My Father's Mother has Died Yesterday
Kiryat Ata, Israel
January 7, 2013 3:25am CST
She had some sickness and she was very weak. To tell the truth, I barely saw her during the last year and I don't feel like I missing her. hmmm...even when my dog died I cried a lot and felt missing him so much. My grandmother was a nice lady that used to travel abroad and she wasn't living near us. My father had bad relationship with his sister and he didn't take us to visit his family. That's a shame that we barely see our father's family but, that's how it is. I can only recall some single nice moments I had with that grandmother when I was young. I once visited her after being interviewed for the army and I talked with her. I told her I was shy and quiet so the army decided I needed a psychologist. She told me I could speak to myself and tell myself I am strong and like everybody else and there was no reason for being shy. She told me to be cool, to be a man. I will remember her, but, I don't feel sorrow or missing her...
7 Jan 13
First, I am sorry for your loss. Second, I don't find it stranfe that you feel this way, because everyone deals with losses and grief their own way. Maybe it is too soon and you can't feel the significance of that loss yet - about this, only time will tell. But missing or not missing her, she won't come back. Like she told you, you are a man. Maybe it's good to keep those few nice moments you remember and move on. Once again, I am sorry.
7 Jan 13
Of course it's better for her to rest in peace, suffering is not an option. People who believe in the afterlife can only hope their loved ones go to a better place after they die, and for sure they're not in pain, reunited with the people they themselves have lost.
7 Jan 13
Yes, and do that before it's too late. Sometimes we start valuing people and things after we lose them, which is really, really bad. I mean, what you said, "I wish some of her experience would be learned"... That's exactly my point. Very often a lot of us take our loved ones for granted and sometimes we don't even pick up the phone to say "Hi, how are you?", for months. I've done it myself and I deeply regret it, but, fortunately, I came to my senses on time. Many valuable people live their life fully and leave a huge trace that is worth to be followed. For this, no belief in GOD is needed. Cherishing is in our hearts.