does your spouse's dressing ever embarrass you when going somewhere together?

@pomwango (1355)
Kenya
January 22, 2013 9:07am CST
i just remembered how my Ex used to really get me mad at not putting on a belt and he had this one pair of shoes he loved and permanently wore.it got to a stage if we were going somewhere public together i had to first check what he is wearing before i feel ashamed of him.it got to a stage when i would see my friends and am with him i would enter a shop just not to be seen with him,thank goodness my husband is a man who loves to look good so am always proud to be seen with him.have you undergone this ?
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@doroffee (4230)
• Hungary
22 Jan 13
With my fiancé there was one time, but I didn't actually tell him. I think it was just the occasional being too "I don't care about anything" moment, when he accompanies me to the theatre in a nylon-y sweater with a brand logo on it. It looked way too sporty for an event like that. But I went with it, as nowadays, there are people who wear more outrageous outfits to the theatre, and I didn't really want to hurt him.
@doroffee (4230)
• Hungary
22 Jan 13
And by brand logo, I don't mean a clothing brand logo, but a promotional sweater type of things... like a Coca Cola one, just it was from a computer company??...
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
23 Jan 13
am laughing now, imagining that sweater,its so bad that at times we dont tell them whats we feel not to hurt their feelings but have to put up with the ridicule.
@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
23 Jan 13
My husband is in his 40's. He dresses up eith just jeans and shirt and that is fine. But what irritates me is when we have to go an event or occasion and he has to wear something semi-formal, he refuses. We would always end of fighting over it and he would tell me that I am dressing him up like an old man! Hello! He isn't in his 20's or 30's to be acting that way! Very annoying sometimes that it literally makes my blood boil and spoils my night!
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
23 Jan 13
i can imagine, i hope he gets round to try and agree to dress for such occassions without alot of pushing,you should try dress weird one day and see how he likes it, maybe he will learn from that.
@ladynetz (968)
• Canada
23 Jan 13
My spouse is a perfect gentelman in dresiing code. Always clean, good looking, up for any event. It's me that I don't dress as he would like me to. But then I am a shy person, being in public is not something I like very much. I don't have anxiety or panic attack, I just feel that lots of gatherings are false and under unreal pretentions and I feel uncomfortable most of the time. I sit in a corner, observing all the others.So, I like to dress in a manner that will not attract eyes to me. I like to "fade" so no one would pay attention to me. My spouse likes to be in the centre of attention, always having something to say, a joke to share or an event that happened and everyone has to hear it. Anyhow, I don't embarass him because I do keep the dressing code, usually a classy one. It's just not an attention catcher, but a modest and not pretentious one.
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
23 Jan 13
you may have to step up abit and enjoy the focus ,if that what he loves then try for him, being smart also means you feel the power of being admired,stand out and enjoy the moment otherwise he will start feeling like you are not doing your part of what he seems to enjoy.
@lampar (7597)
• United States
22 Jan 13
I am just glad you are no more with him and don't have to go out with him anymore. There is no more embarrassment you need to put up with from him and you are happy with whatever you got right now, that is what matter most and you can forget about all these past events with him.
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
23 Jan 13
yes thats behind me but my husband and i have a good laugh at what choice i had made back then.
@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
22 Jan 13
The thing that gets me with my husband is that he doesn't care what type of socks he wears. I have to check his socks before we leave to go somewhere. Because he will try to wear socks that don't match when we go places. Most of the time when we go somewhere we will visit where you take off your shoes. So I have to check that.
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
23 Jan 13
thats a good action of a loving wife,some men are least bothered by what colour they wear or if they even match ,worse some would wear a pair with holes,you take care of him,
• Canada
22 Jan 13
Sometimes. It used to really embarrasse me cause he hadn't had new clothesin 20 years when I met him and he was dressing from the 70's and 80's. But nwhen we started dating I started buying him new clothes as presents. Now that we are married he has a lot of new updated stylish clothes soi tips so much better and I am not embarrassed of the things he wears out.
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
23 Jan 13
thats very nice of you,atleast he met your hearts expectations so it was good you bring him up to your standards.
• Jacksonville, Florida
22 Jan 13
I have been embarassed by a couple of my ex's and what they would wear but not with my husband. He dresses like most guys dress, nothing to be ashamed of at all. But one of my ex's would always have to wear like flamingo and flower shirts like we were in Hawaii or something. It was all the time and I would feel stupid walking by him! Lol.
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
23 Jan 13
i know that feeling,i think nowander they never qualified to stay with us for life,if they could not match up with image .
@WakeUpKitty (8707)
• Netherlands
22 Jan 13
not the way he is dressing but more if he is not shaved, keeps his hat on and had his headphones in while we eat together. Can't say I find this polite. Kind of selfish.
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
22 Jan 13
i agree its like he is not paying attention to you.he should always look nice for you as ma sure you strive to do.
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
24 Jan 13
I feel sorry for your ex. I don't really mind what my boyfriend is wearing. I'm not the type to go for superficial looks to begin with. However, it's important that a person maintains proper hygiene. My boyfriend wears jeans and shirts. He's clothes are ordinary. Nothing glaringly bad about his choice of clothes.