scared to go home

Canada
January 22, 2013 4:50pm CST
I have this friend who just told me about a difficult situation she is in. she lives part of the summer in the yukon and the rest of the year in BC. She had a bad time in the yukon this summer. her husband had divorced her with out any warning and is now remarrying. He is working for a church who frowns on divorce so he made up lies about my friend to the church and community to make his divorce seem more acceptable. this is all happening in the yukon so when she went there this summer everyone treated her differently and she felt uncomfortable. that is her real home there and she has asked me if she should go back this summer. I told her i can give her work here so she doesn't have to go there for work which is why she goes. but not sure what else to tell her.
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@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
23 Jan 13
If she is not guilty of doing anything bad, I don't think she should avoid coming home to yukon. She doesn't owe anybody any explanation. It is her life and she can live her life just the way she wanted it to be. However, if people would be treating her strangely, then they are obviously not her friends and they don't know who she really is and what she is capable of doing.
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@Raine38 (9029)
• United States
23 Jan 13
Oh man, what a sleaze! That's so sad to hear from your friend. And the nerve of him. This is one example that just because people go to church it means they are following the Lord's commandments, or even would show some more compassion. She's his wife for crying out loud, if he can do that do her, he can and will do that to anybody else.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
22 Jan 13
I feel sorry for your friend! That's horrible that he placed the blame on her to get out of his own wrong doings. So wrong and messed up. But its good that she's not with him anymore if that's his true colors, she can do much better!
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@SomeCowgirl (32271)
• United States
22 Jan 13
It is sad that she has to go through this. She should not feel as if she can't go back home because of the rumor mill going around. It is her hometown, it makes me wonder how many of her so called friends believe the lies. Though it's very nice of you to offer her work year round.
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@TLilly12 (1230)
• United States
22 Jan 13
This is just terrible,how her husband lied, to make himself look good, and make his ex wife look bad, so he can make it, look like this divorce is, all his ex-wife fault, some men are such jerks.
• Indonesia
23 Jan 13
If she is me. Then I will just go back to yukon and ask everyone that treat me differently and tell the true to them. I won't hide anything just for my ex husband own good. No. I am not that good person. How can ex husband remarrying and being accepted and treat him very well. No. that is unfair for me. So I will open the true story for everyone know what happen to my divorce. And after that, I can just not go back again to yukon and just search a job and stay in BC
@prashu228 (25821)
• India
23 Jan 13
Hi friend Your are right. we should be like this in these days. The man is sitting there and getting good name and she is suffering with no fault of hers. she should and and tell the whole story how the man is.I agree 100%.
@prashu228 (25821)
• India
23 Jan 13
Hi This is really sad. poor woman has to bear all the things which is not supposed to. May be she is silent and the man is taking advantage of her silence. That too he is working for a church.Hmm All these hypocrites are there in the church and the good people suffering outside. Good on your part offering a job.She will be happy once she start working as she will be engaged.
@artemeis (4018)
• China
23 Jan 13
Your friend had just got knocked down by a bus and on top of it was being blamed for the accident. Sometimes life can be incredulously ridiculous but what can we say. Your friend will both need to stand up and more importantly, believe in herself again. She really does not need to prove anything to anyone and nothing she do will prove her innocence if she does not believe in herself. As a friend, I suppose we just have to do whatever we can when we are seek and I believe you are doing the right thing catching her from her falling.