hot waxing your 3 year

By C
@ShyBear88 (59261)
Sterling, Virginia
January 8, 2013 9:27am CST
So I was listening to the radio this morning and Teen mom Farah if you don't know her she is on the Show Teen mom from MTV. Said that she hot wax's and plucks her 3 year old eye brows because she has a unabrow. Do you think this makes her a good mother or a bad mother for hot waxing her little girl? I wouldn't hot wax my child at all till she is old enough to choice for herself if she would like it done to her eye brows or not. I didn't do it till I was 9 and I don't get it done that often either. I can count the times on one hand since I was a teen/preteen. Now with my own daughter she isn't 3 for another year but I wouldn't get her eye brows wax or plucked.
12 responses
• United States
9 Jan 13
I am not even sure how these Moms are able to do things like that. I mean, actually get them accomplished. Do they do it when they are sleeping and just have a heavy sleeper? My son is almost three, and even if I was inclined to do something like that, he has his own opinion on the matter. Something that is painful and he sees no immediate benefit in, he is not going to do. At least, not quietly, and not without a fight. I think at that point, it would cross your mind that perhaps this is not that important. I have never been in that position of being ashamed of my child's natural appearance, but I would think just them having that pain for something so pointless, would be enough to stop.
• United States
9 Jan 13
I would feel the same way I had a girl. People in the world who feel no pain is a small percentage of the population. Pain sensitivity is broad, and there are even people who experience pain with a lot more sensitivity than most, though also rare. I am sure if that child had any of those elements, it would have been on your show. Though, I am not sure that still would make it alright. I meant, "these moms" as in women who make these sort of decisions for their child regardless of risk to satisfy some sort of perceived social norm. These Moms who can manage to get their child to be still for random things like this when other mothers are struggling to get their kids to do common child things like potty train, sit for a vaccination, sit for a hair cut and so on. I am sorry if you felt personally offended by my comment. I am just stating I am amazed that there are people who parent a lot different than most but have some of the most patient youngsters. I am sure this child was not having the most normal of lives anyhow, if she is on a television show.
@ShyBear88 (59261)
• Sterling, Virginia
10 Jan 13
There might be a small precentage of people that don't feel pain but even children have high pain tolerance not all of course. I've always had that high pain tolerance since I was little. Even with that of course ists still not right at the age of three. No the show doesn't show everything they only show what will make the best drama. MTV doesn't really show the good parents of these young mothers that are on the show. I just wanted to know what you mean by these mom's it doesn't clareify what type of moms or any moms that you are talking about that is why I asked. I thought you meant those mom's as is in all young mothers.
@ShyBear88 (59261)
• Sterling, Virginia
9 Jan 13
What do you mean by these moms? Not everyone actually feels pain. There are people born in the world that can't feel pain at all even when they are get hurt. I wouldn't does this to my daughter and most people don't care about boys faces as much as girls.
@jadoixa (1166)
• Philippines
9 Jan 13
i think every mother is different but as for me i would never do hot wax, pluck or anything my 3-year-old daughter's eye brows yet as early as that. i think kids at this age are way too young and should look the way as they are, just be natural and maybe i can decide to do such things or she can when she's old enough like in her teens. i think i was in my late teens when i decide to do such a thing for myself and my mom too would never want to do anything to us like plucking our eyebrows just to shape it even when we are in grade school and my sister's friend plucked her brows so thin for the first time in high school my mother got angry at her friend for doing so. as for this mother, it is her choice but it is certainly not good to do such a thing to her daughter at that age.
@ShyBear88 (59261)
• Sterling, Virginia
9 Jan 13
I think it's a bit crazy do that to a 3 year old it's too young. I don't even do such things with my 23 month old. I was about 9 maybe 13 when I i started plucking and getting wax. I don't do it that often getting them waxed because it's expensive and I rather a professional do it then myself. So I just pluck at home it's way cheaper. I choice when not my mom. I would do the same with my daughter let her be till she felt she was ready for such a thing.
@jadoixa (1166)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
yes, just let the kids be kids, a mother should not try to let her be like how she is or an adult is, some mothers force or do something to their kids because they think it is good and beautiful based on their own perception and beliefs, even if the kids don't really want it or are not comfortable with it..i would not do the same to my own daughter..
@ShyBear88 (59261)
• Sterling, Virginia
10 Jan 13
Kids should always be kids. Little kids at this age like some others have said don't care about looks at all they are too young to really worry about it. I do agree not the right choice for this mother to make.
• Canada
9 Jan 13
Ouch. She is obviously doing this because the mother is worried about looks. Im sure the 3 year old does not worry about looks at this age. I do not think this is right. She should wait until the daughter feels she wants to do this.
@ShyBear88 (59261)
• Sterling, Virginia
10 Jan 13
NO a three year old isn't worry about there looks they don't even know what looks are yet nor what they really look like till they are about 5 years old. I do agree she should wait a few more years till her daughter is old enough to tell her how she feels about it.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Jan 13
I honestly feel like there are some times that the things that parents choose to do to their children are things that border on being child abuse and I feel that this idea of hot waxing a very young child's eyebrows like this is something that does border on being abusive. That said, my daughter is ten years old now and I still wouldn't hot wax her eyebrows or even take her to a salon to have it done because I don't think that it is really something that is necessary to do.
@ShyBear88 (59261)
• Sterling, Virginia
10 Jan 13
I would wait till my daughter is old enough to really choice for herself if she would want it done or not. My mom waited till I was old enough. I went a few times to watch her get it done when I was old enough and of course I wait till I think some where between 9 and 13. I can't remember what age I actually did it at the first time. I've only had it done a hand full of times.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
9 Jan 13
I was also shocked after reading that article on yahoo news. I haven't had any waxing done on my body, but that's because I know it's going to be painful, and I don't really need such procedure that badly. I can't imagine how the toddler managed the pain.
@ShyBear88 (59261)
• Sterling, Virginia
10 Jan 13
Waxing it all depends on the person. If you have never had it done you wont' know if it hurts or not. A lot of people say it does but on certain part of the body it doesn't and for some women it never hurts for others it always hurts. When I get my eyes done it doesn't hurt at all. It itches for a little bit and a bit red for a few hours but it never hurts. It hurts more to pluck then it does to wax at least for me.
• Dominican Republic
9 Jan 13
very bad idea i think childrens skin would be more delicate and may even cause damage to it.\if the child become bothered about it at an older age it may be something to consider, There are some really bad parents out there has anyone seen that tv program about beauty pagents for toddlers - its worse that watching a horror movie(at least they arent real)
@ShyBear88 (59261)
• Sterling, Virginia
9 Jan 13
I don't know how sensitive a 3 year old skin is and I almost have a 2 year old and in my thoughts children's skin is only sensitive for the first year unless they have some kind of skin conditions. I do agree that a 3 year old is too young for this kind of thing. It's not as bad as watching horror movies and I like horror movies. I have seen Toddlers and tiara.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
9 Jan 13
I feel sorry for the child , I dont think its ok to wax such a young child . She is a teen mother and she should try and learn to be a better mother .
@ShyBear88 (59261)
• Sterling, Virginia
9 Jan 13
Because she is a teen mom doesn't mean she is bad mom. It does mean she needs to learn more because she does wax her little girl vs just leaving it be till she is older. Remember age doesn't determine how is or isn't a good mother it's what you do that makes a good mom or a bad mom when it comes to raising there child.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
Some women shouldn't become mothers. I think motherhood is not for everyone. Obviously, those moms in that show shouldn't be given any air time because they are bad influence to others. How they treat their children is obnoxious. Plucking your 3-year-old's eyebrows is crazy.
@ShyBear88 (59261)
• Sterling, Virginia
9 Jan 13
Well actually Catlin from Teen mom she gave up her baby for adoptions and inspired others to do the same and she is on the show after doing 16 and pregnant.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
11 Jan 13
What a stupid thing to do! Waxing a 3 year old eyebrows? The child doesn't even know what beauty really means. She is definitely not the kind of mom that we should be proud of!
• Valdosta, Georgia
8 Jan 13
I feel bad for that poor child! Ouch! I personally think it makes her a terrible mother to say the least. She should not be doing this to her 3 year old! That is just awful...
@ShyBear88 (59261)
• Sterling, Virginia
9 Jan 13
I do agree it wouldn't feel too go for a 3 year nor even someone that is much older.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
9 Jan 13
I would never do that to my child and 3 years old is beyond ridiculous to try that with. The child has very sensitive skin at that age still at that age. She is a sick-o wow. I would not even consider doing that to a child, once she turns 18 she is able to decide for herself if she wants it or not and then she would have to earn the money herself to get it. That's how I think. I just think some people are making their kids too old for their age.
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
8 Jan 13
That poor 3 year old. Children just need to be children. And especially girls need to grow up knowing that 'beauty within', is the best kind of beauty. We females are not 'dolls' and we are NOT Barbie dolls. Nor are we 'super moms' - we are human beings. Warts, unabrow and all. I raised my daughter to be the best she could be - from the inside out. She knows she looks her best when she has a sparkle in her eyes and a smile on her face. Yes, it is good to keep our bodies fit, have good posture and to dress nicely. It's good to look good - because we feel good. But I appreciate a person - and especially a woman - who s brave enough, has enough confidence and pride in herself as a person to willing to go out in the world, even when she doesn't look like a fashion model or a movie star. I saw a woman at a store shopping and one side of her face was deformed - either it was a birth defect or had been burnt. Should she stay at home? Should she be shunned by society? Do we make fun of her? Do we throw rocks at her? Noooo! We treat her like a human being - with consideration and a caring heart, just like we treat all human beings. So, let your 3 year old daughter be a 3 year old. Tell her you love her always and no matter what. Tell her that her smile makes her beautiful. Tell her it is important to be a kind and loving person for that makes people really beautiful!
@ShyBear88 (59261)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 Jan 13
I agree with you that a child should be a child while they have a childhood. Nope moms are supper models either we just do what we can. That is great that you taught her daughter that Zoe. That is great thing to do as a mother to each your child that are beautiful no matter what because that is what they where blessed with. Well one we aren't talking about my child but I do agree that Farah should be happy with the way her daughter looks and it doesn't help that Farah herself wants to change her looks because she is a model. My daughter is almost 2 and she is prefect the way she is. I know my not prefect. I don't even wear make up never liked it either does my mom. I do get my eye brows done but not that often that is why I can count how many times I've been on one hand. I'm 24 and I've only been 5 times since I was like 9 or 13.