How to talk to a stranger ?
January 12, 2013 7:49am CST
I have a friend who are doing business now.He is good at talking to strangers when we outside.I want to be a person like him,but when I meet strangers I just don't kown what to talk about.I can be a listener,but when I talk my own points the problem is that is it a right point or a confusion idea.Could you give me some advice? thank you .
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12 Jan 13
Good listening skills are the most important skill to have. That way you will learn a lot about the stranger. each time you listen you are arming yourself with info. If you have nothing to say just repeat some of the info given by the stranger. If he laps it up be prepared if he starts liking you more. Most people like to hear what they want to hear. With a stranger it is always better to listen and assess the person. If you say something that he wants to listen you will gain his confidence fast. If you think you don't converse well, don't worry. Most people are like that and don't necessarily like or agree with the confident and popular verbal communicator.
12 Jan 13
You can't be like your friend since you are you and not your friend. Even if you would say exactly the same words/line it would look different and people would feel it's "fake" behaviour (so not you/natural) as well. I don't know to which strangers your friend is talking. Because of his business? Than he already has something to talk about. Personally I would not like a stranger start talking to me about ... or ... If you have no business with them the only thing you can do is greet, wishing a great day, smile and see how the other one is responding. It will depend on the stranger, gender and your whole performance if people will be open to you or will see you as a not interesting or even a "stalker". If you join your friend he can introduce you to the strangers as well to start with.
12 Jan 13
Always be serious and act mature if you aren't mature because people don't like silly people especially if they are not their friends or know each other, but not too serious and angry because that also isn't nice. just be normal and be your self !
23 Jan 13
No problem for me and start hello and ask you are from this place(like from Akola) then he/she says no no I am from another place (Wardha) then I say ohhh I feel I see you in Akola then start talking hehee...I cant talk with anybody... no confusion.
13 Jan 13
Well, I think , to start off, ask something about himself/herself. Coz by doing so, the other person would think that you are really interested to start a conversation. Then think of things that you'd probably want to share with him/her. Then you'd find out if you have other things in common.
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13 Jan 13
I agree, you can't be just like your friend, but you can learn to be more outgoing with strangers, in your own way. One of the easiest topics to first talk about with strangers, is the weather. You could say, 'How do you like all this rain?' or 'Isn't it hot today?' or 'I wish it would rain today, we sure could do with some rain for the crops.' and so on. Or you could talk about a local sports team. 'Wasn't that a great game?' I was very shy when I was younger and over the years, learned to be more confident in myself and learned to reach out to others. You want to have a dialog with people, not only listen but also share about yourself. So, it needs to be a balance. There are times when you do more listening and other times, when you do more sharing. It can be confusing at times and no one gets it right all the time. We have all experienced when we haven't been good listeners. So, don't worry about yourself so much. Sometimes, joining a club can help you to reach out to strangers. Is there a business club that you can join? Hope this helps you. All the best to you.