Write it Down!

Hiya thesids, No matter what keep writing your goals down and allow yourself to let them happen they may not happen right away its true but happen they will. It may be in the form of anything the answer I mean. If anything you may be able to improve your health at least now that is worth something surely? You matter the most you are number one first and then the others after. Sorry for butting in here greenmoo I just really felt for thesids there. Write what you want down and stick it on the fridge on the mirror if needs be but you are worthy of being healthy we all are. Hugs.xxx

I would point out that you DID just write them down ... here! (and you did bring a smile to this face, at least!) It is certainly difficult (and depressing) when health and circumstances limit the goals that you once had but that doesn't mean that you shouldn't set NEW goals which are within your capabilities (or, maybe, stretch them a little, even). When I was recovering from a major operation, I was advised to set myself targets every day of walking a little further. 50 metres was about all I could manage a day for the first few days I was home. By setting myself a target of walking to the next lamp post in the road, however, and by writing down how far I had walked, I gradually increased my targets and achievements until I could celebrate by walking 500 metres to the pub (and back!). The goals that you set yourself each day should be within your capabilities (of course ... otherwise you cannot achieve them) but you should try to set them so that they stretch you just a little in whatever way you feel you need to improve. That way, you have a long-term goal which you eventually achieve by moving a little closer towards it every day in your short-term goals. Writing down your long-term goal and marking off your progress towards it every day is certainly very helpful and wonderfully encouraging but, at the same time, it is useless to set unrealistic goals - setting a target (however long term) of "Visit Jupiter" might be pointless, for example, though "Visit America" or "Climb Mount Everest" may or may not be realistically achievable ... only you can decide!

Me again, See how owlwings is so right? I had to stay in bed for 15 days once and I thought I would never get any strength back but I did. So glad that he managed to recover baby steps. Do not give up thesids are you listening? Hope so keep writing them down allow those wants to be and let them go like diving off a springboard and imagine that there is a safety net of love below. Come on even if you doubt which we all do don´t ever think that we are any different when it comes to that. Keep going thesids you can always improve saying here "fake it till you make it" play at pretend very powerful although you might not think so.xxx

I know where you're coming from, as I'm lacking concrete goals myself. I really would like to set myself some, and I'm working on it, otherwise I feel like I'm just drifting.

I really don't envy you, having to make those decisions. The big advantage of my life is that I'm not reliant on other people (employers!). If it all goes wrong, there's noone to blame but myself.

I don't feel like I'm drifting.. just that there's too much uncertainty right now. Would I be better off switching careers or staying put? If I stay put I know what I'm in for.. but if I switch careers what happens if I end up not liking it? Then on the other hand if I stay put, what happens if I just get fired in a few months for a mistake as in the banking business mistakes are costly. If I don't switch careers now, but later decide I want to, will it be too late? Is it already too late since most places want experience and I have none?

I do, too. It's hard to stay motivated when I don't see progress in front of my face.

You could well be right. I have a challenge thinking of goals too far ahead.

There was no time frame as such but it was certainly not meant to take so long. The guy that I was with at the time strayed away so I gave the ideas away but I have still achieved some of those things. I don't like planning too much for the future. Yes, it's nice to have something to look forward to but I think we are going too fast and we should stop and take the time to live for today and enjoy any special moments as they happen. Time passes too quickly if we let it.

I wonder if, when you wrote those goals down originally, you had a 20+ year timeframe in mind? I really struggle with making goals beyond tomorrow, and the idea of setting them for the future is just beyond me currently.

I imagine that those who wrote their goals down were more goal orientated individuals, but it still seems an amazing difference.

Yes,It proves that achievement doesn't always happen by accident or is referred to as luck and success comes to one who waits.

I don't write them down, but I can see the point of doing so.

I think if I had someone to report back to I would be far more motivated to make things concrete.

Me too. I've vague ideas floating around in my head, but nothing concrete.

Concrete in the head would hurt...

I fairly regularly feel as if someone's replaced my brain with toothpaste. I wonder if it feels the same.

7 or 8 sounds like a lot! but keeping them where you see them is a great idea as you'll never forget them.

I think diaries can be really helpful to look back on, and I'm currently trying to persuade my partner to keep one relating to his stomach problems. Saying that, I'm pretty rubbish at writing stuff down myself. I always (wrongly) think I'll remember.

I wish you every success with it!

I think I would not want to make my goals in life available for just anyone to see, although I must admit that I am pretty poor at setting myself goals in the first place. I think images are a great idea. Do you have a board or something where you stick them all? I know that works well for lots of people. It only works though if your goals are tangible things (a car for instance, or a new house), but is more difficult if they relate to personal development for instance.

Hiya GM, Well those I am going to write down but I am going to keep them out of sight of other people as they are relative only to me other ones I can let them see but they will not realize what it is all about because only I know that. No I don´t use a board or anything like that images are really my favourites. I have a graphic design software a very easy one and I mess around with the photos I take sometimes and turn them into postcards if I can. I already have one idea but have to learn and get to grips with a camera someone gave me recently. Quite hard trying to read the manual so I mess around with that and I learn far more that way. Yes personal development is much harder to keep going but I am still getting there baby steps but getting there. I think we all start the New Year off with different ideas but I am hell bent on making at least one of my ideas come to fruition.xxx

Quite motivating, to see that upwards curve?

Yes it is! And it gives a little bit of hope.

I don't write them down myself, although I'll seriously consider doing so when I work out what they are!

Other people's opinions are a serious threat to productivity I think. It's nice to talk about our goals, but sometimes people are not helpful even when they think they're being so.