Come to my party, fully prepared.

@allknowing (65087)
India
January 5, 2013 10:12pm CST
I am a party organiser. I have organised several parties for family, for my office, for orphans, for friends and so on. I put my heart and soul into the planning but do you know if the participants are lame my parties become a flop? Similar is the case here. If the topic is juicy, interesting, unique and what have you if users do not contribute by giving juicy, interesting and unique responses and/or comments it falls flat. Don't blame the OP but blame yourself if you have given half hearted responses and/or comments. Would you like to add something here and make this a successful party?!
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@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
6 Jan 13
I agree with you, allknowing. And I think that reacting to posts isn't just enough in expressing how a person feels about it. Sharing similar experiences would make it even more interesting to respond to again. And also, this makes a connection between members as well.
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@allknowing (65087)
• India
6 Jan 13
Whenever I MC a function I begin by saying that the organisers have done just about 10% and the rest is in the hands of the audience or guests. A party scenario can be aptly compared to what goes on here! You bring colour to this site jenny... Keep it up!
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@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
6 Jan 13
You are really sweet! And I thank you for considering me as such. But I do believe that you are one of the "lives of the party" here at Mylot. Coz I think that this site would not be a success without people like you who do make time to create discussions and share with all of us.
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@allknowing (65087)
• India
6 Jan 13
I am happy you like my topics. I do get encouraged when users like you bring life to them!
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@mariaperalta (19096)
• Mexico
6 Jan 13
sounds like fun.. you should make it a business and get paid for this. Many might need a service like that. id say you should have games for prizes. For adults and for kids. Makes parties alot of fun.. Take care there...
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@allknowing (65087)
• India
7 Jan 13
You know games are not allowed in myLot but interesting topics are always welcome But unless you participate and make the myLot party lively it will fall flat!
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• India
6 Jan 13
So you are a party organiser that must be exciting work to do. And you are right you can only plan the things but you can't make the people dance so if they are not willing to enjoy the party then no matter how well you organised, it will be a flop. Similarly you can only post a good discussion and to some extent try to make it alive but if the other members are not interested than nothing much you can do about it. Good luck for your party.
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@allknowing (65087)
• India
7 Jan 13
I have noticed no matter how good an organiser plans a party if the guests do not contribute it becomes a flop. It is no different here. A good topic can fall flat if the responses and/or comments are not well thought out. Some do not read the topic properly and their responses sometimes are haywire just as in a party. If you are asked to wear something formal people sometimes come in jeans!and spoil the show!
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
6 Jan 13
Whoop! Whoop! Ready for a party! I try to be as colorful and personable as possible when I respond, but there are times when I feel like a flop so my responses will reflect it. Kind of like attending a great party without the energy to enjoy it. Not nice.
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@allknowing (65087)
• India
6 Jan 13
You are not only a live wire at the myLot party but also a great hostess Jen.... Everything that happens here could be compared to a party where there are some who put life into it and some pour cold water There are some who think it is a 'wedding party' and come dressed accordingly. Some even think it is a place to mourn
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@doroffee (4230)
• Hungary
6 Jan 13
I think it has two sides, both party- and discussion-wise. -you have to know the target audience - like if you're gonna plan a party for really posh and stuck-up people, cardboard cut outs and colorful and tacky balloons just won't work... the same goes for discussions here... if the OP posts a discussion about something that may not concern everyone, they would get less answers -the commenters should take the time and effort into consideration... like if you only want to go to the party for free food, don't go, it's really much an insult to the planner or the host... it's the same as, if you don't have anything to say about the post, don't post just because you wanna earn money. Good party and discussion planning!!! :)
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@allknowing (65087)
• India
6 Jan 13
Just as there are live wires at parties here too there are live wires that bring life to discussions and yet there are dampeners who will take away the fire in a discussion. There are those who will deliberately not attend the party even if they are invited. We see that here too. Don't we? So was I wrong in comparing the participation here to a party?
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@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
7 Jan 13
I totally agree with you allknowing. A party is only as good as the people attending and a discussion is only as good as the responses. You can have a great discussion topic but if no one wants to give quality responses or just one line responses it can definitely fall flat. On the other hand, you can have a mediocre topic that can veer off in all sorts of directions and become quite interesting if the responses are well thought out and lively.
@allknowing (65087)
• India
7 Jan 13
There are so many aspects of myLot that could be compared to the aspects of a party or a function. Mention it and I could compare it. If it is a formal topic as would a formal party where one would have to wear formal clothes so too here, one would use language that would give it the formal look. There is so much participants can do here to make discussions colourful, and sometimes even pleasantly noisy what with colourful fireworks!
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
7 Jan 13
running by in "formal skinny shorts" and a sparkler...ok...so I tried them on.
@allknowing (65087)
• India
7 Jan 13
As long as they are formal!
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Jan 13
hi allknowing oh my hope I can add something bu t what maybe a game to play or a song to sing or just be friendly with thge other mylotters here.Try to make an intelligent appropriate response to the discussion and add my five cents worth,inflation you know, and maybe it will help interest others.Yes we should put our hearts into our responses as we all are sort of selling ourselves in a way to others here.
@allknowing (65087)
• India
6 Jan 13
"What we sow, so shall we reap" If responses and/or comments are good and interesting they will warrant interesting interactions. And the discussion will then be worth the effort put in! Your participation is par excellence.
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@allknowing (65087)
• India
6 Jan 13
Even at parties have you not noticed people just warm up the chairs and do not participate in any the items planned for the day or even if they do their presence is not felt. I do not want that to happen here.
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Jan 13
hi allknowing at parties if I do not know anyone I start talking to someone else who seems lost too then often we meet someone who wants to talk to us and suddenly we are all having a good time. Here I do a lot of what I call kibitzing and its really fun as someone else comes along and responds to my comment and I respond back and soon it a long conversation among many friends.
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
7 Jan 13
I am a day late with my comment, and now I am not sure if the party is something of the past? I trust that you were not let down allknowing. I was thinking that I wanted to come and dance for your guests, but now I am not sure?
@allknowing (65087)
• India
7 Jan 13
myLot parties last forever about which by now you must have learnt. Welcome aboard and have your further say.