Happy ending doesn't always mean "Marriage" (in the end)

@jaiho2009 (39001)
Philippines
January 5, 2013 1:44am CST
In this real world that we live in, "happy ending" does not always mean "and they lived happily ever after" Yes, not every happy relationship ended with getting MARRIED. AND....NOT ALL MARRIAGES- ENDS WITH A HAPPY ENDING. What matters in a relationship is happiness, contentment and security. Marriage gives legal security (financially in particular)- But, True love gives eternal security without material expectation in return. Every opinion is highly appreciated Have a great day dear mylotters..enjoy weekend ? ? ? jaiho® forever ? ? ? 1-05-2013 3:42pm Saturday PT
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28 responses
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
for me, anything that ends is never happy, anything that comes to an end is always sad.
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5 Jan 13
I think not all of it... I guess... How about finishing your project and you got a high score? its not sad right? :)
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
6 Jan 13
hello Penpal, Oh uh, there are ending/s that doesn't always end with sadness. Like what other mylotter below wrote - just an example. Same thing in every relationship/s, not all relationships that end means sadness. Let's say an abusive relationship...do you think it's sad once a woman call it quits? Anyway, thanks for your comment and have a great weekend
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
6 Jan 13
@xuy, Nice example, enjoy mylotting
• India
5 Jan 13
Jane beti Here marriages are usually arranged, our Hindu marriages are supposed to be for 7 births, divorce is rare, there is nothing like annulment; my faith is marriages DON'T END, HOW CAN A MARRIAGE HAVE HAPPY ENDING?[i][/i] YES, True love gives eternal security without material expectation in return--I agree. Honestly speaking i am unable to get highly philosophical topics Hugs from Dada
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@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
I totally agree with you, Jaiho! The most important thing in life should not be dependent on other's existence but with the inner peace that you have.
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
6 Jan 13
hello jenny, Happiness matters in every relationship- in any means. But happiness is not enough basis for a lasting relationship either. I have seen few marriages ended in separation, divorce and whatnot after long years of married (10, 20,30 and more) Sometimes it's hard to understand...but for sure there's a good reason why it happened. Thanks for your comment and have a great day
5 Jan 13
Yeah! I'll Agree to that, Life never have ends guys. we can't say happy ending or bad ending. Problems will always come to us as a challenge to us and become stronger in our daily life. Without any it, I bet our life is boring. Getting married is a huge decision. Its not easy as you may think as it is. Having a family needs more responsibilities. Are you responsible enough? Are you ready to pay your own bills? Are you ready to have kids? Do you have enough money to support your family? Are you a problem solver? These are the question that you should ask to yourself before getting married.
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
6 Jan 13
hello xuy, Marriage means big responsibilities and I agree with you, one needs to think many times before jumping into such situation. Being happy in a relationship is not enough basis to resort into marriage. That's why some marriages don't last long because some couples only think the sugar coating - and never check what are the main ingredients for a lasting and happy married life. Thanks and have a great weekend
@SIMPLYD (81467)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
Is that you in your profile picture, jaiho? Well, that's true. A couple can have a happy ending even if they aren't married. What matters that they love and understand each other. That would make them happy.
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@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
Ayiiii, Raja
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
6 Jan 13
hello D, Raja is right my dear, that's my daughter I agree and I have seen couples are not married yet living happily. While there are married couples living in misery. Have a great Sunday my dear
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
6 Jan 13
@raja, Thanks for the accommodating other mylotters while I am away
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
9 Jan 13
Hi jai That's true... we cannot consider that once couples get married, they're life will be perfect and happy. Coz there were a lot who got themselves locked in an unhappy marriage. What's really important is someone who will love you truly and unconditionally.
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
9 Jan 13
dear en Definitely and it's sad that it's always the woman who suffers most in such situation. :( That's why we cannot blame women who prefer to live with their partner for years before getting married. Glad to see you again dear
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
9 Jan 13
Yes dear I now understand why some women prefers to live with their partners first. At least when they found out that they're not happy or they have chosen the wrong one to live with, they can easily get away from that life.
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
11 Jan 13
I do not agree with live-in situation, but I admire women who never tolerate their partner's abusive behavior
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
8 Jan 13
HI sis!! In not that real world, they use that phrase simply just to end the story while in our real world like you said it is not always happy.If they put an effort to be happy I believe they will have happy ending before and after marriage- but its so rare~~(^^)
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
hello sis, Glad to see you again- Happy Holiday The happy ending is not all about marriages. In real life, it's hard to tell when what kind of relationship is more successful and how to tell if a relationship may lead into a happy ending as well. Thanks for coming and have a great day
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
8 Jan 13
Happy days to you too.
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
9 Jan 13
@akp100 (13327)
• India
5 Jan 13
Hi Jaiho Ha ha.. Yes Surely it doesn't mean happy ending each time. As far I have heard experience of many, real story jut begins after the marriage. Then people have to face those real and sometime scary challenges. Lol
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@akp100 (13327)
• India
6 Jan 13
Ha ha.. I hope jaiho take her wish back, I don't want to see you so serious. Of course I have seen it. When Govinda's son make wish for him infront of falling star that he never lie and that day goes like hell for Govinda.
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
6 Jan 13
@ akp, I agree- real story start after marriage
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
6 Jan 13
@ raja, Definitely my subject is a serious matter- but we can have fun anyway And...falling star? Goodness imagine a star falling on earth? How could it be when stars are bigger than the planet earth
@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
I agree with you - But I want to get married. It's every girl's dream to walk in the aisle wearing a princess-like gown.
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@adnileb (5035)
• Philippines
6 Jan 13
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
6 Jan 13
@ adnelib, Tell us when...so we can prepare our gifts
@marguicha (100279)
• Chile
12 Mar 13
I agree that a happy ending doesn`t mean marriage and viceversa. But I see marriage as security as a whole and not material security. There are many reasons why you can lose your money. But mutual respect and patience with each other are, as I see it, more valuable and it lasts more.
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
hello marguicha (^_^) I also agree that marriage means security (emotionally) And without respect- staying in a relationship means nothing at all. Thanks for your comment and have a great day
@KrauseHome (35522)
• United States
21 Feb 13
Well, it is true with many relationships, Marriage will not always guarantee it will last, even in the Best of relationships. A marriage is not something though people should take lightly as well. A Marriage is something people need to work on to keep it going, but many times it can be a happy ending. Some people have Happy endings who are single forever, so really what you want to be your happy ending in life is what you want it to be. And continue to work hard at it to keep it there.
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
hello Tina, I agree it is what you want in this life to make you complete and find true happiness. I have few friends who are still single till now because they choose to be (without the hassle and compromises) People choose to be alone because of contentment and that matters the most. Thanks again and have a great day
• United States
27 Jan 13
Somehow I Just Knew that I would have to choose love Or marriage back when I was about 13. I chose and Choose love. I'm living my happily ever after. A guy has found me who loves me As Is! He doesn't have to marry me to make me into whatever he thinks I'll be. I don't have to transform into a wife , whatever that means. We will Never marry and yet we are One.
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
27 Jan 13
hello sarah, I always believe in marriage, but from my own experience I have come to understand that marriage is not reliable for a lasting relationship. I come to understand why some people choose to live together without getting married. I come to know that with or without marriage- two people can live happily ever after. Thanks for your share and have a great day
• Philippines
13 Jan 13
hi jai, In this world we can't guarantee that everything has a happy ending There are people who are not married but they are happy there are married ones but got separated lately miss yah
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
13 Jan 13
Be happy always and that matters most Miss yah
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
11 Jan 13
jaiho2009 Happy endings certainly mean different things to different people...lol one can even get rid of someone they were fooled by and that would be a happy ending for them Men might say "dodged the bullet' women need their own saying...
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
11 Jan 13
hello stary, Separation or divorce also means happy ending Thanks and have a great day
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
Hi jaiho2009, I certainly agree with you on this. Most of my friends from high school used to make fun of me during reunions because I am the only person in our batch who is not yet married. I have a boyfriend but I know that I am not yet ready to enter the bind of marriage, and we are both cool with that. Last year we had yet another reunion and finally they have stopped making fun of me because while I am still with my boyfriend, most of them have already broken up with their husbands and are now dealing with the hassle of getting an annulment.
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
hello lady, That's what I am thinking upon observation. Married is not a basis for a lasting relationship. I do not agree with live-in- but I have seen many couples who are living together without getting married and they live happily compared to couples who are legally married. Thanks for your comment and share
@alottodo (3061)
• Australia
6 Jan 13
At the end of the day nothing is secure and nothing is for ever to me all depend on the couple if there is real love then love may secure happiness and contentment but that some times is not easy to achieve. Marriage in it self is not a happy ending as the couple still have to go through their married life, have children and so on and then cope with every day life if they can survive all this and they grow old together then I would say they had a happy ending!
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
6 Jan 13
hello alottodo, There are many things to consider in a married life and it takes great responsibilities. It takes true love to have a lasting relationship (married or not) thanks and have a great weekend
• India
6 Jan 13
Jai, you are right, not all the love or marriages end with a happy life, as you mentioned marriage will give social security. Not all the persons blessed to marry their beloved persons, some people are in need to marry another person due to various reasons and they are just living with their partner with half heart without the eternal security.
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
6 Jan 13
hello vidh, I cannot blame some people who agree to get married for "convenience"- that's what we call "practicality". I myself will do it for a reason (if given the chance) Thanks for the comment and have a great weekend
@jill2006 (32)
• India
6 Jan 13
Yes, you have given a nice discussion. I agree with you happy ending always doesn't mean marriage, after marriage also if happiness is not there whats the use, what important is love between partners and trust on each other, if love and trust is there than happy ending will come automatically.
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
6 Jan 13
hello jill, That's the reason why there are marriages that doesn't last long due to lack of happiness. I won't stay in a relationship if I am not happy anymore- yes, that's a waste of time. Thanks and have a great weekend
@mariaperalta (19094)
• Mexico
5 Jan 13
well said, dont need it to end in a happy ending and be married. We can become friends for life without getting married. Have a great day there....
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
6 Jan 13
hello maria, Exactly, some couple who lives successfully with their partners without getting married are happy, because they understand each other like friends. Thanks and have a great weekend
@natliegleb (5184)
• India
5 Jan 13
well said true love is eternal and holds more value that anyone would ideally expect and it means that they are in love and expressing themselves in the longer run and version of the game for sure
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
6 Jan 13
hello nat, True loves have different meaning, depends on every person. Thanks for your comment and have a great weekend