Eye contact

@jricky1 (6808)
China
January 9, 2013 1:04am CST
Eye contact is so important when we are communicating with someone.So i make eye contact with no matter people i know or not,this is a polite to others.How do you think and do you try to avoid even people you don't know? Have a good day.
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@Arieles (2474)
• United States
9 Jan 13
I am polite to everyone I meet whether I know them or not. I always try to make other people feel comfortable and look them in the eye. I think looking someone in the eye shows great respect for that person. It helps to make them feel worthy. Well, that's just my opinion. I like to meet new people and get to know them, maybe they will become a good friend. I would never avoid anyone I don't know.
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@jricky1 (6808)
• China
10 Jan 13
You are such a nice person and i'm lucky that i've met someone like you.Getting new friend is good while we still need to tell whether this guy is nice to be my friend.So good to you.
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
9 Jan 13
I agree. It is polite to make eye contact. When I talk to someone and the person keeps on looking away or cannot look me in the eye, I become suspicious.
@jricky1 (6808)
• China
10 Jan 13
Everyone would think the same,so i should learn something about how people's thinking through their action.lol,happy mylotting.
• India
9 Jan 13
Hi friend, i agree eye contact is important and we can easily find out what others will think using their eyes. Good to know that you make eye contact with every one. I too look at the eyes while talking with other persons and we can easily find out if they are telling lies using their eyes
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@jricky1 (6808)
• China
10 Jan 13
I found it's interesting that when the guy i like talk to me and i feel like really shy to look back.lol,this is also a way to tell whether people are lying.
@Iriene88 (5352)
• Malaysia
9 Jan 13
Eye contact is very important! It is a way of communication. With eye contact we can communicate more effectively and get the attention of our audience or the person we speak to. As you mentioned earlier, it shown politeness and manners. How we feel if someone look elsewhere when we are talking to him/her. We felt annoyed and not respected, right? Eye contact is the basic and basis of body language in communication.
@jricky1 (6808)
• China
10 Jan 13
Some guy may think that this is really unpolite to them if i talk but do not look into their eyes.Some are shy while some do not.Thanks for the advice and it's indeed an important body language.
@Dominique25 (9475)
• United States
9 Jan 13
I agree with you. When others don't make eye contact with us it's hard to see whether they are listening to what we are saying or if they care. Some countries though it can be disrespectful to make eye contact or look at someone for a long period of time. So those individuals have to be careful to remain respectful of others.
@jricky1 (6808)
• China
10 Jan 13
If a guy that i'm familiar with who is afraid to have eye contact with me,than probably she has something hiding from me,while honestly i can't tell from strangers.Anyway,this has something to do with respectful.
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• United States
10 Jan 13
Yeah I agree with you it's good to be respectful. We wouldn't want to offend anyone. So we just have to be mindful of those around us. In most areas it's ok for us to make eye contact with others of any age. Then we should strive to do that because it shows we are paying attention.
@Porcospino (18396)
• Denmark
9 Jan 13
In my culture is also seen a polite to make eye contact with the people that you talk to, but I think that there can be several reasons why some people avoid eye contact. In some cultures it is not seen considered polite to make eye contact. I remember a story about an immigrant from my country. It was a small boy and his family had taught him to avoid eye contact because that was the right thing to do according to their culture. His teachers got angry at him and told him off because he didn't look at them while they were talking to him, but in fact he was just doing the things that his family has taught him, so I think that it is important to keep the cultural difference in mind. Some people avoid eye contact because they are shy or because they are lying. When I meet people who avoid eye contact it is hard to know why they do it, it could be cultural thing, it could be shyness or of course it could be because they are hiding something.
@jricky1 (6808)
• China
10 Jan 13
You totally said all the reasons out.For example,i know i'm respecting the person but if i'm in love with a guy than i'm really the shy person who don't dare to look into that guy's eyes.lol,it's really interesting of that chemical reaction.
@WakeUpKitty (8706)
• Netherlands
9 Jan 13
There are all kinds of reasons why people may try to make eye contact. For example men who want to intimidate or humilate women. Or people who try to fear others... so there are also plenty of reasons not to look in the eye of someone.
@jricky1 (6808)
• China
10 Jan 13
lol,i'll never intimidate someone through my eyes,just as mylotters here said that it has something to do with the culture,so i totally respect that if due to that reason.
@averygirl72 (16620)
• Philippines
9 Jan 13
It's always better to make eye contact when talking to people. I avoid eye contact with people who are strangers to me. When I have a negative feeling about a person or has some bitterness on a person or mistake, I cannot look them straight at the eye.
@jricky1 (6808)
• China
10 Jan 13
You are right and i feel totally the same,maybe we should really learn to look straight into strangers eyes cuz they are not the bad guy actually.lol
@zabuqamar (138)
• Australia
9 Jan 13
Yes in the matter of fact it really is a very important nice way to deal with people, but for some reason some people avoid eye contact. I think its because of them being shy or something like that.
@jricky1 (6808)
• China
9 Jan 13
Sometimes i just shy to people and afraid to have direct eye contact with people.But anyway,they consume this unpolite.So i'd better learn to be natural even in front of unfamiliar people.
@cupkitties (7372)
• United States
9 Jan 13
Well its different in some cultures. Like some will look down or at some other part of the person when speaking to them. . A lot of people where I am they expect you to hold eye contact with them the whole time. That is just weird for me. No. I l'll look at them every once in awhile so they know I'm listening, but I refuse to stare. I do not make eye contact with strangers especially men unless I am speaking to them. Its not to be rude, but some people take eye contact to mean more than what it really is and then you end up in trouble..
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
9 Jan 13
I know eye contact is supposed to be polite. But in my case, it's quite difficult for me to maintain eye contact when I'm expressing ideas or feelings to people. I'm not quite sure why, but when I do eye contact and tell you something of insight, I wouldn't make sense to you. Is that strange?
@theoana (97)
• Romania
9 Jan 13
Eye contact is important in what concerns body language. It is important especially in conversations. I don't think that I try to avoid people that I know. I usually look people in the eye, but again, this may depend.
@ulan12rc (223)
• Qatar
9 Jan 13
It is indeed important because in this way you can know if the person is interested or focus on what you are saying. But if you are not communicating I think it is sometimes impolite to make eye contact for they may think differently especially if you do not know that person.
• Greece
9 Jan 13
Eye contact is an important part of our body language. If someone can look me in the eye I feel that they are open and trustworthy people. We say someone is 'shifty eyed' if they do not look straight at us when they speak and that is not a compliment to pay someone. It means they have something to hide. Some cultures do not like eye contact, someone told me that Americans have that attitude, but I have not found that to be true. President Bush looked into Mr. Putin's eyes and said he saw his soul. Do you think you are looking at someone's soul when you look directly into their eyes?
@natliegleb (5184)
• India
9 Jan 13
its quite important basically and it basically and essentially decides where our focus is on and how really we care about other person when we talk with so much attention to them for sure and also to be stylish and polite to them
• United States
9 Jan 13
Eye contact is important in conversations. Some people just are not confident enough to do it to people they do not know that well.