can i date a guy who has a son?

January 18, 2013 2:52am CST
last year i met someone. i barely know him but according to our common friends he is good and gentle and yes he is after a couple of dates. but just recently i learned that he has a son from his failed relationship. i got stunned and hurt. he doesn't know that i knew already but i dont feel like going with him anymore. i a so hurt but i miss him everyday
5 responses
• China
18 Jan 13
If he is single now,and if you are already ready to be a step mother,you can absolutely go on dating him.But you should tell him your feelings.
@rhoiena (107)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
If you want an instant family go on! love him, date him, love his son, care his son. To love to a person with a kids is a package deal, so if you really love the guy, you must love twice the son.
@bhonti (1247)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
there is nothing wrong with that. As long as you are both in the right age to make your own decisions. He must be a loving father because he chose to keep the child, i was just intrigued with his former partner, having to leave her son with the father. Well i just assumed that scenario, Anyway, he must have not tried to tell you the fact about his son because he was afraid you would act that way, and he was right.
• United States
18 Jan 13
yOU ARE SILLY TO BE HURT, that happens a lot these days. People make mistakes. Maybe he hasn't told you as he is afraid of your reaction. He wants to get to know youbetter beforem he bares his soul to you. He is smart because look at your reaction. To get him you will have to be more open and accepting. Have you been completely honest with him in every thing???
@Bhebelen14 (5074)
• Philippines
18 Jan 13
Why not if he is still single, not committed to anyone else and if you really like him. Having child in his past relationship wont change a thing unless he hide if from you without any acceptable reason. I think you should talk to him maybe he did not tell you everything about his past because he just want to know you better and trying to find way to figure out how he can tell you about his son. Do not make this things hard for you and do not let yourself to be hurt everyday just because of that. Go and talk to him. Good luck