I don't know my best friend since he get married.

@bulastika (5966)
Philippines
January 21, 2013 4:53pm CST
I don't know if I want to call him my best friend anymore. But since he got married it seems he change a lot and we blame his wife because of this. I think every body does not like his wife even his own family except him. lols. But we can't do anything about it. He is our friend but we can't let him choose between us his friends and his wife right? Because theirs just something in his wife that we just feel uneasy and I guess his wife also feel the same way toward us.
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@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
22 Jan 13
I also have a guy friend whom i cannot be that close again anymore..the wife gets jealous i guess. lol. But my husband's friends are lucky, i treat them as my friends too, they are welcome any time at home, and we go out with them.. just like the other day when we played darts together.
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@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
27 Jan 13
I guess theirs no need to get jealous especially if you trust your friends and your partner. I really don't understand why she will going to get jealous since you also have a husband already. I guess its more to being insecure or something.
• Philippines
22 Jan 13
good thing your hubby is not the jealous type either.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
21 Jan 13
Yeah! I know what you mean. And it really happens sometimes, when the wife and friends could never be together. So, all you can do is to just remain friends with him and maybe try to be nicer to his wife. But if the wife refuses, well, it's her lost, not yours.
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@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
27 Jan 13
That's true. Beside once he has a family that's his new life already. Friends are good only if you are single but once you are married friendship is not as important as before. Even family break ups when the other family does not like what their son or daughter marries.
@Pegasus72 (1898)
22 Jan 13
That is sad, if he loves her there is a reason and I hope the family comes around and makes her feel welcome. Things will never be better if people don't try to involve her and him in things.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
27 Jan 13
I don't think its worth it to live a life with friends. Even if you have lots of friends in the end of the day you still going home to your wife and kids no matter if your wife is born a monster.
@Shavkat (137188)
• Philippines
24 Jan 13
Majority of my friends changed right after they got married. I cannot blame them, that is having married life. They can't do things before being single. I don't have any grudges about this, it happens.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
27 Jan 13
Its okay with me also. But same time I just feel that its much easier if his wife does not prevent us from contacting him. I mean they even can't live in one place because his wife always get a fight with their neighbor!. lols.
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
22 Jan 13
You can keep in touch with him as his friend. But he choice his wife and perhaps, the two of them really do get along with each other. They are a couple now and do need their space as a married couple. I had a friend who I didn't like her husband but that was not my business. I just kept in touch with my friend and didn't say anything about her husband. It was not my place to say anything. They are now divorced and now, I am still her friend. I supported her but still didn't put down her husband. It is best to make sure you don't get in between a husband and a wife. Just be supportive but also, hope for the best for your friend and his wife and their marriage.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
27 Jan 13
They already have two kids so I guess we can say they really get along. Beside they are family we are just friend in the end no matter who is right its always the family that will always going to come first.
• Philippines
22 Jan 13
was your friend aware that you didn't like her husband? when she talks about him and their relationship before, during and after the divorce, how do you react? i'm afraid i would find it very hard to remind myself to stay objective and be supportive at the same time.
• United States
21 Jan 13
They say love is blind. But friendship is deaf and dumb. The best thing you can do is hope he realizes what he's gotten himself into sooner rather than later. There is nothing wrong with putting some distance between the two of you, but a real friend will be there when reality hits him square in the face.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
27 Jan 13
His already married so I think theirs nothing he can do right now even if he realize it. lols. Beside they have two kids already. I guess as long they are happy. We must be happy for them.
@nithila30 (1423)
• India
22 Jan 13
This thing happens in everybody life ,we have to face it but no probs surely ur friend will come to know about the happiness you share together,sweet memories will never get forgotten .stay calm and wait for your friend to come back.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
27 Jan 13
I guess its time to move on. That's life we enjoy our life when we are single but now we are married and its either we bow to our wife or go with our friends like a single person.
@youless (112100)
• Guangzhou, China
22 Jan 13
People will change a lot after marriage. Since his wife may not allow him to go out late because she isn't relaxing to it. I think this can be understanding. But I think it is also acceptable that sometimes let him to keep in touch with his friends. Perhaps you shall behave better in front of her so that your friend's wife will feel released? Women are not so unreasonable after all.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
27 Jan 13
I guess that's life. Once you got married every thing chance. Your views and your focus chance. I hope I can make good income. I hope that in two to three years time I can say that our friendship will be nothing but just a faded memory as his wife does not want us to contact him anymore.
• China
22 Jan 13
Well,what happen between you guys and his wife?I think as a guy we should be more tolerance because sometimes we all well know that woman is a little sensitive stingy.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
27 Jan 13
Theirs a limit in every thing. Of course we understand that. But sometimes theirs just some person who really like to hurl negative things. His wife just a type of person who hate anyone that is close to him.
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
22 Jan 13
I agree with you, it wouldn't be fair to make him choose between his wife and his friends. I know that some marriages are not really agreeable to all of the people, but then marriage is between the husband and wife still first and foremost. I know that even though we're married, that doesn't mean that we cannot be friends with our friends and have a social life separate from those of our spouse. But somewhere somehow, someone's got to give. And I think that you and the rest of your friends are being supportive of him. Just give his wife more time and some more chances. Who knows maybe she will shapeup and be a lot nicer. If not, at least be there for your friend when things get tough. All the best!
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
27 Jan 13
That's true. Once they are married they are family already and we are out of their life. Friends are good when we are single. But once we are married our main focus is only to our family. Friends will just going to be the thing of the past.
@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
22 Jan 13
Why.. what is wrong that everybody doesn't like the wife of your bestfriend.. maybe she is misunderstood.. why not try to bond with her so the uneasiness will be gone.. if I were in the shoes of the wife of your bestfriend I will be sad if everyone doesn't like me.. anyways try to talk to you bestfriend so you can clear things to him..: hope all of you will get along well sooner..
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
27 Jan 13
Its not only me. The rest of us does not like her and even the family of my friend does not like her. She just some attitude issue. You know a type or person that when she speak you either get irritated or offended. lols.