absence really does make the heart grow fonder...

@dloveli (4369)
United States
January 5, 2013 6:45am CST
My fiance left to see his family in Puerto Rico on Christmas Day. At first I must admit I couldn't wait for him to leave. Now, I miss him terribly. Before he left all I did was pick and pick. I must admit that I had been treating him terribly. I'm lucky that he didn't call it quits. Thank heavens he didn't. I'm so sorry for being such a b*tch. We have been together for more than 10 years. My love for him now is more intense than the first few months we were together. And all this because he took a 15 day trip. Love is crazy and unpredictable for sure. Has anyone else been through the same. Have you realized you loved someone when they left. What did you do? Please share?..
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@celticeagle (117834)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Jan 13
I think that couples need time away from one another sometimes. This is one reason I am for seperate vacations sometimes. I think that couples get into ruts, are taking eachother for granted, etc. and some time away really helps to put things in perspective.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
8 Jan 13
You're absolutely right! It seems so simple. However, for whatever reason couples tend to take love and closeness for granted. Iam so glad to hear from others that its normal but shouldn't be overlooked. Thanks for your input. Happy myLotting dml
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@celticeagle (117834)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Jan 13
We need wake up calls from time to time.
@mariaperalta (19096)
• Mexico
6 Jan 13
Is that so.. so you like the freedom but only for a few days? I think you are truly in love. Thats sweat...
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
8 Jan 13
Thank you for your diagnosis. I thought it could be love. I just needed a second opinion. You are just the opinion I needed. Thanks. Dml
@savypat (20247)
• United States
5 Jan 13
In many close relationships a little space will bring back to mind the emotion and goals you had together, daily living often over shadows with petty irritations that reason. Blessings and Happy New Years
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
8 Jan 13
Thanks for well wishes. Its good to know that he's coming home in two days.
@tiffnkeat (1679)
• Singapore
5 Jan 13
Do not keep away from each other for too long just to make the heart grow fonder. Don't forget "out of sight, out of mind." cheers!
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
8 Jan 13
Good point Tiff! I think I'm going to keep him very close for quite some time. Happy myLotting. Dml
@Sureoi (176)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
I too have experienced that. Although we are not in a relationship but still after knowing that we will part ways, my love for her is growing more and more every passing day. It's like my heart wants to go with her and never leaves her side. Before the day that we part ways, I confessed her about my feelings and I'm glad that she didn't ignore it but sadly she doesn't want to be in a relationship. I hope one day we will be together and happy for the rest of our lives. Have a nice day and happy mylotting! :)
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
8 Jan 13
Sureoi you are breaking my heart. I have been blessed and I wish for all to have what I have. Honestly, its best that she told you the truth. It would've been worse in the end. There is someone out there JUST FOR YOU. Who knows maybe shell realize what she could lose. Thanks for sharing your experience. Dml
@kokomo (1868)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
Yes, I can relate into that and I just felt it right now. I am in a long distance relationship and we just see each other if I have a very long weekend and a holiday break. He was not been able to go in my place because his work is very demanding with his time. Last Christmas, we've been together and from the day that I need to go get back here for my work, it felt as if it the ends of my world. I always want to be at his side. I always want to see him but we need to separate and been in love in distance because it is the right thing to do at the moment.
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
8 Jan 13
Kokomo I really feel for you. He's only been gone 15 days. We spend every other day together. For that I am blessed. You, too, will be by his side and all this will be worth it. Happy myLotting my friend. Dml
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
Distance is really hard but when we truly love someone love can make a way
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
8 Jan 13
You'be got that right. I'm truly greatful to have him in my life
• China
6 Jan 13
Wow,have been together more than 10 years still have those feeling,the love between you two is really sincerely. And it just a 15 days's trip,pls be cool your fiance will back to you very soon. And further more,since you two have been together more than 10 years,so when you two plan to get marry?
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
26 Jan 13
Hey Sky, You know what you said is true. We have been together for more than 10 years and I honestly can say That I now love him more than when we first met. I now see that he is a man of his word, he loves me for me and all the bullsh** that comes with me. lol. To answer your question, we were supposed to be married next month but during his vacation someome broke into our house and stole every dime we had. including computers, jewelry, EVERYTHING! Like we both said, we love each other enough to be married at the courthouse. All I need is him... Thanks again
@Arieles (2474)
• United States
6 Jan 13
I think absence can make the heart grow fonder if there is still communication between the two "lovers" I also believe that the heart can forget if there is no communication, no phone calls, letters, etc. I say, if you love someone, treat them with the love and respect they deserve when you are together and they will never leave you. If you fail to work at a relationship, you will have a failed relationship. It doesn't get any plainer than that.
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@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
People would often see the value of their partners, when their are no longer together because of the fear of not keeping the relationship. I think, I did experience that. And that is why, came back home.
@AmbiePam (48680)
• United States
8 Jan 13
That's great. I'm sure he'll appreciate the nicer treatment. He'll probably like it so much he'll be even better to you.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
7 Jan 13
Unfortunately, I've only had the opportunity to realize that I loved someone after they were gone only once in my life and with this particular person, I have to say that it wasn't someone that I had a relationship with. He was one of our youth leaders for our school youth group when I was in high school. I think that the reason that I realized that I loved him was because of the fact that he accepted me for who I was. Well, that was a long time ago and it is something that really doesn't have an impact on my life any more.
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
6 Jan 13
I always feel this every time my love would go back to work in another country. Sometimes I keep on worrying about how sad it would feel when he leaves. I can't wait for the time when the "leaving" no longer happens. Guess sometimes, we need a break from the routine to rekindle the fire. I do hope that the men in our lives (and women if we're guys) wouldn't think of leaving us for good. Have a great mylot experience ahead! Keep your heart still and never forget to show your love when he returns.
@gee1220 (10)
• Philippines
6 Jan 13
That is so true! I am missing my man! I said goodbye to him because he's like taking me for granted. He needs to change his action towards me. But now I'm missing him.
@natliegleb (5186)
• India
6 Jan 13
I have witnessed it even in the past and only at that particular moment heart beats fast and feeels a lot for the other person and the bonding affection is quite more for sure
@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
6 Jan 13
I understand what you mean and what you are saying. I'm sure that I would feel the same if my husband left and was gone for 15 days. I must admit that I miss him when he is just gone for like 24 hours or close around that time frame. I would hope that my husband would miss me if I was gone that long. I'm not sure though because we have been having our share of ups and downs.