Do you often Criticize People?

@waleeds (126)
January 14, 2013 3:47am CST
I have become habitual in criticizing people these days and i don't know what has happened to me. not a single day passes by when i don't point fingers on others which, i know, is too bad to do. i have gone through few people in my life who never criticizes others and i really admire them for their habit. i was wondering as to why people criticize other people when they have done no harm to them. what do you say to this?
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13 responses
@nicanorr (1789)
• Philippines
14 Jan 13
Criticizing people if you mean trying to find out or publicize their shortcomings or weaknesses is a bad habit. Why pick innocent people? The habit bounces back to the doers telling them their imperfection and unsoundness of reasoning. Remember the finger rule: 4 of our fingers point to others while the thumb points back to us. meaning look in the mirror to see our mote.
@waleeds (126)
14 Jan 13
i agree, that's why i'm trying to get off from this bad habit in which i can't find any of my own weaknesses rather always finding out what wrong others have done. i know some criticisms are valid provided you provide solid reasonings but this is not in any anyway constructive criticism. i realize it and i'm trying my best. thanks for coming.
@nicanorr (1789)
• Philippines
16 Jan 13
It's easy to forget or do away with bad vices. Focus or concentrate on other things to forget them. The internet is a good place. It has countless websites with all sorts of amazing and interesting materials. I need not emphasize on this.
@nykalex88 (244)
• Philippines
14 Jan 13
I have been in your shoes few years ago. I always criticize anyone and I have already realized now that it is just because of my immaturity. Now, I never criticize anyone because I understand others' decision, feelings, and so on. I also learned how to forgive easily even if a person really committed a mistake. I thank myself for this and have felt that I have grown mature enough.
@waleeds (126)
14 Jan 13
thanks a lot nykalex for commenting. that's right, if i learn how to forgive others i guess i may not criticize others. i am 27 and probably my habit is not out of immaturity as i has already passed that age. my be i should give little more time to myself to adjust.
@doroffee (4230)
• Hungary
14 Jan 13
I'm not gonna lie, I am guilty of that. But I only criticise traits of them which concern behavior or which have an effect on me. I'm not someone to pick on people just because of their clothing style or taste or wealth...
@waleeds (126)
14 Jan 13
thank you very much doroffee for stopping by. you are right actually i should also be concerned about those personality traits that affect me and not about those that have nothing to do with my personality.
• India
14 Jan 13
What we should be concerned of, is the intention of the criticism. Criticism is the act of judging the merits and faults of a person or object or anything. Criticism is not always bad. Various kinds of intentions are responsible for the result of the criticism. Criticism with the intention of appreciation, improvisation, jealousy, hatred, love is commonly observed. As a respected personality I often criticize people but never with a feeling of jealousy or hatred. But I criticize with an intention of improvisation. And my criticism is often taken well, accepted fairly, and sometimes even with greetings. I would suggest you to not give up criticizing other people but just change the your ways. Criticizing is not always blaming others. Improvisation helps to make a better world.
@waleeds (126)
14 Jan 13
thanks a lot kingman for your beautiful words. you are right, criticism is not always bad especially if your intentions are to make something do in a proper way. had that been the case, i wouldn't have worried at all. however, one way or the other, you should keep yourself away from the kind of criticisms i'm referring to. now i am learning to get rid of cynical or insulting attitude by asking myself as if i were in his place what would i do then? besides, i need to expect little good from others which indeed gives rise to that much criticisms.
• India
14 Jan 13
It is a serious problem. One of my friend also used to do criticize others. I think you are in depression so you are trying to figure out others mistakes. Try to change this habit...Stop thinking about others... Listen to some good music, Go to places which u like most this will help you to come out this problem..
@waleeds (126)
14 Jan 13
thank you karthik for these suggestions but you know i tend to criticize mainly because i am not happy all the time and i release those hostile feelings by dumping on others. now i have learned to engage myself in some leisure activities like music, movies, or sharing jokes with my friends. i do not criticize others out of any depression as i don't have any. thanks anyway.
@edvc77 (2143)
• Philippines
14 Jan 13
I think it is bad. You should refrain in doing that. It is written, "When you judge other people , you will be judge too." It will return back to you in time. Hope you understand. Good day!
@waleeds (126)
14 Jan 13
yeah i understand and i know it. i shall try to leave this habit as soon as possible. you know what! i am trying to reduce the number of criticisms day by day so that one day i'll be completely free of this. today i have started my day with no criticisms though in later part of the day i did blame few people for something. thanks for your words.
@anon765 (21)
• United States
15 Jan 13
Some ppl don't criticize anyone and of course we should admire them. And I am agree with that point. And I don't criticize any one, I mean I do it some time(occasionally :P)
@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
15 Jan 13
If I can avoid criticizing people then I will avoid it because it will just take me no where and I might end up hurting someones feelings and I don't want it to happen,, I know someone who keep saying negative and criticizing people in there back.. and I see it as a bad manner so I tell myself that if I can't say anything good to that person I will just keep myself shut up..
@wwjwcom (237)
• Hubei, China
15 Jan 13
On the opposite to you,I'm a person who never wants to critize others,even the person that I hate.The reason is that I don't want to hurt others. The only case that I critize someone is that when my brother does something wrong on purpose. Try to be good and nice to others and they will do the same to you.
@cutepenguin (6457)
• Canada
14 Jan 13
Honestly, I do this too. It doesn't feel good to be so judgemental, but I think these things often. I try very hard to imagine myself in the other person's situation and to be sympathetic and patient, but I sometimes just think critical thoughts. I think I do this to make myself feel a bit better - like I'm doing something right and they're wrong so I'm a better person. I know this isn't true, it's just a trap I seem to have fallen into.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
14 Jan 13
I try not to put myself in a situation that allows me to criticize anyone. It is really not doing anything to benefit by putting another person down. I believe that encouragement brings so much more to life than criticism ever can.
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
14 Jan 13
Are you with people who criticized a lot? Sometimes friends around you who are having bad attitude contributes a lot. If you have friends who have this judgmental attitude I suggest that you avoid these people and change your bad behavior slowly.
@axlrate7 (1366)
• Philippines
14 Jan 13
Yeah I agree, criticizing is a really bad habit when you're doing it in a negative way, well just only for my opinion you can use criticizing in different way where it can be a help for other people who needs to be criticize. But don't get me wrong here, believe me dude there are really people who are blind of themselves of what they really can do, and that's where you can use criticizing to open there eyes about truly who they are. It just depends of people of how they will deliver their criticize to other person, some in negative and some in positive which is very helpful. I don't know if you really get what I'm saying but it really depends on each person of how they convey everything in their thoughts. :)