Help me stop her bed wetting

@pomwango (1355)
Kenya
January 7, 2013 1:29am CST
my daughter is approaching twelve years and occasionally still wets her bed.i don't want to think of medicine but a natural way to make her stop.is there any good method that she can try that will stop her,i find its beginning to take away her self esteem since her younger sister makes fun of her.she is also prone to get further embarrassed if she moves on to high school and is a boarder and people notice this issue.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
7 Jan 13
Honestly, I have what is called Infantile Bladder Syndrome, my bladder did not grow with the rest of my body so its too small. I used to wet the bed up until I was an adult. It was super embarrassing. I was on medicine called Ditropan when I was a child. And that was the only thing that helped to control it honestly. I have never seen anything naturally to help it. I know how hard it was for me growing up with this, I feel bad that she has the same problem...I hope she outgrows it faster than I did! =(
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@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
7 Jan 13
thanks i hope she learns to control without medicine,yes it can be an embarrassing stage of life especially when you have to spend in someone's house.
@Mystars (57)
8 Jan 13
It is mental problem. When a child is about less than 2-3 years old he cannot control on urination, like their bladder upon to feel stress began to urge and urination is started. But when he grow and his mental power is developed properly, their mind is able to control his urination according to his will. But sometimes it happens that their did not develop properly, due to some reasons like physical stress or mental depression, then that site in their did not work properly and that habit remains in a child like infants. As did control on urination. This effect is automatically fix in intelligent children. But children with weak mental power is difficult to control without a doctor.
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
8 Jan 13
thanks Mystars, i will try getting her to do less fluids and pee even at night and when this fails am definitely going to see the doctor.
9 Jan 13
Also try to give her some healthy foods and vitamins. Avoid to give cold drinks. There are many benefits of honey you can give her honey everyday in the meal. Before sleeping at night mix two spoons of honey in one glass of milk and give her to drink. You will be surprised to see the results in a month.
@Mavic123456 (7910)
• Thailand
7 Jan 13
This make a little sacrifice on your part but could be a habit after soem time... Ask her to pee at the middle of the night. I mean... A bit wake her up and ask her to pee, then. Go back to sleep. Don't talk to her, just wake her up, be with her in the toilet and wait for her to pee then bring h er back to bed. You should also tell her that you will wake her up at the middle of heer sleep just for her to pee. I don't know if this ok, but it might help
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
8 Jan 13
thanks i will have to try this its better than forever washing her beddings and removing her mattress to air.
• Thailand
8 Jan 13
I hope it works. Are you sure your child has no problem t home or school? There were studies that some of reasons why there children wet bed. Try to find out too,
@Arieles (2474)
• United States
7 Jan 13
My son still has accidents as well. We tried the highest dose of medicine and t didn't wor. We just eliminate all fluids after a certain time and t helps. We also believe changing hs diet had a huge impact on how often he wet the bed. Good luck.
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
7 Jan 13
may i know what kind of diet helps bed wetting am ready to try out all this .
@Arieles (2474)
• United States
7 Jan 13
I eliminated all meats and dary . He eats more fruits and vegetables now and this has helped a lot.
@iva75cpb (729)
• Bulgaria
7 Jan 13
I haven't experienced that problem with my daughter, to be honest, but I'm going to share with you a natural way I've heard from other mothers that helped. They just put lambskin on the bed sheet and they say it worked miracles. And another thing - don't give her any fluids after 6 p.m., that matters, too. And, definitely take her to a therapist because the problem might not be physiological, but somehow psychic and can be easily removed with several sessions. I hope I was helpful.
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
7 Jan 13
thanks you have helped,explain how the lambskin works please.
@iva75cpb (729)
• Bulgaria
7 Jan 13
Unfortunately I don't know how it works, exactly. All I know that other mothers bedded the sheet with lambskin (where they get it from, I don't know) and the kid simply sleeps on it. But, after I read your post, I called my Mom and she told me what she used for me when I was a kid, so I will share it with you: Mix 1 tablespoon of grease with one tablespoon powedered sea salt until you get good mixture. Apply on the child's waist for about 5 to 20 days. My mom said it took her about a month but it worked.
@prashu228 (20211)
• India
7 Jan 13
Hi pomwango hello friend it is a common problem .I think we can try to restrict it by taking less liquid content during night time and more in day time,ask her to empty the bladder to max before going to bed and try to encourage her that she can over come it gradually .All the best
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
7 Jan 13
thanks i try but at times she will take some water with supper and end up bed wetting,i will keep trying to encourage hoping it stops soon.
@prashu228 (20211)
• India
7 Jan 13
Hey friend try to offer her reward like chocolate or any gift item she likes the most if she don't wet today then you will present her .It is just a try to encourage her .
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@jenny1015 (13394)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
Bed wetting at that age is not normal. Haven't you tried consulting your pediatrician about it. There must be some underlying issues that needs to be looked into. Just to be sure, have her checked.
@jenny1015 (13394)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
Sorry for double posting. It was caused by slow connection on my end.
@sanjay91422 (2728)
• India
7 Jan 13
I know that I never had this problem after I was of age 3 or 4, I don't remember exactly. I was told that I wet the cloths of my father when they traveled in the bus but I was of a small age, and even when I was grown my mother and relative talked about this incident in front of others, just for the matter of laughing but I think it embarrassed me. It is not good to make the fun of such incident and specially in front of the other people than your family. It can result in some social phobias like pee shyness(Paruresis), which I suffer. So take it seriously and stop the sisters if they make the fun of her.
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
8 Jan 13
thanks.i am definetly going to work on people making fun of her so that she doesnt feel more belittled.
• United States
7 Jan 13
There is nothing you can do to stop this you can do some things ot help her. like take her to the bathroom in the middle of the night. yo already try to empty her bladder before bed which never helps. there is always more liquid waiting o drop down. get her some plastic for her bed to save the mattress it is really not that costly. make sure she only sleeps at home. an have her shower good to remove the smell from her body. 4 people in my family wet the bed. the one who stopped at 8 was under stress and when that stress went away so did the wetting for good. one of the others is an adult and still wets if the stress gets to a nerve wrecking pint. the other adult I was aware of still pissing at 14 now he is 33 I don't know about still.
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
8 Jan 13
thanks for sharing,i will make a point of the night shift peeing and also protect her mattress as much as possible.
@yoniarnon (1081)
• Israel
7 Jan 13
I think that "i find its beginning to take away her self esteem since her younger sister makes fun of her" can be a major problem, i think your daughter need an Improving confidence so she will fill better with herself and she need less stress, You need to talk to her and tel her it is o.k. and she as nothing to worry about and it will pass. And take her sister for a short talk and explain her that it is not nice to laugh at her
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
8 Jan 13
thats very true ,i hear kids going through such dont need someone laughing or scolding them i will try get her younger sister to stop taunting her.
@Zer0Stats (1316)
• India
7 Jan 13
Well,what do the doctors say? Sounds like she has an immature bladder or weak muscles.Make sure she goes to the bathroom before she goes asleep and wake her up at least 1 time during the night to go to the toilet.
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
7 Jan 13
we haven't gone to a doctor but i will try waking her up in the night.thanks for your contribution.
7 Jan 13
I'm not sure if this is gonna work for her but you can advise her to pee before going to bed... If she drinks a lot before going to sleep, I suggest that she minimize that especially drinks that contain caffeine.. If she wants something to drink, make sure she consume it 2 hours before bedtime so it can already be eliminated from her body by peeing before sleeping. you can also try giving your child an easy access to the toilet or try using portable toilet. If she's still using diapers, it would be better to avoid using it to increase her motivation to get up...
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
7 Jan 13
the problem she is such a heavy sleeper that getting her to get up is a problem,i tried having a potty in her room but waking up is the problem.i will have to do with dealing with her fluid intake.
@imAbigael (475)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
I have cousins and me actually had experienced that problem, when I was a kid my family told me to pee on the bathroom every time in ready to go to bed, and it works time by time. But well I have a cousin, she pee on the bed until this early age of 24 maybe? because she never trained to set rules by her parents. Its on you, you can still control your daughter, you just have to talk to her.
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
7 Jan 13
by the discussions seems i have a big task ahead of me to make sure she doesnt drink too much water and then ensure he pees before bedtime.
@mariaperalta (19097)
• Mexico
7 Jan 13
Id say at that age she must have a problem. Have you stopped letting her drink things 4-5 hours before bedtime there. Give it a try. Good luck...
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
7 Jan 13
i will work on her drinks and see if it helps.
@Cutie18f (9564)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
Our ten-year-old would do that if she did not pee before going to bed. So when it is time for her to sleep, I would require her to pee first and the problem never occurred again.
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
7 Jan 13
i will try make sure she pees before going to bed,its funny at times you check on her in the night she is dry but does it early in the morning.
@vernaC (1493)
• Romania
7 Jan 13
I was also like this when I was a kid. My mom disciplined me by not playing too much at night and urinate before going to bed, perhaps you can do the same. But if you feel you have done alternative ways, just try medicines, her bladder might really need it.
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
7 Jan 13
i will try monitoring fluids in the evening.
@kabz_peg (27)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
That really is a problem. Some children are really unable to train their bladder faster than the others do. In that case, I think it would be best to help her out by making scheduled urination. Like when it's night time, ask her to drink lots of water at around six. By 9 or 10pm before she goes to sleep she'll surely void and you will no longer worry about her wetting her bed again.
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
7 Jan 13
i will try but i think even the amount of water she takes with supper is not that much but if reducing her water will help then i will try go for it.
@bellis716 (4807)
• United States
9 Jan 13
There is a pad made for people with this problem. It goes on the bed, I believe under the bottom sheet. The pad contains sensors that sets off an alarm to awaken the sleeper when the first drop of urine hits it. There are exercises that train a person's muscles to better retain the urine. Your daughter should also abstain from caffeine (especially sodas) and any liquids at all at least 2 hours before bedtime, 4 hours would be even better. Make sure she voids immediately prior to retiring..
@abhi_bangal (3686)
• India
8 Jan 13
Bed wetting is a natural process and stops with age naturally. There is nothing to be serious about. However, if the wetting does not stop even in teenagers, then the parents are likely to get concerned, as you are. But at times the problem can persist with the individuals even when they are teens or have passed the general age when kids stop bed wetting. It all depends on the bladder and how sensitive it is. At times, it is not able to hold the urine for a long time and more importantly, it does not send a message to the brain that it is time to answer the call. It releases itself without any signal. I have a friend who was waiting his bed even when he crossed 20. So, I guess the problem can be in many people around the world and your daughter's case should not be considered too serious. With age she can be alert and overcome her problem. But yes, it can take a toll on self esteem and become a subject of mockery for others. Your second daughter is younger so I guess she has no idea of what she is saying to her elder sister. Try to dissuade her attention from these things. And have patience everything will be fine!
@JamesKYTan (1607)
• Malaysia
8 Jan 13
You can stop giving her any drink to her at night. This also means no water,no fruit juices and no milk just before bedtime. Ask her to pee before she hit the bed. Try this and you will be surprise. God bless.