would you have your partner followed?
By pomwango
@pomwango (1353)
Kenya
14 responses
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
5 Jan 13
If I ever thought I needed to follow a mate, id rather end it. If there is no confidence in one, the relationship wont work in the long run. Just end it.
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@ShyBear88 (59282)
• Sterling, Virginia
5 Jan 13
Why in the world would I want to spend my money when I could do that myself for free. No I wouldn't higher someone if I felt or thought my husband was cheating on me with someone else. I would go to that length to try to get someone to do it for me and pay them bunches of money to find out no or yes.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
6 Jan 13
no, i wouldn't go as far as to have one followed. that is an invasion of privacy (which you do have a right to in a relationship) and it's too creepy. i would hate to think that someone was following me. if you have that much lack of trust in your relationship, then you shouldn't be in it. it shouldn't have to go that far.
@artemeis (4194)
• China
5 Jan 13
No matter at what stage a relationship may be it would be considered to be extreme to resort to such a measure. Hiring a private investigator requires much financial resources and I do not think many people can afford it. Besides, I don't see any point doing this especially when it will not be helpful for the couple and the relationship.
Honestly, I don't think there's any relationship if there's no trust between both parties. If the other party cannot be committed and remain faithful, then one will need to reconsider remaining in such frustrating relationship. Would you?
@artemeis (4194)
• China
6 Jan 13
IMO, there's really no necessity to resort to this because cheating never last and like fire it will eventually consume and burn everyone in it.
To my knowledge, this is usually happens between couples who are entering a bitter divorce which involves issues like child custody, matrimonial assets, alimony and child maintenance. Where substantial evidence is needed to prove the cheating partner and get the defaulter to comply with the court's order.
However, there are instances where Pi's are hired by influential families to conduct background checks on their prospective in-laws. Due to the rarity and isolated nature, I felt that this is not worth the mention. A relationship is built on the foundations of mutual trust and commitment, it does not need such invasive to ensure the merits of a relationship and credibility of the partner. Also, the security of a relationship can never be ensured by such checks and no matter what methods are being used, dysfunction will happen when either party does not feel the motivation to continue or remain in the relationship.
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Jan 13
If there is no trust in the relationship then the relationship should be ended. I would never have my husband followed around like that. If I had suspicions of him cheating I would find out for myself, if he was cheating I would end the marriage...
@Arieles (2473)
• United States
5 Jan 13
If I had to hire someone to follow my mate, that would indicate that I didn't trust him. If I didn't trust him, there would be a reason. A gut instinct that would get the better of me, and I would just end the relationship. If I don't trust someone there is no love there. Having someone followed indicates there is a problem with the relationship. Once the trust is gone, the love is gone. I would save my money and just show him the door.
I just wouldn't do something like this. There would be no reason to. Having suspicions and doubts about the relationship is good enough for me to end it.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
5 Jan 13
No I wouldn;t pay that kind of money or time. If I felt that way, then something is definitly wrong in the relationship and I would either try to work it out with him or end it depending on how strongly I felt. You don't need proof of cheating in order to leave a relationship and you don't need proof of lack of it in order to stay.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
5 Jan 13
Not necessary. Cheating people always leave a trail, because they're too busy thinking they'll never get caught. They always slip up at just the right moment.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
Maybe if I got real crazy thinking about my husband having an affair, I would be the one to do the investigating myself. I could really go crazy sometimes, but I think I'd want to keep my sanity. If I found out that he is having an affair, I's first try to give him hints that know something. If he doesn't stop, I can always go to court.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
5 Jan 13
Although both of my exes did cheat, lie and robbed me plus left with all the money leaving me and kids behind with all their debts (I never knew about) I would not let my partner followd by a private detective. I think it's a waste of money plus I would recognize it (I did it at that time too) and kick him out.
@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
i think hiring a detective is such a desperate move. if you don't trust your partner, why not follow him yourself or confront him?
