loving or getting married to a person from other caste is a crime?

India
January 15, 2013 8:34am CST
hey guys, i am tired of hearing news of many guys and girls ending their lives just because they love someone who is not from their caste. They get pressurized from other different sides so much so that they have no option than to end their lives. Besides very recently a father killed his daughter just because she was in love with a guy of another caste. Also a lady had come on a reality show and she confessed that she was staying with her husband for 20 years and her family had not accepted her when she got married to him. She was crying when she was essaying her story and said that she still loves her family and her heart is still open for them. i do not know why people still have such cheap thoughts? Why cant we have inter caste marriage in our society? Is it because that will put an impact on one's dignity and position in a society? What are your thoughts on this? Do u think this is a crime? Please do share your thoughts!
13 responses
@MrGhost (550)
4 Mar 13
No, it is not a crime because love knows no barrier.
• India
4 Mar 13
Thanks a ton for sharing your valuable response. Yes u are absolutely right, marrying or loving someone from another caste can never be a crime, in fact as u have mentioned love goes beyond boundaries so the ones who oppose it are the real criminals. so people should have their minds open n should not think about such mean things. What say?
@ShyBear88 (17062)
• United States
21 Jan 13
Well where I live in the US we don't have caste at all. Yeah sure there is higher, and lower class of income but that is about it and people here marry people that have more or less money then them all of the time and for some yeah it is about the money and for others it doesn't matter at all. I don't think it's a crime to be in love with some because love isn't based off who is better then the other it just is.
• India
23 Jan 13
Thanks a ton for your valuable response. Well i am very glad to hear that there is no such thing called caste system in your country and that will never give any horrifying thoughts in anyone's mind if they are going to marry someone from other caste or income group. But the scenario is different in many countries where it is still considered as a crime in the minds of the people. What say?
@edvc77 (2143)
• Philippines
16 Jan 13
I've just heard the caste system in India but not that thorough howver I heard bad stories about it. I think the caste system in India really affects the lives of many Indians especially the Indian women. This system goes as Indian traditions. It really affects and violates human rights. And for me I think it is a crime. I hope this will catch the attention of those in the higher courts of India or might be appealed in UN. People in India must expressed their thoughts about this. People power is effective if many will cooperate. This is from my opinion and my thoughts. Thanks! God Bless
• India
23 Jan 13
Thanks a ton for your valuable response. Yes u r absolutely right, not only a woman but a guy also suffers if he is in love with someone of another caste. Actually in India many people are of the view that love happens only between the same castes and other than that it is just a farce. I do not know how to react on this as i am at utter shock after hearing such news. i hope justice prevails. What say?
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
16 Jan 13
I don't see how loving someone can ever be acrime. It is something felt deep in the heart. Marriage to someone in a different caste could only make the relationship and union stronger. If two different lifestyles can find a way to join and be happy, then anything in life is possible.
• India
23 Jan 13
Thanks a ton for your valuable response. Yes u are absolutely right, even i feel the same that loving someone be it from the same caste or from the different case can never be a crime. In fact it is the reunion of people from different castes which is a good think but unfortunately people take this in a negative way and the result is such heinous crimes caused in our society. What say?
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
16 Jan 13
That is just wrong. I can't believe in 21st century, people still have such concept in their mind. Maybe some ladies are "gold digger", they want their living status to be higher, but same caste should be married, that just not what I have in mind though. I would marry some girl who is lower, or even have different tax bracket than mine. I won't discriminate, nor prejudice people. Love is love.
• India
23 Jan 13
Thanks a ton for your valuable response. Yes u are absolutely right, love is love and nothing else should be dragged into this. Even i fail to understand why people still have such cheap thoughts about caste system even though we are living in 21st century. We should be open to every one otherwise we would have dissections in our society very soon. What say?
@marguicha (90519)
• Chile
16 Jan 13
In my country there is no such a thing as caste system, but there iare different social classes. And even if nothing terrible happens if you marry with someone from another class, you may have problems in your social life. Nothing serious, but it can be annoying.
• India
23 Jan 13
Thanks a ton for your valuable response. Well i am glad to know that caste system does not exist in your country and that is the reason why no such heinous crimes are happening. Yes u are absolutely tension might exist in social life which is quite normal but if it happens during the course of love then it would be indeed annoying and irritating. What say?
@boxer1 (37)
15 Jan 13
No that is not a crime. It reflects the society we live in. I mean the mental framework of this society. Well i do not know whether it will be changed ever or not ??
• India
21 Jan 13
Thanks a ton for your valuable response. Yes u are absolutely right, definitely it is not a crime but i think it has much to do with the mindset of the people who have been blindly following what their forefathers and ancestors have been doing. They have to be aware of a thing that such refusal and killing only brings shame to our society and they should be open minded in these cases. What say?
@prashu228 (25814)
• India
15 Jan 13
Hi subhojit It is really sad to hear these kind of news over and over again even in the modern world . Technologies changed , living style changed but not the nature of Human who thinks of caste system very very sad.I don't think it is a crime but i also have no idea why this system still there even in the computer era.They are just missing the fact that all are Humans.
• India
23 Jan 13
Thanks a ton for your valuable response. Yes u are absolutely right, no doubt we have made advancement in science and technology but when it comes to our mindset and thought process we are ages back. It is indeed very surprising to hear such news nowadays and at times i feel like as if there is no more humanity left in our society and that is the reason why such incidents are seen happening every day. What say?
@Mystars (57)
15 Jan 13
The caste system is present. But it is not for, that they are different from one another. It is present because due to it we can know each other. All humans in the world are same. The real difference among humans is their behaviour. If someone is of good behaviour then they are good and of bad are bad. We should just ignore the caste system in our relations and must depend on behaviour.
• India
23 Jan 13
Thanks a ton for your valuable response. Yes u are absolutely right, caste system is definitely present in our society and the most disturbing aspect of this part is that it is starting to take a serious look nowadays. People are coming to weapons and are residing to their conscience in these matters. How can people be so mean minded in this modern era also. What say?
@mariaperalta (19096)
• Mexico
15 Jan 13
thats terrible.. sorry to hear something like that happens. I think parents should only hope their kids are happilly married.. thats all...
• India
21 Jan 13
Thanks a ton for your valuable response. Yes u are absolutely right, parents should always aspire that their kids are married happily and successfully and if they indulge in such stuffs then not only they are losing out their kids support but it is not a good sign for the kids also as married couples always needs support blessings and love from their parents. What say?
@PurnaSharma (2011)
• India
15 Jan 13
Hi Subhojit ! I also think the caste system is one of the bogus system that follow in our country but all this depends on one's mind set.Even i found many of the people who don't beleive in all these specially in our state,i belong to north eastern part of india though it is still follow in other region of our country and obviously it influence to our region little bid..I just want to say that we all should have to stop such cheap practices and to be stand against these by being a generation of 21st century.
• India
23 Jan 13
Thanks a ton for your valuable response. Yes u are absolutely right, caste system was very active many years back and it was palpable as people were not much educated to think about this deeply. But we have reached an era where most of the people are educated and still they have such cheap thoughts have caste system and because of such people we are now hearing such heart wrenching news. What say?
@bostonphil (4397)
• United States
15 Jan 13
I live in the United States where we do not have a caste system although we still have a class system. Nevertheless, it is not the same thing. One person can easily marry someone from another class but often there are problems. And we can move from one class to another. However, sometimes it is with difficulties. I am very interested in how the caste system in India operates. I thought it was more relaxed than it had been in the past. I did not realize many people still adhered to it so seriously. How do persons from other castes meet one another? Is it in work or in school? How do you now what caste you are in or what caste someone else is in? Can't people lie? Do you have papers? I think it is very sad that someone is forced to end their lives because they love someone from another caste. Are there no other options? Is there help available?
• India
23 Jan 13
Thanks a ton for your valuable response. Well yes difficulties do exist when u marry someone from a different caste. Well to be very honest the caste system in India is a very complex topic to discuss on as one has to go through a traumatic situation the moment he or she is in love with someone from different caste. This is the only reason such heinous news are coming up quite often in the news. What say?
• Hyderabad, India
15 Jan 13
Friend in my view inter cast marriage is not ca crime but over society make that it is a crime over family also accept the inter cast marriage but we need to live for the society not for over family so it became crime but what i wan a say is we need to respect over parents and family so we need to wait for their permission for inter cast marriage so that we will be happy if they don't accept also if we got married we need to convince them after marriage so that we can be happy with over family
• India
23 Jan 13
Thanks a ton for your valuable response. Yes u are absolutely right, when did i say to go against the family wishes and marry the one u love? I am talking about how many people still feel that marrying someone from a different caste is a crime. It is due to these people that many couples who belong to different castes are ending their lives as they fear their lives would be in danger. A society is made up from many people and hence each one has to cooperate and then take the decision. What say?