What comes first in your life?
@qianlizhifeng (468)
China
January 7, 2013 7:31am CST
Just a few minutes ago,one of my best friend came to see me,asking me to help him.I agreed to help him and we talked a lot about our life.He said as an ordinary person,we just led ordinary life in the city,so something ideal before must be put away.For example,several years ago,we had dreamed to do something great,but the truth was,we couldn't make dreams come true.Life was cruel to all of us youth.
He came up with the conclusion that people like we whose wealth was not large enough should make money as our first life.
Though I couldn't agree with him completely,I had no suitable words to convince him.Both of us haven't got enough money to make our life unworrying.However,a question still takes my mind.How much is enough for us to say we have got enough for our future.I'm afraid the answer might be that we will never get enough,because our standards changes as life changes.
So what comes first in your life?Money.or something else?
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@iva75cpb (729)
• Bulgaria
7 Jan 13
Not money. For me, what comes first in my life, is my daughter. She is only five, still young, and I've been trying my best to look after her the best I can, because she is the reason I haven's fallen apart yet. Our family and my counrty is in deep crisis, I am unemployed, my husband doesn't make enough money and we barely make it through the month, but still I can't force myself to consider money the most importat thing in my life. I have given up on my dreams years ago when I realized that I will never have enough money to make my dreams come true so I started to fight life every day just for survival. Then comes my family and they mean a lot to me. These are the most important figures in my life. My family's health is important. Then, the money maybe. It is never enough, but important part of existence. I hate the need for money, but that's how life is going.
@iva75cpb (729)
• Bulgaria
8 Jan 13
True, everything needs money, and I am experiencing it on my back. Actually the lack of money is what is stopping me from securing my daughter's future properly, but at the same time it motivates me to never stop searching for opportunities and fight for survival every day.
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
8 Jan 13
Money is not everything, but everything needs money. Hope everything gets better and better with you over time iva75cpb.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
8 Jan 13
At my age, I am in the early of 30, I would definitely say money should come first. It wasn't cheap to manage a living here, and I really have to plan for future. Even though I am still single, I really want to have some saving for the emergency. And I want to plan a security future for my family and my children too. I can't give you the exact number of what is enough, but I just want to make sure that I can make as much as I can at the moment right now.
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
8 Jan 13
That's wise of you kingparker. It's good to save as much as possible, getting married and having kids do need lots of money. Take a good care of your health is also important, you can enjoy things better if you stay fit :)
@dandan07 (1906)
• China
7 Jan 13
Though now money and time limit what I can do in my life, as I have to accept that I am an ordinary person, having nothing sepcial, I still do not want to give up my dream. I have planned a way to make my dream come true, now I find things are much harder than I had considered. But I am still on the way to the goal, I know it will take me more time to reach my target, but I think if I work hard day by day, I will get what I want in the future.
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
8 Jan 13
That's the way to go dandan07. We need to keep working towards realizing our dreams. Set your dreams as high as the moon, so even if you only realize half of them you'll still end up in a quite higher position than before.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
7 Jan 13
I agree with what you are saying. I'm struggling in the sense of it seems we are always behind. I don't feel that I want to be rich. I think that is definitely a waste of time. Like you said when a person strives after wealth they can never get enough money to be happy. They will have the feeling of always wanting more. So I feel it is better to learn to be content.
One thing that I think will help you and your friend is to have a savings. When we are able to take care of our basic needs, and have some savings for those emergencies we feel a lot better about supporting ourselves. That is one thing that I'm working on. We have4 to sacrifice our wants now for a possible NEED we may have later.
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
8 Jan 13
Buying an insurance policy that covers our needs is also worth considering. It gives us a peace of mind because we don't know what will happen in the future.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
12 Jan 13
Yeah I agree with you that it is a good idea to buy an insurance policy that covers our needs. I never really thought about buying something particular like that only thought of life insurance. But I will have to look into that. To see what would be good for my family and how much it would cost. Thanks for the suggestion. I appreciate.
@nat1_ong (150)
• Guam
7 Jan 13
What comes first in my life. Although, to tell you honestly, it was my family. Supposed to be it should be the creator, the one who made us who we are right now. But have you ever think that by loving first your family and those people you encounter with, you are too prioritizing Jesus and Father God in your life? That's why if you have a pure heart to love others, the way you show to God the real you and you give everything for God's greater glory.
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
8 Jan 13
I believe that whatever we do with God and love in mind would always give us the best result we deserve. Your point is valid nat1_ong :)
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
7 Jan 13
Well, what is the purpose of money? It if is used to enjoy life and help others enjoy life - then it serves a great purpose than itself.
Does your friend think deeply about the purpose of money. Money in itself can't feed, clothe or house people. You need to spend money in order to provide for people or for yourself.
We can accomplish worthy things in life - even without money. We don't have to be world leaders in order to make this world a better place to life. We can just go for a walk and pick up litter - that doesn't cost us anything except a little time. And yet, it can make this world a cleaner and better place to live.
Doing something - even something small like pick up one piece of litter - that makes this world a better place is what comes first in my life.
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@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
8 Jan 13
Money only does some good when in use, that's a fact. Yes there are lots of simple things we can do without money that can do others good like smiling at people, being a good listener to people in need....etc.
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@youless (112103)
• Guangzhou, China
8 Jan 13
Needless to say, my family always goes the first for me. Although money is important, but my family is the most important thing in my life. I just work hard for them. I want they will be happy. As you know, Chinese pay attention to it so much.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
Of course money is important for one to be able to sustain a living.
But for me, my family comes first. My family is the reason for my living. Money is a must have, but as long as we have some comforts in life, that will suffice.
At any rate, my family leads a simple life , so simple things and some comfort is enough to make us happy.
@sadmeow (34)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
when I first saw your question pop out on the computer screen. My brain instantly thought of GOD. And next was this verse.
Matthew 6:26
Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?
Just believe and trust him :)
Cheers!
@pomwango (1353)
• Kenya
8 Jan 13
the money will come second because you need to even know what you are making money for.you may work hard and get money to buy a big house then realise the big house needs a wife you will need more money for the wedding then after that more money for the kids so i guess plan your life and work hard to sustain it,money is not the ultimate of everything remember money can buy you a good bed but not sleep, it can pay for you the best doctors and hospital but cant buy health so be content with what you have and learn to live around that.
@echo060201 (540)
• China
7 Jan 13
For me, the most important thing in my life is my family. They love me with all their heart and so do I.
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
8 Jan 13
Family is indeed important. They are often the closest help we can get when we have financial problems :)
@mayrylflores (173)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
The most important thing in my life is FAITH.
Faith to God and to myself. No one could help you except only yourself. I had many problems and challenges over a year now but I can say its only me who will know how to deal with it. Money is practicality. We all need money, I can spend it, I can lose it but believing in oneself is not this easy as everyone had experience difficulties in life.
@iwanttoeatmore (2)
•
8 Jan 13
I think we are still in the journey,so don't give up too early.Its so good that we have dreams,if dream don't come true,so what? The way we try,is fantastic.
But if you ask me what comes first my life,I can't give you a certain answer.But not for money,I am sure about it.
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
8 Jan 13
When we haven't saved enough to cover our expenses, we need to put making money as first priority. When money is no longer an issue, then participating in social activities helping people could be a good option.
@waleeds (126)
•
8 Jan 13
First, i fancy living a simple life by setting little goals and striving to achieve them in order to keep myself motivated all the time. you know these little things in your life can make a real difference and never ever consider these things little as they are since each bigger task starts from the smaller ones. Besides, you mentioned that money makes our life unworried, i disagree since a lot of money make your life rather more worried and now you start to feel more insecure than before.
money in itself does not bring anything like happiness or satisfaction into your life unless it is not accompanied by the close and meaningful relationship with your loved ones. if you're enjoying money at the expense of losing your loved ones perhaps you might re-consider your strategy as it may not last too long.
