My husband's friends forgot his birthday
By Porcospino
@Porcospino (31366)
Denmark
January 11, 2013 10:36am CST
Today is my husband's birthday and he is really disappointed because he only got one message on his Facebook wall and not a single friend has called him today. I try my best to cheer him up and we have had a nice day together, but the lack of messages and phonecalls bothers him and he feels that he is unpopular and that people don't like him. I don't think that he is unpopular, but it is true that some of his old friends don't contact them unless he contacts them first and some of them don't reply when he contacts them.
Have you ever experienced the same situation? Or how would react if no one or almost no one remembered your birthday?
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14 responses
@IntrovertShy (2780)
• Marikina, Philippines
11 Jan 13
Well, when I was in my teens, my first experience is I cried a lot. I thought, my friends have already forgotten my birthday, but I didn't know that they plan it as a surprise. They want me to surprise me on my birthday, he he. Now, I don't care anymore if someone did forget my birthday whether there are my friends or not. I open my mind that they have lots of things to do because of our work or its because of a busy schedule. Our lifestyle changes even friends from past. I learn it from my experience.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
13 Jan 13
I can imagine your feelings when you discovered that your friends didn't forget your birthday and actually wanted to surprice you on your birthday. I have experienced the same type of situation once. No one said anything to me and I was sad, but then I discovered that they had planned a huge a surprice party for me. I didn't expect that at all, and they really managed to surprice me 
I think that it is a good thing to keep in mind that people have busy schedules and might forget our birthdays because they are too busy and not because they don't care about us. I think that my husband's friend are busy as well, but my husband thinks that they don't care about him.
I think that it is a good thing to keep in mind that people have busy schedules and might forget our birthdays because they are too busy and not because they don't care about us. I think that my husband's friend are busy as well, but my husband thinks that they don't care about him.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
11 Jan 13
I haven't... but I only have one true friend, that is :).
Mhmmm... I don't know what I would do in a situation like this. Maybe your husband should acknowledge that these friends aren't the capital letter types of friends. And I would try to enjoy my birthday :).
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
13 Jan 13
My husband was disappointed in the lack of messages and phonecalls, but fortunately he still had a nice day. My husband wanted to spend the day at home so we did that. We bought some nice food and watched a lot of movies at home. I think that his friends or some of them are not close friends, not just because they didn't remember his birthday but because they don't contact him unless he contacts them first and that makes him sad. I understand that and I think that it is important that both friends make an effort and both take the initiative if they want to keep the friendship alive.
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
11 Jan 13
Porcospino
Well say Happy Birthday from me to your Husband
Seems to me men are bad about Birthdays..unless you remind them...If he really feels they are his friends then forgetting a Birthday doesn't seem to me a huge deal...unless for years everyone remembered and all of a sudden did not? He just might be one of those guys who has a habit of trying to remember others Birthdays and expects the same for himself...but not all men are that way.
Next year perhaps he could give a heads up a week or so before his birthday and mention something he plans to do...that might remind some people to remember...
At least his family (you) remembered...
Seems to me men are bad about Birthdays..unless you remind them...If he really feels they are his friends then forgetting a Birthday doesn't seem to me a huge deal...unless for years everyone remembered and all of a sudden did not? He just might be one of those guys who has a habit of trying to remember others Birthdays and expects the same for himself...but not all men are that way.
Next year perhaps he could give a heads up a week or so before his birthday and mention something he plans to do...that might remind some people to remember...
At least his family (you) remembered...1 person likes this
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
11 Jan 13
My husband is sitting next to me now. I told him that you wished him happy birthday and he asked me to thank you Yes, he usually tries to remember other people's birthdays and he expects other people to do the same thing, but some people aren't good at remembering birthdays, that is true. It is also a Friday night today and it possible that few people are online night. Maybe his friend didn't see his birthday on Facebook. At least we had a nice evening together and I hope that was able to cheer him up.
Yes, he usually tries to remember other people's birthdays and he expects other people to do the same thing, but some people aren't good at remembering birthdays, that is true. It is also a Friday night today and it possible that few people are online night. Maybe his friend didn't see his birthday on Facebook. At least we had a nice evening together and I hope that was able to cheer him up.
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
11 Jan 13
Perhaps next year, you could ask some of his friends and relatives to send him a birthday greeting. Or put a great big Birthday Greeting to him on Facebook for all his friends to see. Be sure to post it a few days before his Birthday to give his friends a chance to reply.
One year, the first Birthday greeting I got was from my real estate agent that helped my husband and I buy our house. I didn't get a Birthday card from all of my siblings, even though I had send them each a Birthday card. It was disappointing and I understand what your husband is feeling.
This year my Birthday will happened to be on the same day I am going to a luncheon meeting. I think when I RSVP, I will just mentioned that it just happens to be my Birthday. I am sure then, that someone will say 'Happy Birthday' to me. I don't like to bring attention to myself, but a gentle reminder, ummm.... is probably OK.
It's sad when we don't think of others, but it did teach me to be more sensitive to others as well and to make a point of remembering other people's Birthdays.
HAPPY, HAPPY, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOUR HUSBAND!!!!!!
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
11 Jan 13
Thank you Yes, maybe I should do that next year. I didn't write anything about his birthday on Facebook this year because I talk to him every day, but maybe that could inspire some of his friends to remember his birthday next year. I understand that you got disappointed when you didn't get a birthday card from your siblings after sending them cards. I would have felt the same way. I think that it situations like this could teach us all something. I am going to write all the birthday in my new calendar and hopefully I will be able to remember them all that way.
Yes, maybe I should do that next year. I didn't write anything about his birthday on Facebook this year because I talk to him every day, but maybe that could inspire some of his friends to remember his birthday next year. I understand that you got disappointed when you didn't get a birthday card from your siblings after sending them cards. I would have felt the same way. I think that it situations like this could teach us all something. I am going to write all the birthday in my new calendar and hopefully I will be able to remember them all that way.
@sunshinesophie (794)
• China
13 Jan 13
I do not think your husband is not popular.They may have a poor memory to keep these things in mind as they are busy with the work.I know,if I were your husband,I would feel frustrated as well.But try to understand them,they don't mean to actually.I think interaction is important in a friendship,so if they don't always contact your husband till your husband contact them,I don't think they are very good friends.I am sorry if anything I said offends you.
Snyway,have a nice day.Wish joy be with you always.
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@reddog25770 (212)
• United States
11 Jan 13
Happy Birthday to your hubby,
So sorry that his friends forgot. Maybe they just haven't gotten to wishing him a happy birthday yet.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
11 Jan 13
Thank you from my husband Yes, it is still possible that some of them will write or call later. I hope that they will do that. It is Friday evening so it is possible that they are few people online tonight and maybe they didn't see his birthday on Facebook.
Yes, it is still possible that some of them will write or call later. I hope that they will do that. It is Friday evening so it is possible that they are few people online tonight and maybe they didn't see his birthday on Facebook.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
11 Jan 13
I think maybe people just forget someones birthday. It is very easy when living your life everyday. Maybe also the friends have not gotten on facebook to see who's birthday it is. There are many times I would forget someones birthday especially a friend. When you have a lot of family and friends its very easy to forget. Today is my daughters birthday but of course I didn't forget because she is my daughter. lol lol I don't really get upset if people don't wish me a happy birthday. Especially people that I don't see all the time. Its not a big deal to me. Now if my daughters or my parents didn't call then I would be a bit upset. However not if a friend forgot.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
11 Jan 13
Happy Birthday to your hubby 
It's really sad when people especially our friends forgot our birthday.
I am happy that my Facebook account is flooded with messages on my birthday.
Some close friend and families greeted me on the very hour of my birth date and that was really sweet of them.
Hope your husband is feeling good now- I am sure your presence is good enough
It's really sad when people especially our friends forgot our birthday.
I am happy that my Facebook account is flooded with messages on my birthday.
Some close friend and families greeted me on the very hour of my birth date and that was really sweet of them.
Hope your husband is feeling good now- I am sure your presence is good enough 
@fannitia (2167)
• Bulgaria
11 Jan 13
Happy Birthday to your husband! I'm sorry that he was sad at this day. But life has become so stressful and busy that people forget birthdays and holidays. Years ago we used to celebrate our birthdays with friends. Now everything is too expensive and we are too busy. I don't have time to open my Facebook and I don't celebrate my birthday like I used to. And the contacts with most of my friends are what you describe. I wish your husband all the best, he should be happy that he has you!
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@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
12 Jan 13
Fortunately, my family and close friends always remember my birthday. And on Facebook, the friends who often communicate with me always write the wish on my wall. However, if they happen to forget to wish me birthday, I won't think about it so hard. The most important thing is that my family still remembers and I won't forget to thank God for another year of my life and I wish that it's going to be greater than before. That's what I think...
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@Arieles (2473)
• United States
12 Jan 13
I sure have. My ex-husband forgot my birthday (I don't think he forgot he just didn't acknowledge my birthday, he is real good at those date things). Anyways, it was my 32nd birthday, and he didn't say "happy birthday" didn't get me a card, there was nothing, no acknowledgement of my birthday what so ever. I was so sad and disappointed in him. I did get him a card for his birthday, needless to say, our marriage ended in a divorce. As far as friends go, it doesn't matter if they wish me a happy birthday or not. I want my friends to contact me all the time, not just on my birthday.
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@edvc77 (2140)
• Philippines
12 Jan 13
Hi Porcospino,
Happy Birthday to your husband. It is my birthday today too. :-) In my case, my two friends remembered my birthday in advance and greeted me in advance. Though I wonder they did not know my exact birthday I still thank them for remembering at least they know the month. :-) It is really kind of sad when some of your friends cannot remember your birthday. Cheer him up. Anyway he has you and his family to be with him on his birthday. That's matter most. :-)
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@anshu23 (147)
• India
12 Jan 13
Everyone is so busy now a days that they won't call instead they just post on social media sites like facebook on any of events. It happened to me also that one of my close relatives did not wish me but posted a note on my facebook page. Most of the time they remember but don't wish or call . I think it is very bad of someone to not call as it hurts our feeling.Even if it is late they should at least call us.
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@PiaAngela (79)
• Philippines
12 Jan 13
Happy Birthday To Your Husband.
Oh of course, I will feel bad if no one remembers my birthday, esp. those who are close to me.
Some friends dont really take note or remember their friends bday not unless they celebrate each year.
My bestfriend knows my birthday month but not the exact date, which is fine with me.
Does your husband calls his friend to great them on their birthdays?
Not all of my friend knows my birthday and its not even on facebook. So only those really close knows it and texted me.
Oh, to make your husband feels much better, My Mom even forget my birthday one time...and I just let it slide and she remembers the next day, I got teary eyes but we cant really expect them to be what they are not.
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