How do you cope with depression?

Philippines
January 23, 2013 11:28pm CST
I've been feeling really depressed lately because nothing seems to be going according to my plans. I am hating my job (not the job itself, but the terrible pay and the undervaluing that the administration seems to be doing to its part-time workers) and I've been having a hard time looking for a new job. On top of job problems, my parents seem to be picking on me as ever. They scold me for the most absurd things and they blame for things I did not even do. My life sucks.
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19 responses
24 Jan 13
Depression is very real. I've been depressed many times. There were times that I spent many sleepless nights and would have to drink coffee at work to stay up the next day. What I do for my depression is pray. Seek God's face. After all he says that we should cast or burdens on him. What seems impossible for men is possible wit God. Just go to him in prayer. Talk to him about your problems and see him work miracles in your life. Other things I do when I'm depressed is eat lots and lots of chocolate and cheese. I also go into a baking mood and bake cakes, pies, pizza (with los of cheese) cookies etc. Hope you get over your depression soon. I will remember you oin my prayers
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
24 Jan 13
Prayer helps a lot. Talk to a pastor, there is help for depression.
@edvc77 (2140)
• Philippines
24 Jan 13
I'm sorry for that. You have to overcome that and think of your health and yourself rather than other people looking at you. JUst do your best at your job as long as your not doing wrong go on and be the better person in office. Don't think too much of your family looking at you. I have a step sister who is eyeing on me and bullying me. It is quite opposite. I just ignore her and lifting her to God. And God avenges me and I can see it in what's happening in her life. She is full of envy. I ignore these kind of people. You can't get something good from them while thinking of them you'll just get depressed. I suggest you make yourself a better person. Love yourself and find the job you love. Move on and enjoy life. And most of all pray always. You will find peace and comfort in God. God Bless
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@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
24 Jan 13
Finding God in your life really does help. And finding the peace that passes all understanding. When I find God's inner peace, it helps me to find joy.
@celticeagle (157593)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Jan 13
I have severe depression with panic attacks now and then. When we begin to fall into the depression black hole things just seem to multiply until it is like living in a vaccum. I wonder if you might have life deprevaton this time of year. I would be spending some time trying to find other work where you won't be blamed for things you don't seem to do. And check into getting some different lighting. Check with your doctor. He could give you some good options.
@celticeagle (157593)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Jan 13
light deprevation is what I meant not 'life'
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
24 Jan 13
Life ain't that great sometimes. But don't give up. Try looking for a better-paying job so you would no longer have to stay on that present job that you have. Maybe you can start a small business so that t could help you earn some extra, too. Like making candies, cakes, bracelets, etc. You just need to think of something that you are good at which you can use as a business. As with your parents, well, I don't know why they treat you that way, but maybe you ought to talk to them sometime and ask them what they truly want from you that they always end up scolding you even for the smallest things.
• Philippines
26 Jan 13
I'm thinking of actually going full-time with writing and blogging online. I guess I should really try looking for a new job.
@toyota4k (1208)
• Philippines
24 Jan 13
The best thing is to laugh out your depression. It could do you no good taking it seriously. It might lead you to brain malfunction. Remember that they come and go as a pert o life.
• Philippines
26 Jan 13
I did laugh it out a bit. I went to watch movie with colleagues and went to an anime convention. The bad side though is that you lose a lot of money. _
• Philippines
24 Jan 13
Try talking to your parents, you know in an intimate yet casual manner. Talk to them, ask them how was their day, what'd they do, etc. It's important to know why they treat you the way they do. Having closure about these things is the only way to move forward completely and easing your sense of direction. It's okay to feel down bunnystarr :) These are times where you have to hold on and also when you realize that there's something more in your life and in you, that will help you through this. These are times, where you probably have to take things more slowly- thinking of what each choice may, GOD willing, lead you to. It's not going to go away easily. As for your job, look for one that'll not just give you good pay. Ask around your to-be employer. Probably go talk to current and former employees. Just don't give up. The way to deal with this, isn't by giving up. :D
• Philippines
26 Jan 13
I don't easily give up but somehow the circumstances lately has been making me think how useless I am.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
24 Jan 13
I can feel you whenever I felt down. But, you still have to keep on going right? I felt down before, and I want to quit so many things, but I knew that I can not simply quit doing it, otherwise, things would get worse. I hate my part - time, especially that manager, she randomly pick on people while she is the worst one there. I want to quit, but I knew that I need some extra money to help me. So I have to be patient and swallow that depression. Also, the girls I like, we seems can go nowhere. I felt like a loser at the moment. So, life is sucks, but we still have to keep on going.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
25 Jan 13
I go to listen kind of music can make me shake my body,to eat some sweet things and most importantly to chat,this makes me to release my mood and feel less pressure.So don't make yourself really depressed,nothing is biggie deal when you look back.
@HomeBase (1153)
• United States
24 Jan 13
I say that you should hang in there. You are probably very, very talented at something. You should try to stop focusing on outside forces, and start focusing on your power, which is your gift or gifts. Life is a struggle. We all get depressed. As I said, focus on your talents. Can you sing? Do you sew? Do you draw? Do you paint? Can you dance? Whatever you are into, think about that. You were not put on this earth to walk around feeling bad. Life gets hard sometimes, but you can get through the hard times. Hang in there, things will get better.
• China
25 Jan 13
Well,actually I undergo the same thing with you,I had quit my last job in last year november,and could not find a new job till now,and I am under a great deal of pressure not only form my family but also cause by the financial issue,and I try to get more interviews these days,as for how to cope with depression,I will ask some of my friends and play basketball,and sometimes I will come to some KTV singing,those will release your stress very much. Don't be so upset,and believe that next is the best,the happiness is coming.
• Indonesia
24 Jan 13
I'm sorry to hear your problem, there are several ways to cope with deppresion, like visiting counseling, Do not be afraid or ashamed! A counselor can tell you, if you do need more serious medical help. or take a walk in a beautiful place, Nature gives us healing naturally with green mountain scenery and the air is so fresh. In effect, the body and mind become more relaxed and comfortable, you can enjoy a workout in the morning sun that warms. Sports can indirectly kill the depression you are feeling. The body becomes more fit and healthy. Or read a book, By reading the book, you can overcome feelings of depression suddenly burst on your mind. Reading a book can change our perspective on the problems we face. So make sure you choose the correct reading. Mood enhancing foods, there are some foods that are known potent in improving mood, for example, just brown. Chocolate can restore your spirits and change a gloomy mood. Laugh, studies have shown that laughter can make you feel better. You may choose some comedy or sitcom you like and watch it when feel depressed. Have the courage to change, the only way to fight depression is to have the courage to change. You must have the courage to get through the darkness and into the light.
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
24 Jan 13
Sounds like it is time for you to move out of your house. If you are legal age, then perhaps it is time to look for a better paying job and find yourself a small apartment. You will probably feel a lot better about yourself, because then, you will be responsible for yourself. Also, do some volunteer work. Really, it will lift your spirits - knowing that you are a person of value for someone else less fortunate than yourself. Most people who do volunteer work are not depressed, they are happy and feel fulfilled. So, get more education, find a full-time job, find your own place to live and do volunteer work. That will keep you so busy, that you won't have time to be depressed. And, also you will feel worthy and valued.
• Philippines
24 Jan 13
Don't get I affected many are those who experienced more than what you have by now. Just stay cool and do your best. The most important is you knew where you stand. It's just one the trial, sooner or later you can over come it. I think your strong personality person, just try and try to apply for another as well make good of your current job. As long as you are doing something good, positive response is sure to happened.
@CarraC (69)
• Canada
24 Jan 13
Sorry to hear Bunny. God he;ps those who help themselves....I know how hard finding a job is...but don't give up...If you sit at that job that you're unsatisfied with, nothing will change. You have to make the move and search for something better. Trust me, I know how you feel....I've been at so many jobs that I felt over qualified for, the pay sucked....but I stayed while looking for a better way out. Just the fact that one thing is going wrong in your life will make everything else seem wrong. So it's maybe just frustration making it seem like your mom is picking on you. You will be ok, just pray about all your problems. God is always there to help, but you need to make the first move!
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
24 Jan 13
hi there bunnystarr, depression is quite difficult to bear however, if you have some people around you that help you think positively, you can handle it normally. but, as i have read your post, it looks like you are in the situation that you need to look for a friend to talk to, wherein that friend will also be your shoulder to lean and cry on. hence, thru this way, you can release some feelings that you need to shout out. and this is one way to cope up with it. though on top of all, prayer is the best answer.
@jagjit273 (1754)
• India
24 Jan 13
Hey buddy, l understand that you are going through a bad time. But always think positive and keep on doing what you can. For cheering yourself up just watch comdey programmes on tv and listen good romantic and catchy music . No sad songs please. May god bless you.
@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
24 Jan 13
Hey bunnystarr, i think you are just facing a bad point in your life right now and it's making it worse because you feel extremly tense about it. For your job, since you have already decided to quit, just try your best to find another new job. View more newspapers and online resources and go for more interviews. Send more resumes to companies that interest you. I believe if you do that, you'll be able to find a new job pretty soon. As for your parents, I think you need to take some time out to think about why they blame you. I think maybe if you really didnt do it, you need to let them know and talk to them about it. Hope life gets better for you:)
@iva75cpb (729)
• Bulgaria
24 Jan 13
You're too young to feel depressed, but anyway I'm sorry you feel this way. One thing I have to say is you should stick to the job you have at least until you find a new one, because it is really hard to find a job these days. Otherwise you may stay on the street and THEN you'll have bigger problems with your mental state and your parents. I don't know them so I can't say what provoked their attitude to you, so on this matter you should talk to them. Life sucks most of the time, this is how it's structured. I suggest you try and find the little things that can make you happy and ignore problems that are not as that serious as the job and parents. When I feel sad and hating everything and everyone, I find calmness in stuff I love, for example I have a piece of chocolate (by the way it increases the levels of happiness hormones, try it!), and I grab my coat and I go out. Just walking without purpose for a while. It helps.
• Philippines
24 Jan 13
Depression puts a tough time on one’s life, however you can cope up such by dealing with the depressant in a way that you are more positive on thinking it’s solution rather than sinking it to a more complex problem. Diverting your thoughts from positive to negative, helps you ease your depression putting a transition from a bad thought to a good thought. Take in good energy and withdraw the bad ones makes more effective solutions to your problems. Also, it’s good to talk to someone rather than hiding what you feel, bursts it out by letting someone listening to you and take in their advices.