Do you believe in taking free Gifts from Men if in a relationship?

@shante2 (338)
United States
January 9, 2013 4:17pm CST
I have a friend that is in a long term relationship with her boyfriend, who they share a child with. She has this coworker that gave her a really expensive gift, as a present, do you think that that is exceptable? Do you think this is a catch , that he is working up to somethig trying to be with her, or buy her love? do you think that she should even be taking gifts from him, I think that she could if he does'nt want anything from her in a wrongg way.
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• United States
9 Jan 13
If it were me I would take the gift and say thanks for it. I would show my man what my co worker gave to me and live my life. I don't think there is anything wrong with taking a nice gift from a person showing they care. I would not expect him to look for anything in return because I have nothing to offer his tail.
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@jalucia (1435)
• United States
9 Jan 13
I hear you gifts!!
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• India
10 Jan 13
well i'm in a long term relationship with my girlfriend too and just a week ago I found out that a rich guy who secretly likes her gifted her an ipod! But it really did not matter to me or to her. I mean if there is love and trust from both sides i dont think there is anything to worry about! :) Its cool as long as we understand each other.
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@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
Why would her co-worker give him gifts? Was there any occasion? And does your friend feel anything about that co worker of hers? I mean, she should know if the guy is trying to court her. But really, if the guy is just wanting to be just a friend, why buy a expensive gift? The guy must be liking her that much.
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@cupkitties (7174)
• United States
9 Jan 13
As long as theré's no hidden motive behind the gift. If he's just giving her expensive gifts out of the blue and its not her birthday or anything then there might be a problem. Her boyfriend might have a problem with her taking expensive gifts from other men too.
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@jalucia (1435)
• United States
9 Jan 13
Just reading your title, my first response was "He** Yeah!!" But after reading your post, I agree with you. If the coworker is actually a friend or has a really good reason to give the expensive gift, other than wanting to get with the woman, fine. If the woman can't tell her boyfriend about it, that's a clear indication that it might be wrong to accept the gift.
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10 Jan 13
Hello I was reading over your post now as far as the gift this could be one of two things either the coworker has expensive taste and always spends money on gifts for coworkers or he has a hidden agenda for giving her the expensive gift either way her mate should be made aware of what was given to her
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
Yup, I agree...her mate should know as well, If it is secret,then maybe there is something there.
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
If she is in a relationship, it is not appropriate (in my opinion) to accept EXPensive gift from a co worker, that would not look good. Maybe simple gift when there are occasions, then it is understood. As respect to her long term boyfriend, she should not!
@mzz663 (2775)
• United States
10 Jan 13
I have a friend that has taken gifts from a guy she works with, he was basically trying to help her out. She is a single mom, raising a little girl on her own and she didn't have a coat, the guy bought her a coat, boots, things for the little girl. He is married and my friend found out his wife is the one that initiates his gift giving. I would say it really depends on what the gift was, what it was given for. I would think if it was jewelry or under garments, there would be some kind of expectations expected.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
10 Jan 13
A gift should be just a gift in any kind of a relationship. there should be no definitive strings attached. Sometimes agift is only intened asd agi t othr ties it is seen as a promise of something more.
@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Jan 13
No, it's not appropriate at all.
@34momma (13896)
• United States
10 Jan 13
I would ask this question before I took a gift from someone. Would my husband be okay with this, and would I tell my husband that a man gave me such an expensive gift. If know my husband would have a problem, then I would for sure not take the gift.
@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
10 Jan 13
It all depends on why he gave her the gift. If he is interested in her in a romantic way then she shouldn't accept the gift. If it was just a kind thing he thought about to get her because he knew she liked something particular then that was very nice. But from your comment you said it was a really expensive gift which most men would buy for someone they are interested in romantically.