Pushing me away...

@Sureoi (176)
Philippines
January 4, 2013 9:40am CST
I have here a girl whom I've loved so much. One day, after high school graduation, I confessed about my feelings to her. I'm happy that she didn't insult me hehe :D Then, that same day, She told me that I will find another girl that I will love in college. I keep on telling her that she is the one I really love but then she keeps on saying that and later she asked this question, "What if my true love will come in college? Would you still love me?". I feel bad about it and I feel that she is pushing me away. Have you experienced it also? From your point of view, what can you say about it, is she pushing me away?
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@Archie0 (4669)
4 Jan 13
Actually i think she is trying to play safe. She does not really wants to hurt you, but she cannot even tell it directly may be she has no such kind of feelings for you. And she wants to be good by not hurting you directly. World is big my friend go ahead there are lot more people who will love you deeply.
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@Sureoi (176)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
Yes you are right, the world is big maybe one day I'll meet the girl that will change my life. I just hope that my feelings for her will subside so that I will not get hurt anymore.
@sanjay91422 (2728)
• India
4 Jan 13
I think you have to step a little back and give her time to think. Then take two steps further, girls are not logical in the matter of relations. If you really love her then you have to understand that there is a need of trust for both of you, so don't try to make it in a easy way and be honest with everything.
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• Philippines
4 Jan 13
she asked you "what if my true love will come in college?" by that i believe she doesn't love you at all.
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@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
4 Jan 13
It sounds to me like she is pushing you away. Like she doesn't want to have a relationship with you. Perhaps she feels her true love will be in college. Really though the individual were are more than likely to fall in love with are those that we get close too. I haven't experienced that before. But I hope that you will be able to find someone to love you like you love them.
@Sureoi (176)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
Yes, I'm hoping to find another girl that will love me too but my feelings for her is strong and I can't resist on staying away from her.
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• United States
21 Jan 13
Give yourself that time. I'm sure that you will be able to find someone. Work on yourself because that person may show up in your life sooner than you think. Don't get discouraged or down. Work hard to support yourself and be in a better position to help your partner/ start a relationship etc.
• India
4 Jan 13
Hi Sureoi. Well I can understand your feelings as I have went through the same situation. But I didn't give up. And I told her that if she is not ready to accept me as her boyfriend it is fine. And since I love her she should at least allow me to be her friends so that I can make sure that she is happy. She agreed and eventually when she realized that my love for her is pure, she accepted me. But then if she would have founded her true love, I would have accepted it as in the end it is her happiness that mattered to me the most. Anyways have a nice day... And never give up.. -=SuperShames=-
@Sureoi (176)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
Glad to hear that from you, my friend. We really do have the same situation. Until now she's still the one I love. I'm contented on what we are today, at least we still talk and have fun but I'm hoping for the day that she'll love me back the way I loved her too.
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• India
6 Jan 13
Hi sureoi. As I said before, you should keep in mind two things. First of all it is her happiness that should matter you the most than your own happiness if you truly love her. And secondly, never think that she is the only one you would ever fall in love with. There is always a saying that " If given a choice marry the one who loves you rather than whom you love." Have a nice day ...
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
5 Jan 13
She probably thought that it wouldn't end well cause you confessed on graduation and you will be parting ways soon. Maybe she does like you but the timing isn't good for you to workout. don't feel bad, if a window closes, a door opens. Take it positively, who knows there must be something better if you just became more patient and waited for it. Don't worry too much, in the end, we will all get what we deserve and what is due to you will be delivered.
@Sureoi (176)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
You have a got point there buddy. I didn't realized that. If I had said that earlier, who knows maybe since that day and until now, we are more than friends. Thanks for lifting my spirit buddy. Have a nice day and happy mylotting! :)
• China
4 Jan 13
Don't you think she is testing you? Do not give it up easily if you really love her.I think she is uncertain now and keeps asking you the question to get some answers.She may be a girl lack of security.And she is looking for it.She is afraid that once you get it,you would not treasure it.Try to convince her that you love her and she will surly feel safe because you will be by her side always. Good luck to you.Have a nice day.
@Sureoi (176)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
I have thought of that but the feeling of being pushed away dominates more. I didn't give up on her, she's still the one for me but I lessen my feelings for her so that when I get hurt, it would be less painful.
• China
4 Jan 13
It is so hard to say,maybe she does not love you or maybe she is afraid of being dumped when you meet a better girl.