Pregnant woman commits suicide

Philippines
January 19, 2013 8:28am CST
My friend shared me this story earlier about a pregnant woman who commits suicide because she found out she is carrying twin boys. She had wanted to get pregnant the second time because she wanted a baby girl. Here's the link: http://www.yourjewishnews.com/Pages/w6364.aspx It's really a pity because I am sure there are couples who have been waiting to get pregnant for a long time and they would have surely welcomed the idea of having a baby regardless of the gender. If you read the story the woman had already been having bouts of depression. If she wanted a daughter maybe she could have her twin boys exchanged for twin daughters at an orphanage. Who knows. But apparently she was not in a sane state of mind. Have you ever read of a similar story before?
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18 responses
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
whew that a crazy decision for the woman to do. just like you mention many people want to be a parents and yet they are not gifted or incapable while she have all the capacity and she just wasted it. if the woman already have depression those people surround her should never left her alone so she could not do anything to harm her self of her babies.
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• Philippines
27 Jan 13
I think in the end we cannot blame the people around her for not noticing. She was aware of her decision. She just let her depression overcome the good decisions she could have made for her health and for her babies.
• India
9 Feb 13
Thanks for this discussion. I have not heard any such story, the girl was not in normal state of mind probably, a normal person won't do this.
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• Philippines
11 Feb 13
Yes, it sounds crazy. But we all hear a lot of crazy news these days. It's a pity that twins were involved because the mother was unstable.
• India
25 Jan 13
Hi friend, sad to hear about this story, really the pregnant ladies decision is a wrong one, she killed her self as well as killed two little unborn babies, it is a great sin. I never heard such kind of stories in my life
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• Philippines
28 Jan 13
Every one of us is driven by different motives depending on the circumstance we find ourselves in. What drove her does sound insane and indicative of someone with an unstable state of mind.
@WakeUpKitty (8711)
• Netherlands
23 Jan 13
Never heard it happend because of a baby girl but plenty of women do so or try to get an abortion. This is already since ages the case. Mostly because men want a boy. Somehow I can understand it but personally I don't care although I do prefer girls. I don't think you can easily change your children or exchange them of give them away for adoption. This is not realistic. No matter what you want or try.. in the end it's Always the mother who will be blames (wrong gender, too much children, too less, too ugly being pregnant or after giving birth, not mom-alike or a bad one.. it's never the dad).
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• Philippines
28 Jan 13
Yeah I just thought if she would have cared and loved the twin boys she was carrying, putting them up for adoption sounded more sane than taking hers and the twin boys' lives.
@surekharathi (14134)
• India
23 Jan 13
Ohhh God really mad women and you are right friend there are couples like us who have been waiting to get pregnant for a long time. We husband and wife also waiting since 9 years but God not giving me child. I dont think about girl or boy but only need child. How can mother do this only because of both are boys I think may be some other reason.
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
I suspect there's a deeper reason, too. I hope a lot of couples can learn from this news in that they will look into each other's problems more carefully and talk it out instead of keeping it to one's self.
• Qatar
21 Jan 13
This story is horrible. What was in her mind during that time that made her decide to claim her own life just because she has twins!? Some kind of evil act, she should have very happy because it was a twin, double bundle of joy. She is in fact very lucky because there are couple who will do everything and anything just to have a baby.
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• United States
21 Jan 13
How very tragic! She shouldn't have gotten pregnant at all if she couldn't handle what she was pregnant with. Senseless deaths. I feel so sorry for the husband.
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• Philippines
28 Jan 13
Guess she was really too hopeful that she was gonna have twin girls.
@Pegasus72 (1904)
21 Jan 13
I have never read a story like that before, but then again as things in the world get worse we will see more things like this. I wonder who close her pregnancies were and maybe she was going through the baby blues.
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• Philippines
28 Jan 13
I wondered about that, too. But I suspect it may have been close, like not more than two or three years gap.
• Pamplona, Spain
20 Jan 13
Hiya jolie, She could not have been in a right state of mind at the time because we all know that most women who cannot have a child easily will go to all extremes to become pregnant. Great shame, hormones in women can become our worst enemy when we are pregnant. I knew a woman that would not even look at her baby when he was born she was in a very depressed state. Above all I think that they need help although they might not realize it. This is mostly that the hormones are all upside down and now its taken more seriously before you got frowned on if you were crying all the time after just having had your baby. This woman more than getting help which she did not get much of instead she received a lot of hostility on behalf of the nurses above all. We tried to help her out and visit her and the baby which I think did something more than all that scolding. I was quite tearful for a few days and very tired but after I got out of that oppressive place I soon bounced back again to my usual self. I was not alone in all the tension in there getting to me being a first time mom. All first time moms need extra help and attention.xxx
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• Philippines
27 Jan 13
Being pregnant and giving birth are really difficult stages that a woman can go through. It's a delicate time even for first-time mothers as you mentioned. I don't know about my mom being depressed and all that while she was pregnant with me. If there was maybe she just handled it really well. What I do know is my mom went on labor for 9 hours before I came out.
@toyota4k (1212)
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
No, I never had read anything like this before. I think the woman did it from too much frustration or I guess there may have been another reason.
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• Philippines
27 Jan 13
It does seem like her preference for a baby girl was even deeper than what was described in the story. The only thing we know from the news was that her depression was an ongoing thing.
@rose66 (382)
• China
20 Jan 13
i am so sorry to hear that. i have a daughter and then a son , ofcourse you'll say i am lucky to have both boy and girl. but when i was peagnant again, i thought even it's a girl again, i would be happy too and woundn't try to prangnant any nore. i cannot imagine how could she do that? it's abnormal.
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• Philippines
27 Jan 13
It is abnormal. She had no regard for the twins, her husband and the other twins she was carrying. Didn't she realize that bearing twins are actually a lucky omen? So many women would want to be in her place.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
I haven’t heard of any similar story before. I was disappointed with what the lady did. She's very selfish and thinking about herself only. I agree that when we’re blessed by a baby especially twins, we must be happy about it. We must pray for them to have a good health and not just wish that what we only want will be given to us and be disappointed if we didn’t get what we want.
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• Philippines
27 Jan 13
Sometimes I think if she had survived amid the depression, her 2nd set of baby twins will suffer unless she changes her perspective for the better.
@natliegleb (5188)
• India
20 Jan 13
that is quite bad and she must be under immense depression and could not control herself and she took this adverse reaction
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• Philippines
27 Jan 13
We get depressed over a lot of things. Eventually we find that being too depressed doesn't really help us. That's exactly what happened to her.
20 Jan 13
This story is incredibly sad. There are those who would be willing to give anything to have a single child, and this woman was blessed with two. To kill oneself (and two others) because of such an insignificant thing as gender? It's heart wrenching. Yes, I (probably like every other woman out there who wants children some day) want a daughter eventually. But if I have a son - or two, or three - I will still be happy. I can't believe that someone would kill themselves over this.
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• Philippines
27 Jan 13
I feel the same way, too. If I ever have a family of my own someday, I would accept a boy or a girl whichever will be given to me. Fussing over the gender is mundane. This lesson does teach us to be contented with whatever is given us.
• Mexico
20 Jan 13
i think our world is very bad with this kind of stories,the questio is what are we going to do to change the way we live and think? i think we have to change first everything inside us to improve like people...
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• Philippines
25 Jan 13
True. I think I read a quote from Buddha or Dalai Lama, I'm not sure now which one, which said something about attending to our own sanity first and try to do the change within ourselves because doing so erases the worry of trying to change the outside world. Our decisions create ripples towards all of mankind, small or big.
@kokomo (1868)
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
No not yet. I feel pity for the twin fetus inside her womb. They never get the chance to see the beauty of the world because of their insane mother. Yeah, you are right, there are a lot of couples who are not be able to produce their own offsprings but then this women killed her babies just that easy. Well, we cannot blame her because of her condition.
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@edvc77 (2143)
• Philippines
20 Jan 13
That is terrible. She had this sickness called post partum depression. Some pregnant women undergo this kind of depression that they want to kill their babies for some personal reasons, etc. Maybe the mother was stressed in some things. Family support and medication are needed for this kind of sickness. However, if it is not detected earlier this may result to harming herself and her babies. What a mad sickness it is!
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• Philippines
25 Jan 13
It would be tough to give medications for her depression since she was pregnant with the twin boys. I dunno, but I think pregnant women are not allowed to have medications. Sensitive for the fetus.
@trisha27 (3505)
• United States
20 Jan 13
That is so sad and crazy that that woman had to end her life for not having a baby girl. I feel sorry for her children and her husband.
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• Philippines
23 Jan 13
Yes, it is indeed a pity. It is strange yet I think it's only because we don't know the psychological background of the mother.