Morals

@allknowing (65047)
India
January 12, 2013 10:19pm CST
What is your definition of morals. Do you go by what your religion dictates or do you desist from doing things because they are illegal? Or do you not do things because you will be ostracised by society, family and friends. Or do you do anything clandestinely so that none of these restrictions apply to you and you are accepted as a law abiding, dignified citizen?
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@vandana7 (64807)
• India
13 Jan 13
I have a different set of morals I think. I believe it is important not to hurt another person as far as possible. Second rule, if you are hurt, you warn the person, that you are getting hurt. Third rule, if the person continues to hurt you, knowing fully well that he or she is hurting you, then retaliate. Apart from this...morals in the area of love are...be fair, be caring, be honest. In area of finances too..be fair, be honest. That is about all the morals I have. lol
@allknowing (65047)
• India
14 Jan 13
Not hurting another stand out vandana but at the same time we need to see that we don't hurt ourselves in the bargain. The demands of another to remain unhurt could be preposterous sometimes. There are standards set by society around us. Perhaps those could be the yardsticks to follow. And last but not the least our own conscience tells us what is right and what is wrong.
@vandana7 (64807)
• India
14 Jan 13
There was a time when people realized that something would hurt others. Nowadays, people have less time to think about others. At times, their social life is such that they cannot spare time for a thought. So when another person says something or does something that hurts me, I give the person a fair chance. If the person continues to hurt me, or brushes off my no and persists with the unacceptable behavior then yes, I do react badly, and badly enough so that the person does not dare to repeat such things with any other person in future. Object is, nobody else should go through the agony that I went through because of those words, or actions. Of course, I am always in control. But yes, abusive deliberately so that the person for christ's sake listens. If normal no is not catching the attention or is being brushed off lightly as a joke...or even telling me that I should change my thinking, then I do feel their thinking needs to be changed so that the world becomes a more amicable place. Then to catch their attention, I do use wrong words...so that they can remember the thing and hopefully help me by repeating the incident to ten people thereby create a cascading effect of matter that forces others to watch out for such behavior. Effectively, I dont end up pleading with 100 different people saying ...hey it hurts...when you tell me on my face that I dont have kids so I should adopt your kid. Or since I have nobody I should opt for your son to be my caregiver..or since I dont have kids, why dont I write my properties to a drunkard's kid. First and foremost, it is the drunkard who needs to be brought to the route, not me. Time people started thinking in those lines, instead of taking an easy way out. We all have our personal problems - just because I have not mentioned them does not mean that I dont have any.
@allknowing (65047)
• India
14 Jan 13
I think the less people we have in our life to deal with the better it is for us and that happens when we are financially independent and have built an infrastructure around us that does away with having to go to people who have the habit of interfering and asking irrelevant questions. So you have no kids? How about transferring all your assets into my Trust? But keep your problems to yourself!
@MaylaJay (350)
13 Jan 13
Good discussion. For me, morals is whatever I feel is right or wrong. Basically, if I do something and the reaction is not something I like, I quit doing it. So it really isn't about religion or society. It's just my reaction to the reactions of my actions.
@allknowing (65047)
• India
13 Jan 13
As long as you are able to face society and the religion you belong to it is fine to follow one's conscience but this is not the case always. We owe something to society specially if we are depending on it. If your family and friends desert you because of what you are doing would you be able to face that situation although your conscience tells you that you are not doing anything wrong. Would you make adjustments?
@MaylaJay (350)
13 Jan 13
That's what I said: If I don't like the reactions, I'll change my actions. I don't really believe in conscience. I believe in what I see and how it makes me feel. I also don't care what society thinks and I identify with no religion. And if my family and friends abandon me, but I still feel justified, I wouldn't make adjustments.
@allknowing (65047)
• India
13 Jan 13
Being independent of society and family gives one choices and you seem to be independent and so can say with confidence that you will do what pleases you regardless of what others think.
• Jacksonville, Florida
13 Jan 13
For me, I do whatever it takes to be a good mother for my children. If I am ashamed of my actions for them than I have done something wrong. Also, if I cannot sleep at night because of my own guilt than I know I have to change something. I go by what feels right or wrong to me. If I am okay with what I have done than all is well.
• Jacksonville, Florida
14 Jan 13
Is there a reason my response is the only one not being responded to?
@allknowing (65047)
• India
14 Jan 13
No reason. I had to think a bit more here! There is more to life than thinking of our kids alone LMB but that is your thinking and you have made your choice but in doing so I hope you are not disturbing others around you. Just a thought.
@mythociate (15338)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
13 Jan 13
'I say nothing- & do nothing-but what I see My Father do before me.' Spoken by a man hailed to be the Son of G*d (some call him Kevin Sorbo ), so it looks to me like a good moral to follow.
@allknowing (65047)
• India
14 Jan 13
Are you sure?
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
13 Jan 13
I think it is a condition of the heart that is important. If your heart toward mankind is right and you have respect for yourself and others, you will think again before giving over to any kind of immorality. People break laws all the time, and no law can keep anyone from sinning. If we understand God's grace we will want to choose well.
@allknowing (65047)
• India
13 Jan 13
Unfortunately what is morally right for one may not be so for another and more so for society. In order to get on with society one needs to maintain a balance. With God's grace this will be possible.
@natliegleb (5186)
• India
13 Jan 13
we must live for others and care a lot for others and make this world a better place to live and should focus more on yoga and ethnic activities rather than getting involved in illegal stuff
@allknowing (65047)
• India
13 Jan 13
A word about living for others. I have a different thought on this. We are all creations of God and it is our duty to take care of us also. Living for others at the cost of our own life is to my mind not called for. When we help others they stop using their own God given talents. I have come to this conclusion after a lot of thought. As long as we are not a nuisance to others that in itself means a lot.
@kearkear (259)
• Philippines
13 Jan 13
For me, morals is about good things in the eyes of everyone especially God. It is not about legal or illegal things or norm or not accepted with the society.
@allknowing (65047)
• India
13 Jan 13
How easy is it for you to go by this thinking. Are you not at sometimes placed in a situation that you have to go against your own thinking. When that happens how do you cope?
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
13 Jan 13
I try to be at my best all the time, just the way I was brought up by my parents. However, the environment sometimes has the influence in making me do certain decisions that whether I'd like to stay within what is expected of me, I would be doing the opposite. It is hard sometimes to keep up with what the church tells us to do. We know there are things that could be wrong, but due to some circumstances, a person fails to do what is right.
@allknowing (65047)
• India
13 Jan 13
As far as the church goes it needs to revamp its values as much water has flowed under the bridge since those norms were laid down. But by and large for someone like you who have had parents who kept a close eye on you it would be easy not to cross limits. As far as morals go there is a lot of confusion in the minds of people as looking at what goes on in the world we sometimes wonder whether we live in the eighteenth century with our thoughts!
@GardenGerty (99193)
• United States
13 Jan 13
Some things are considered right or wrong just because of society's dictates, but that is not morals, that is convention. I feel that morals are what keep you on a straight course, comfortable with yourself and others as well. Morals are a part of your being, not some coverup that you put on to please the outside world.
@allknowing (65047)
• India
13 Jan 13
I participated in a discussion here where most think it is ok to create videos on ourselves and sell them because of need. It disturbed me a bit because I thought no matter what there is a limit up to which one can go for survival. What is comfortable to us as individuals as being morally correct could raise questions as up to a point they should not go against moral values laid down by society and religion.
13 Jan 13
Morals for me is respecting others freedom. you can always do whatever you like as long as don't stepping on others freedom, there's always consequences for all actions. The very basis of our laws in life are written from the Bible understanding each verses between the lines not literally
@allknowing (65047)
• India
13 Jan 13
Understanding what is written in the Bible is not easy and yet if one follows the ten commandments nothing else matters. Your statement about not stepping on others' freedom is packed with substance.
@jalucia (1435)
• United States
13 Jan 13
I guess I view morals as being the right that is opposed to the wrong. I suppose I let all of the things you mentioned guide me. However, I would like to ultimately be guided by my religion. But I must admit that I'm not a very religious person, and therefor probably don't always know what my religion would dictate that I do.
@allknowing (65047)
• India
13 Jan 13
There is so much about religion that needs a second look. Religion should move with the times but it has not. You have not lost much by not being so much in touch. There are other yardsticks that you can stick to and ofcourse your own conscience.