Procastination

@GreenMoo (11842)
January 11, 2013 3:16am CST
I've a pile of paperwork which I need to work through this morning, which relates to a really quite an exciting project that I'm very keen to get started. However, I'm doing pretty much anything in my power, including myLot , to avoid starting it. It makes no sense. I want this project to succeed and I know that the only way to get it started is to get those papers complete and in the post. So why am I sabotaging myself? Have you ever found yourself doing this?
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@wolfie34 (26877)
• United Kingdom
11 Jan 13
Maybe because you are in the wrong frame of mind, this time of year personally I think doesn't help, the January blues, all the build up of Christmas and the new year takes it's toll and now it's all back to normal, back to the humdrum of daily routine. I think sometimes it's the thought of doing something, but once you get into it, then you just get on and do it. The longer you put it off, the harder it will be to get down to it.
@GardenGerty (93476)
• Marion, Kansas
12 Jan 13
I do find that once I get started I will be okay. Now I need to get started and so does our friend. I have small things and large things that I need to get on with.
@echoforever (5192)
• United States
11 Jan 13
Procrastination is not good when you know you have to do something! I don't know why you would feel that way about it but I too have done this. I think my reasoning was that when I finally got around to it, the project or whatever would just stink anyway. Might as well just put it off.
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@GreenMoo (11842)
14 Jan 13
Yes, fear of not being good enough is quite powerful.
• United States
14 Jan 13
Yes it is! It can really boggle your mind if you let it.
• India
11 Jan 13
Write the project's name in bold and print it out.. or just write on a sheet of paper.. I mean in Big bolds.. and put it in sight or paste it on the wall that you are most likely to see.. and voila.. it will be in your face all the time, untill you really do the workk.. and it will certainly motivate you to do it.
@GreenMoo (11842)
11 Jan 13
I wish it were that easy! I have the papers sitting on my pillow right now ...
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• India
11 Jan 13
Aww.. Then all the best,, It's only you who can do it.. Good luck with your project though.
• St. Peters, Missouri
11 Jan 13
I'm the world's champion procrastinator. My psychologist finally helped me with this. As obvious as it sounds, she believes the reason I keep sabotaging myself is because I get a secondary gain. She believes I get more from not doing it than doing it Once I put it all into perspective, it's helped. Not gonna say I'm magically cured, but I can more honestly do a pro-con chart that actually helps.
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@GreenMoo (11842)
14 Jan 13
A secondary gain? I don't understand. How can you gain something from not doing something?
• United States
11 Jan 13
I am The Great Procrastinator. And it affected what I was to do for one of my classes last semester. As a result, I got an F for it and I'm having to take it again this semester. It was all my fault and I realize. There is nothing or no one else to blame. This semester, I cannot let anything get in the way of not finishing up...not even my tendency for procrastination.
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@GreenMoo (11842)
14 Jan 13
Blimey, that's not good! But it's been a learning experience by the sounds of it. Better success this year.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
11 Jan 13
I'm like you! I would have tons and tons to do, yet I'd find time to do something really counter-productive. Like I'd have chores to do at home, but in the middle of doing everything, I would sit in front of the TV and watch one recorded show. It's my 'break' from all of the work.
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@GreenMoo (11842)
14 Jan 13
A 'break' implies that you at least started, which I still haven't managed to do!
@p1kef1sh (45647)
11 Jan 13
Yep.. It's end of year account time. Do I want to do it? Nope. Do I have to do it? Yep. Is it difficult? Not really. So why am I putting it off. Dunno really. But...yawn....I think I see a cotton thread on the carpet. Better Hoover the whole house in case there are others......
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@GreenMoo (11842)
14 Jan 13
I've spent the entire weekend decluttering the house and picking up lego, which is so out of character for me it's astonishing. Anything, really anything, to avoid getting down to it. It's probably just as well I don't own a hoover.
@katsmeow1213 (29011)
• United States
11 Jan 13
No not really. I'm not much of a procrastinator. I like to get things done quickly. What I may do at times though is just forget. If I put it aside at a bad time and say I'll get to it later, I often forget to get to it, and only remember at inconvenient times like when I'm not at home. By the time I get home I've forgotten again.
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@GreenMoo (11842)
14 Jan 13
The danger with my putting something down is that something gets puts on top of it, then it's a case of out of sight being out of mind. I pay bills by standing order for that reason.
@dragon54u (31383)
• United States
11 Jan 13
Yes, I have done that! More recently, I kept passing the table where my bills were, avoiding paying them. I usually pay bills as soon as I receive them but these are not due till the 20th and money is very tight this month--I will have to pay them from my savings account and that makes me want to avoid them. I know they won't go away and no one else is going to pay them but I just don't want to see my emergency savings depleted even a little. I have also procrastinated on things I want to do, like get the house cleaned or go out and buy something that I've been looking forward to. I don't want to get started. But I find that when I do, I wonder why I put it off! Just pick it up and start. Finish one paper and see if you feel like finishing another. One step at a time! You'll probably find it's not as bad or boring as you thought it would be.
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@GreenMoo (11842)
14 Jan 13
Several days later, and I've still not started. Unbelievably, I've spent the weekend decluttering my house instead! It's so out of character that I'm wondering what's wrong with me!
@BarBaraPrz (18415)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
11 Jan 13
Are you afraid your application will be turned down and therefore, if you don't send in the papers, you can't be denied? Circular thinking, I know, but sometimes that's what's behind our procrastination.
• United States
11 Jan 13
That's what I'm thinking too. I've done this myself in the past...shame on me.
@GreenMoo (11842)
14 Jan 13
You're on the right track I think. I actually have to translate the papers before I can complete them, and as I'm not very good at it it makes me feel inadequate. Then there's knowing that to answer some of the questions I'll probably have to have some quite in depth conversations about what we're trying to do and where we're trying to go with my partner, which normally end in frustration. And of course, after all that it might be turned down. Woe is me! So now we've worked out WHY I don't want to do it, how are we going to get me to start?!
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@MsTickle (25006)
• Australia
16 Jan 13
I DO! And it infuriates me. It's as if I refuse to let myself do something I just know I will enjoy so I waste time doing this. I do it with important stuff too, not all, but sometimes. I have no idea why I procrastinate at these times.
@GreenMoo (11842)
17 Jan 13
It's so frustrating and makes me really cross at myself.
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@GardenGerty (93476)
• Marion, Kansas
12 Jan 13
I do not know why you are procrastinating. I am doing the same so when we figure it out we will get it done.
@GreenMoo (11842)
14 Jan 13
I think I've figured out why I don't want to start. It's because I have to translate them first, which will flag up my poor language skills and make me feel stupid. But they're not going to improve whilst I'm decluttering, or playing on myLot ...