Platonic friendship

@allknowing (61506)
India
January 10, 2013 10:29pm CST
I have somehow never succeeded in having platonic friends. What turns out to be friendship has gone beyond and therefore had to be curtailed. I therefore feel the word 'platonic' one finds only in dictionaries. What is your thinking on this?
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@rsa101 (13337)
• Philippines
11 Jan 13
Well I have lots of it in the past and so far we still have contact with them and nothing serious has had happened between me and them. We became close friends and so far no serious relationships with them except friendship only. I think that once we put in some other feelings in a friendship will end platonic relationships. But when you just do not put in any malice or special feelings it would remain at that.
@allknowing (61506)
• India
11 Jan 13
What kind of joint activities have you been in - just the two of you? Have you ever been on a holiday together, for example?
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@rsa101 (13337)
• Philippines
11 Jan 13
Well since during those times we were both single we were into parties and there are times I accompany her to home. Well when we go to movies we go in a group of course. I guess we were well aware of our limitations back then so I guess there is this instinct that tells us that we have on our friendship to limit ourselves to activities that would not endanger our friendship and allow ourselves to be emotionally entangled. So far our relationship had slowed already now that I am married. We seldom contact each other and if we happen to find ourselves online we chat or text but it stays up to there only. We are still friends but the closeness has ceased already unlike before.
@allknowing (61506)
• India
11 Jan 13
This scenario is slightly different in that your friendship was just friendship and not platonic. A platonic relationship refers to a friendship between two of the opposite s.ex with no desire for physical contact.
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@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
11 Jan 13
Maybe that could be true in a way. But I think it could still exist between a man and a woman to have good relationship without having intimacy.
@allknowing (61506)
• India
11 Jan 13
Not that I know of jenny! If there is intimacy it ceases to be platonic. It also depends on the kind of activity that one engages in. For example if they decide to go on a holiday do you think it is possible for them to stay platonic?
@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
11 Jan 13
Yeah, maybe you are right. A picture of my friends suddenly crossed my mind as I was reading your response to me. And I guess, no matter how much the two of them say that they are just "friends', we won't ever know what really is the score between the two of them.
@allknowing (61506)
• India
11 Jan 13
Anything else beyond a platonic connection is not healthy. They may as well live together and even get married! So as per my observation there is no platonic relationship at all. I have had that experience. They slowly want to hold your hand!
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
11 Jan 13
Is all friendships not where we give and take from each other? Platonic friendships sounds to me like the typical relationship with an acquaintance - where we just say 'hello' and goodbye' with nothing extra from either sides?
@allknowing (61506)
• India
11 Jan 13
Platonic relationship is a very close relationship between two of the opposite s.ex with no intimacy.
@camomile07 (1422)
• Germany
11 Jan 13
A platonic friendship is really nice if you are able to handle it. First of all, because this friendship is based on a respect which you hardly find in other relations. Second, not everyone is able to handle the opinions and comments of third parties as most people don't believe in such a friendship. So it's necessary to have strength. Only the time will show if you are able to stay with this and people will accept it only after years and years, but they never will understand it. It's something you only can understand it if you experienced it on your own. But it's possible. I had two such of friends but with the time and things which happened in our life, we went different ways. To one, I lost the contact. To the other one, I still have some contact by email, but it's not very often. All what stays is the reminder to them.
@allknowing (61506)
• India
11 Jan 13
"What will people think" is no doubt a reason to stay away unless as you pointed out if one can put up with that nothing like it. But within a relationship if one tries to go beyond defeating the meaning of a platonic relationship that is the saddest part. A man-woman friendship is more satisfying in that I have observed men respect women and their points of view on any subject could be quite absorbing and interesting.Unfortunately men often break rules.
@GardenGerty (96618)
• Marion, Kansas
11 Jan 13
I have tended to stay away from relationships that are supposed to be "platonic" because even if the people involved, myself and another, were truly platonic, there would always be people insisting it could not be, or would be people trying to push it further. In our society it does not work to be "just friends". Someone always tries to blur the lines.
• United States
11 Jan 13
Where you have nothing personal to do with the other person. I hope this is correct I did not check.
@allknowing (61506)
• India
11 Jan 13
It does not start that way but by and by there is a tendency to go beyond and when that happens one has no alternative but to end that friendship.