know the person first before anything else or before conclude something about that person because it is not fair judging him or her with just the way they dress or act..
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
yes that's so true. i guess it really is the nature of people to judge other people more often than not trying to find faults.
@dandan07 (1906)
• China
5 Jan 13
The first inmpression is very important.When you have an interview, the first impression may be the very step for you to get that job or not.
In many cases, beautiful people can more chances than normal people for that reason.
I once consider one of my roommates as a good friend for she looks like one of my best friends. But after a period of knowing, I find that she is totally a differet kind of person, I can not treat her as friend nay more.
@joliefille (3690)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
I've had that experience too with some friends I mistook for a snob only to find out later that my first impression was wrong. I then think of some celebrities. In their case I think people frequently get the first wrong impressions of them. I would then imagine myself being in the public scrutiny, being in their shoes so to speak, and I would be wary of some media hype or stories built around them just to make them look good or look too bad.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
i think people are judgmental by nature. though we really don't know the celebrities personally, we just them from what we here or see without even verifying the truthness of the gossips.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
People easily judge others by the looks.
I have always been judged by my looks- like snobbish and well-off.
Maybe because of my facial expression- they say I always look serious.
But no,I am a funny person once you get to know me.
That's why, I do not believe in what they say...first impression lasts.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
i'm a very shy person. most of my friends have an impression that i'm snobbish. but when they got to know be better, they discovered that i'm really a jolly person, the total opposite of their first impression on me.
@anilhclites (844)
• India
4 Jan 13
This happens with lots of people. Firstly, somebody gives a bad idea about a guy but when we have a close interaction with them we realizes that they are not at all bad and are quite interesting as well. For me, there are some guys which I don't like during my first year of college but they are best of my friends during the later stages of my college life.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
good for you. sometimes you find true friendship in the people you least expected to be friends with.
@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
People always judge people by their looks.. and sometimes that judgement leads us to misunderstanding the people we are judging.. so it is best to know the person first before anything else or before conclude something about that person because it is not fair judging him or her with just the way they dress or act..
@dee777 (1417)
• South Africa
4 Jan 13
Its great that you made her your friend. Well, the other thing about body language... women are taught a lot of things when they grow up. How they should behave, and how they should never behave. The swinging of hips is a dangerous one...Body language usually tells a story and we should be very careful not to send out the 'wrong' message.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
that's so true. people may think bad things about you especially with the swaying of the hips. it may bring you trouble.
@Maddmuzik04 (12)
• United States
4 Jan 13
I think other friends play a big role too in developing bad first impressions of other, like your post said, you had that bad impression because your friend was insulted by her. I had a somewhat similar situation at work with a coworker of mine. Now we are cool friends where as before I thought she was really mean.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
yes, that's so true. i'm glad i gave her the chance to prove herself wrong. i'm not saying the people who told me bad things about her are lying. maybe she changed or they just misinterpreted what she said.
