Where is Acceptance?

oh echo you sound like I used to as I just wanted once to hear my dad say I did really well.If I got a b he would just growl and say why did you not get an a.so for years I waited for him just once to say he was proud of me. Never happened but I married and my hubby was everything I had always wanted in a mate., He taught me to accept myself and to tell myself I was somebody and that I was unique and that I liked myself. Then I was really free so when I gave my father a grandson he told me he was proud of me,. I almost fainted. So echo you have to be proud of yourself first then maybe so me of your family might just change. We are all supposed to love each other but some may never have read the book. but did you ever tell them what they make you feel like as theyh may just be thoughtless and not realizing how m uch they hurt youtalk tol them heart to heart.

What you miss on your way to be an individual is the love for yourself. You are not independent because you are waiting for the agreements, the love, the approvement, the compliments of the world around you. Your family, your society. But an individual should be who he is. Should love and believe in himself. Take care of himself. Be happy with himself, compliment himself for who he is. If you do not accept yourself for real for the great person you are, nobody will. It's not important what others say or think about you. It's important what you say and think about yourself. Since you are the one who has to live with you this whole life.

Oh how easy it is for other people to judge, isn't it? Have they been like this all your life? A long, long time ago in a galaxy far away, people judged you by how much you possessed. But you know what..the more common, normal people that only have minimal are by far the happiest I think because we CAN do this. They're the one's that know how beautiful the sun looks like when it comes up in the morning and colors the sky in the evening going down. They know what the birds sound like on a beautiful spring day. They know what it's like to not have a car, but get through the day anyway without one. They know how to get along without a job and how hard it is....which makes for a better person in the long run. The harder it is for us all, the more human we become. And things that other people think is just plain horrible and they can't deal with are like not having cable tv, or they're out of their car for a few days because it's in the repair shop, or they're having a bad hair day.....this stuff is so ridiculous to us and so petty that we brush them off and roll our eyes at them and think "Are you kidding me?". Actually, we're the lucky one's Echc because we have feelings. All I can say is we love you here echo, regardless of what you have or don't have. We will be your family and help you as much as we can to get through life's problems......all you need to do is ask.

With your basketball career that time, maybe it was just not the right time for you to shine. Now about your life now, if you have worries like these, have you tried talking to any member of your family about what you are feeling? I mean, our families should be the first people to notice if we are happy or sad. So how come they seem to take you for granted?

People judge. That's what they do. I think we have to stop thinking "why can't they just accept us?" and turn it into "why can't they be us?". I mean, maybe they are just jealous because we can accept who we are and enjoy our lives with what we have while they can't. So this might be unfair for them as well. Have you ever thought about this? So here's what I do if I were you. I will keep doing what I do because I feel comfortable with it. If they can't understand me, I'll just ignore them. If I have a chance to talk, I'll talk to them about what I feel. If they can't understand me, the hell with that. It's my life.

Acceptance? Sounds simple doesn't it? we are all guilty of not accepting other people - I like to think of myself as a very accepting person, but I would imagine that if I delved deeper and thought about it for a length of time I would guess that there are one or two things that I would find difficult to accept... I don't think that makes me a bad person, it makes me honest. I believe that on the whole we can be more accepting - Leave ancient texts and outdated opinions in the past and think for ourselves and stop judging

I think there is a stage in one's life when one over-thinks everything. I think you are doing fine. Being who you are and loving what you have are keys to happiness. We should not judge others by his or her material possessions for these things are only temporary.

Some people need "stuff" to make themselves happy in life. The stronger, more intelligent people can be happy without the "stuff" to clutter their lives. I am happy with anything I have and don't need more "stuff" to make me happy. I can adapt to almost any situation. I think this has helped me in my life... Someone I am close to once said to me, I don't know how you live the way you do. You always have to sell things because you need the money. I told her its simple, these are just things that I really don't need so giving them up is not that difficult for me to do... I can always buy more things if I have the extra money to do so. To me "stuff" doesn't mean true happiness. But people base your "stuff" on what kind of person you are. I personally think it is wrong but I think 90% of people are like this... If you don't have a car, job or a house of your own your garbage. What shallow people they are!

Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well i can understand your situation and i think we should never bank on others to see how we are accepted because it will always give disappointed and dejection to us. We should not wait for someone to give us a certificate as to what they like or dislike about us. If u are happy with yourself then u will stay happy forever. Do not think about such things and live your life in your own terms. What say?