Cousin lost all his homecoming money in casino

@dee777 (1418)
South Africa
January 15, 2013 7:15am CST
My cousin left his family behind end 2011 to work abroad to make money. He got himself a very good job and was suppose to come home for December. He is a gambler and lost all his money at the casino two weeks before he was suppose to go home for a visit. How selfish can a person be!
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@Mavic123456 (9702)
• Thailand
15 Jan 13
yes, he is so selfish and such a gambler. maybe he won then he thought that the luck was on him so he wanted to win more... ohh he is greedy too if this the case. Now i can not say if it is good for him for he was not able to go home, but I think of the children and the wife/husband who are waiting for him/her arrival. Such a bad gambler. so disappointing.
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@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
15 Jan 13
It made me so very angry! He is a grown man and so very irresponsible! Perhaps it was greed that drove him to continue!
• Thailand
15 Jan 13
see.. such a man that is good enough for big bang on the head. arrgh!!! irresponsible
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
17 Jan 13
I think it all started as having fun on their evenings out when he and his wife would go gambling. I wonder if he will now even bother to listen to her if she asks him to stop?
@mariaperalta (19096)
• Mexico
15 Jan 13
I lived in the gambling capital of the world las vegas, for 11-12 years. I used to see this happen every single day there. Id talk to people whod tell me they lost their rent money, food money even their own houses. Very sad. Im glad I hate to gamble.
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
15 Jan 13
I have too little money to gamble anyway! I watched 'Deal No Deal' every afternoon and I am amazed to see that people do not know when to stop. It is as if they get blinded by the possibility and then gets carried away... just to loose everything.
@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
15 Jan 13
Aww.. That is not good. Sorry to hear that. He shouldn't spend all his money to the casino. It is hard to win in the casino.
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@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
15 Jan 13
I was so shocked! This man has a family to support and he went abroad to help the family! From what I heard he just loves gambling. But surely a man should know when to stop...?
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@chicgale (2982)
• Philippines
15 Jan 13
Yeah, he is addicted to gambling and can't control himself. He should avoid going there or else he loose everything. And he should think his family.
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
17 Jan 13
He has been gambling even before he went abroad. I am amazed that his wife did not see the danger in it. There were times that she joined him to go gamble. It is going to be hard now for her to convince him otherwise. When a woman sees that her man is into bad habits, and she sees the red lights, she should not encourage him by participating at all. Now she and the children will suffer.
@youless (91541)
• Guangzhou, China
15 Jan 13
I am really sorry to hear that. How disappointed for his family. Gambling is a very bad habit. It is addictive and especially it can take away your hard-working money. Besides, you will be buried by the debts. I hope your cousin will learn a big lesson this time and never touch the gambling again. It will never be late to correct a mistake.
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@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
17 Jan 13
youless, I hope he come to his senses before it is too late. It just makes me angry to think that he went overseas to ake exdtra money for the family - now look what did he do with the hard earned money. Can a gambling board not restrict him from gambling? Is something like that possible?
@ZoeJoy (1395)
• United States
15 Jan 13
That is indeed selfish and self-centered. Hope he isn't married. I would not lend him any money and if he asks, I would tell him to get some professional help for his gambling problems. My family likes to eat at our local casino's buffet. Some of my family will gamble but only $5. Once they spend their $5, then they quit. They just gamble for a hoot. I don't even like to waste $5 on gambling. But I do enjoy the good quality food at our casino's buffet and enjoy spending time with my family. If you limit what you are going to spend at casinos, then you have control over yourself and your money. Needless to say, my family doesn't drink a lot either, so that helps them to stay in control. We all know that the casinos are rigged to win. And they want gamblers to drink so they lose their ability to stay in control. How else are they going to stay in business, unless they win more times then they lose? So the odds are against gamblers in casinos. Might as well save your money. And invest it wisely else where.
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
15 Jan 13
I think that they get a kick of 'believing in luck'. This guy is married and has two children! He has a problem, that is for sure. I am not a gambler, but I think that a person who wants to gamble, should take his $5, or whatever and enjoy it. And if he wins, or loose he should say 'thank you very much' and then leave! Gambling is evil!
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@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
16 Jan 13
That is truly disappointing! He worked hard for nothing. That reminds of what happened to one cousin of my husband. He used to work in a bank and would stayed for about 4 hours more everyday. We knew that he need to earn something more coz he was preparing for his wedding that time and he also sends money to his parents. A few months after his wedding, his overtime work still didn't stop. Then one night his wife called her sister in-law and said that they were fighting coz all their savings were gone! Actually, I went to their house together with my mother in law and my husband's aunt to pacify the couple. they were fighting and was on the verge of splitting up. So we found out that my husband's cousin was gambling after office hours and was already in debt for about $20,000 that time. We thought he 'd be put behind bars for not being able to settle them. The couple lost all their savings- as in totally wiped out!
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
17 Jan 13
Oh no!!!! The poor woman. Are you telling me that she did not suspect anything during all those months of 'after hours working'? Why must the wife/partner always be the last to know... Are they still together? This poor woman will now have to really work harder to help him pay off his debt! This is so unfair. He hope that he went for counselling...
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
I don't know how she found out about it. But since this happened, my husband's cousin was forced to look for a better job abroad to pay off his debt little by little. They are still together, though. My husband's cousin is still working abroad and has managed to pay off all his debts. Now they enjoy a very large house and have bought some properties as well.
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
18 Jan 13
Thank the Lord they managed to get through this one. It must have been a huge challenge for the young couple. I am really glad that they survived this one - well done to them. I trust that he has learnt a valuable lesson!
@Pegasus72 (1901)
16 Jan 13
He was probably trying to get money to buy gifts for everyone. Gambling is a bad thing to get into. I know many of my husband's family gamble. We buy he occiasional scratch off but other then that nothing big is ever spent, we just don't have the money to be able to lose it.
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
17 Jan 13
I am so scared to lose money that I do not even buy those scratch cards. I mean, what are the chances of winning big? I am always thinking of the hundreds and thousands of people buying those cards and then they are satisfied with just a dollar or two. It is hard earned money that is wasted, hey?
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
18 Jan 13
Some people can play and scratch and have fun, like your family does, it's bad when it becomes a habit and people uses their money for food and other necessities to gamble.
@Pegasus72 (1901)
18 Jan 13
My mother in law was in pretty bad, she got her bills paid but pretty much everything else depended on if she won or not, I know when she went bankrupt the first time it was about a 100,000 or more. She is just making due now, but things are rough for them.
@Porcospino (17979)
• Denmark
17 Jan 13
I think that it a very irresposible thing to do when you have a family because his decision to visit the casino is not only going to affect himself, it will also have consequences for his family. Some of people who lose money in the casinos contiue playing because they think that they will have the chance to win the money back, but that can be very dangerous and you might lose even more money that way. Maybe your cousin also thought that he would be able to win some of the money back and continued playing after he started losing, but it is a very risky thing to do.
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
17 Jan 13
The way I understand gambling, is that the more a person lose, the more they gamble to make up for the lost... It is a vicious circle and I have not met anyone yet who got rich of gambling... The other interesting thing to me is also that it is usually the people who cannot afford to lose who goes to gamble... Eventually they just stay poor... Terrible hey.
@prashu228 (25811)
• India
15 Jan 13
Hi friend I think your cousin is addicted to gambling so he could not control himself and lost all his money ,after reading i understood that we must be in control and should not be addicted to any such games .
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
17 Jan 13
prashu228, I think he is addicted. But will he go for counselling - that is the question. Remember an addict seldom admit that they have a problem. It is only when terrible things happens that they wake up! Is there a gambling board that can stop him from entering their premises to gamble?
@shaggin (36924)
• United States
15 Jan 13
Wow that is really awful because in all that time he was away supposed to be earning money he wound up blowing it all at a casino. I am supposed to go to los vegas in a month or so and I dont intend to do that. If I gamble it all it will only be a few dollars. I am more into just going and seeing the sites etc.
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
17 Jan 13
Be careful when you go to Las vegas. There will be huge temptations. Enjoy your visit with sight seeing and doing nice stuff. Do not go throw your money away like this cousin of mine did!
@KrauseHome (35037)
• United States
27 Jan 13
Personally there are probably too many stories to count with things happening like this. As so many times you hear "We were only going to go in there for a minute." We had someone once renting a room from us, who spent their Rent money at the casino and wanted us to feel sorry for them and still let them stay. But personally when you have a Family, and leave them to go work a good job, and spend it in a casino instead of going home to see the family, this is LOW, and I am sure not a great way to end the yr.