Getting a 3 year old to sleep in her own bed.

United States
January 15, 2013 11:39pm CST
We bought our new house back in the end of sept of 2012 so we have been here that long I understand that. But I feel that it's long enough that my 3 year old should be sleeping in her own bed by now. At first we just sort of let her sleep where ever cause she didnt want to sleep in her bed for some reason. Here lately she's been wanting to sleep with me and daddy and as much as I love her it's getting to me. So I said something to my husband and last night after she fell a sleep he moved her in her bed and she did ok. Well thinking about it I cant have him doing this every night as she's quit heavy for a 3 year old. So I started think about what I can do to help ease her in this transition. Now she already has a favorite pillow, blanket and stuffed animal that she has to have every night lol. so were covered in the department. So tonight I went in her room with her she shares a room with her older sister. I told my oldest daugther to lay down in her bed and I talked my 3 year old into laying in her own bed. So I sat down on my daughter's oldest and I read a couple of stories and played with their karaoke maching and sang a couple of songs and little did I know half way through the last song she was a sleep. It's around midnight and so far so good. So hopefully this is a new thing I can do with her at night to get her to sleep in her bed on her own.
6 responses
@vivek19 (219)
• India
16 Jan 13
It's good that you tell your daughter stories while going to sleep. It's good for her health as well. Maybe you can make her room more interesting to her by decorating the room walls by some cartoons or some fairies. This will give her interest in her room as well as in her bed.
• United States
17 Jan 13
yes I've always been big on reading and reading to children I guess that's the teacher in me. Plus I would rather try something like this rather than having the crying night after night it's stressful on everyone in the house. I plan painting her room she loves pony's so I will probably put something like that on her walls.
@vivek19 (219)
• India
18 Jan 13
I suggested you that because many people have used such things in my locality and that really works.
@1corner (744)
• Canada
16 Jan 13
It's good (& right) to start them early. My 8 year old niece wasn't trained like that, and so she STILL co-sleeps with her parents & 3 yr old brother. (Most of the time their dad is turfed out into her bedroom). My niece has told me though, it's not because she's scared, but her mattress is harder than that of her parents'. I can't blame the child, but her grown-up parents who should be making the right decision for their kids (but aren't).
• United States
17 Jan 13
wow, I hate to hear stories like this. Whenever we buy anything whether it's for ourselves or our children I believe that everyone desrves the same quality. We had bought beds together are the same time and made sure everyone has the same quality of mattress unless it's a preference thing like one of my daughters likes a hard mattress so in that case it's a little different but we dont do it out of selfnishness. I do the same thing with sheets, blankets and pillows. I make sure each person/child in the house has a good set of sheet a comfortable pillow and blanket.
@1corner (744)
• Canada
18 Jan 13
Yeah, you & me both.
@Mavic123456 (9449)
• Thailand
16 Jan 13
Congratulations.. really patience pays a lot. You can do that to made them sleep doing that way.... just be more patient and you will be able to convince her to sleep on her own bed.... make sure that nothing will surprise her though, like cockroach so that will be encouraged to sleep tightly again. Ask her how she slept the night in the morning. to make her feel at ease.
• United States
17 Jan 13
Thank you Mavic and oh you would bring that up lol. about a cockroach lol. I can very well remember not ever being able to sleep when I had to live with my so called mother. her house was so disgusting and roach infested it was a nightmare. I guess that's why I go to extremes on cleaning like I do. To this day I am so very parniod about stuff like that. Yes I did ask noel how she slept and she was so cute She said "I slept good Ma" and I carried on praising her about how much of a big girl she was. So far tonight she's sound a sleep in her bed on her own this is the third night.
• Thailand
17 Jan 13
awww so cute.. yes, those critters may cause her phobias to "Sleep alone" so better be sure and vigilant. so that it will be worry free for her. good job mother.
@shiesse (308)
• Canada
16 Jan 13
midnight is pretty late and would probably be hard to do every night with her as that also takes your time away too. I personally think the best way I have gotten my children to sleep in their own beds is to consistantly put them there at bed time and if they do get up return them to bed. I've had conversations with my child that I have my bed and I bought you your own bed so you can sleep soundly and safely. Everyone is different and parent styles are never the same though. The best thing for you to do is what works for your family! So if singing and reading is what it takes its all about you being able to do that every night.
• United States
17 Jan 13
Thank you shiesse oh she was a sleep around 9:30 I just meant when I was online last night it was around midnight and she was still a sleep. Yeah every child is different and having 5 children I've learned that along the way. Thank you for commenting very much appreciate it.
@mariaperalta (19096)
• Mexico
16 Jan 13
tough I think, have you tried laying down in his bed with him ? then get up after he goes to sleep... :)
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
16 Jan 13
its not very easy getting a kid to move out of your bed but at some point it must be done.we had trouble moving our first born but the rest was easier since they had someone to move in with.we had to wait for her to fall asleep in our bed then move her out in the night but at times she woke up and came crying to our room.we had to buy her a very cute duvet and nice carton sheets of her favourite toon before she got more motivated to sleep in her bed.but it meant initialy moving her bed in our room and when she got used to being in her bed we then moved her out.