When love meets love

@gwngsh (58)
China
January 9, 2013 12:09am CST
Love is beautiful,the family is valuable.We all hope to have a wonderful love,have a good result,but when our parents cannot accept our boyfriends and what should we do?Choose a boyfriend or choose our parents?This seems to be a dilemma,whether we choose which side,always hurt the other party.I was confused,because i seem to be too greedy.I don't want to lose any one party.How do I now want to know when you meet this problem will be?If you have the idea to satisfy both sides?
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@edvc77 (2143)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
I know this hurts for a while. You have to follow your parents. Your parents know what is good for you. I assure you that and you will not regret if you follow them. They have this parents' instinct. There are many stories that they don't follow their parents they end up with a wrong relationship and ruin their lives. Those who follow their parents have their blessings too.
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@gwngsh (58)
• China
10 Jan 13
This is not certain.
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@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
9 Jan 13
This is one the toughest situation anyone ever wish to encounter. If your parents has good reason why they disagree with your boyfriend- then I guess that is very much reasonable. However, if your parents only disagree your boyfriend because they want someone for you- then that is another thing. Maybe you need to talk with your parents and hope they will understand.
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@gwngsh (58)
• China
10 Jan 13
Conversation is a must,the reson I understand,know that they are good for me,but isaid they did not believe,just believeit from oters,I told them very hard to say.
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@sriroshan (2586)
• India
9 Jan 13
When such situation comes in one life most of the girls choose to go with their boyfriend but very few prefer to listen to their parent. I am not saying those girl choose to go and marry with their boy friend are not happy and those who choose their parent are happy. I can say to be happy in life after marriage, it depend in the hand of both the partner and the confidence, faith plus trust both have in each other.
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@gwngsh (58)
• China
10 Jan 13
You said it right.Happiness and not only each other.
• India
9 Jan 13
see first u try to convience your parents. it may be the hardest thing but try for twice or thrice. put your full efforts . you will succeed in that
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@gwngsh (58)
• China
10 Jan 13
Really want to like you said.
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@theoana (97)
• Romania
9 Jan 13
If you live in countries like India, where the family has a big point to say in the child's future, then your chances are pretty slim. I am not trying to discourage you, but you need to be realistic about the facts. It is very difficult to convince the parents there, but if you love the boy/girl you have to try. You have to do everything that's possible to demonstrate your parents that your choice is good.
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@gwngsh (58)
• China
10 Jan 13
I am so lucky,because I am not in India.It is not how good.
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@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
9 Jan 13
It can be tough if parents don't approve of your love to another especially if you see nothing wrong with the one you love. And that you do love the person so much that you are not willing to let him/her go. I think what must be done with such situation is to try harder to make your parents like the person you love. You may ask them to spend some time in your home, and prove to them that the one you love is a good person who loves you truly, which your boyfriend/girlfriend has to prove it too.
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@gwngsh (58)
• China
10 Jan 13
This doesn't seem too easy,likely is more far to go.
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@Iriene88 (5352)
• Malaysia
9 Jan 13
Yes, that is really a dilemma we are facing when we have to decide. I personally believe if the guy we are to marry managed to win our parents' heart, he has passed the test with flying colors. However, if we are very sure he is the right guy for us, we must go for it! Our parents will see the love and at the end of the day, they will accept him as part of the family. This is more so when we have children and bring back home to meet them. When they see the pair of innocent eyes of their grandchild, their heart will melt and all things else fades and forgiven.
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@gwngsh (58)
• China
10 Jan 13
Sometimes the role of time is really big.
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@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
9 Jan 13
It is really hard to be in between your lover and parents. And I guess the best person to choose is the person/s that will really make you happy. But of course we are aware that some parents could be just too choosy with regards to our partners. Sometimes, they just make up stories just so we can find another one that will suit their fancy. But if ever your parents will tell you that they are not fond of your boyfriend, think it hard and try to understand their reason, then you can decide.
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@gwngsh (58)
• China
10 Jan 13
This is a kind of method
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@myright (11)
11 Jan 13
it is very hard to choose,like you said.
@gwngsh (58)
• China
12 Jan 13
Yes,very difficult,so we must think clearly.