What Methods Do You Apply to Maintain Good Relation?

Dhaka, Bangladesh
January 23, 2013 11:42pm CST
Hi Mylotters, It is very difficult to maintain good and sweet relation with the partner all the time. It is very common that some arguments or debate take place time to time. But those are settled by negotiation or mutual discussions. You can share those points here if you do not have any objection. How are you maintaining good relations with your husband/wife/bf/gf? Please share your knowledge and experience.
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@maurya83 (923)
• India
13 Feb 13
Nothing, i try to just be myself :) as I experienced as much as you try to keep everything perfect it hurts more..when you apply methods and efforts to maintain a relationship you expect the same or more in return and then situations go out of hands..I have accepted the things as they are and he do the same, life is not a fairytale, two minds cant go in same direction all the time. We just know we cant live without each-other inspite of all fights and arguments and all is well.. :D
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• Dhaka, Bangladesh
14 Feb 13
Hi Maurya, thank you very much for your response. I do not disagree with you but my mentioned points help to maintain a everlasting relation. Both should have compromising attitude because there are possibilities to do some mistake but it should not be considered seriously. How is doing your baby inside? Have a very nice day.
@maurya83 (923)
• India
13 Feb 13
*together with all fights and arguments*
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• China
25 Jan 13
People will find it inevitable to argue with each other when they are in a relationship, since they are different from each other. Argument may be hurting, but it favours the two sides to understand more about each other. And communication has all the merits of argument, and none of its defects.
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• Dhaka, Bangladesh
25 Jan 13
Hi Sarah, thank you very much for your response and sharing of your knowledge. Yes, you are very right. We must have the capability tolerate each other. because while staying together some arguments, some faults may be there but we should not be reactive in all aspects. Have a very nice day.
• China
25 Jan 13
To maintain a good relationship people should admire the shining points of each other, and meanwhile be tolerant enough of their shortcomings. Don't waste time attempting to change your partner, and instead try to adjust to him/her as well as the situation, while you can enjoy yourself from the fun and happiness within.
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@celticeagle (158958)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Jan 13
Yes, it is difficult now days to maintain good relationships. It is normal to debate and have differences in opinion from time to time. You just don't want to end it on a negative note. To maintain a good relationship you have to have a good foundation in friendship and caring for the other person. THen there must be trust and respect. Something in common is always good and gives you less to argue about.
@celticeagle (158958)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Jan 13
And you as well.
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• Dhaka, Bangladesh
25 Jan 13
Hi celtic, thank you very much for your response and sharing of your knowledge. I agree with you. Yes trust and respect must be there to maintain a good relation. have a blessed weekend.
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@iva75cpb (729)
• Bulgaria
24 Jan 13
Me and my boyfriend live together. We've been together since 2000 and we have a little daughter. The reason we manage to maintain a great relationship and still love each other is that we both have respect for each other and mutual understanding. And there is trust between us, because no relationship can survive if partners don't trust each other. We argue, of course, we have severe quarrels over petty things, but in the end we manage to end it with talking and what more important, listening to each other. Also we try not to argue in front of the child because this can traumatize her. So basically it's respect, understanding, love and trust, fighting life and problems together, listening to each other and not hiding what troubles us from the partner.
@iva75cpb (729)
• Bulgaria
26 Jan 13
Thank you, you have a great day, too
• Dhaka, Bangladesh
24 Jan 13
Hi Iva, thank you very much for your response and participation in my discussion. Yes you are very right. Love and mutual respect are the strongest weapons to maintain a good relation. Yes, some argument, some sentiment will be there but your love, mutual trust, sacrifice for each other are very vital points to maintain a ever lasting good relation. Have a very nice day.
• Philippines
3 Feb 13
Maintaining a good relationship is quiet difficult. It is normal for both to experience some arguments and mis understanding. In our situation, I usually keep quiet when he is angry. Then after a quarrel we do talked and gave each other time to explain each sided with regards to the arguments. Then we never forget to express each others sweetness like romances simple talks and dates just for us.
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• Dhaka, Bangladesh
6 Feb 13
Hi daisy, thank you very much for your response and sharing of knowledge. You are very right. You both should have mutual understanding. Sometimes your hubby may be angry, then you should remain quiet and sometimes you may be angry with him, the he should remain quiet. Have a wonderful day.
• Philippines
24 Jan 13
In my take, trust is most important in dealing with relationship. You should trust your partner and at the same time trust yourself in a way, that you shouldn’t give your all on your partner. Give a little time on yourself than sticking to everyday life as if you can’t live without your partner. Be happy, and think of a positive and loving life. Make everyday a good and unforgettable one in a way putting simple things as special moments that you and your partner will treasure for a lifetime.
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• Dhaka, Bangladesh
24 Jan 13
Hi friend, thank you very much for your response and sharing of knowledge. You are right. I agree with you. I think love, mutual trust, sacrifice for each other, patience, honesty and well communication are very much required to maintain a good relation. Have a very nice day.
• Philippines
25 Jan 13
You are very much welcome!
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• China
25 Jan 13
We have never had quarrel with my husband before we married. I think this is a good situation I should share with u. Be considerate! If he or she doesn't wanna talk then don't talk too much to him or her, wait until he or she change his or her mind.
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• Dhaka, Bangladesh
25 Jan 13
Hi Annie, thank you very much for your response and sharing of your knowledge. You are very right in your opinion. Have a blessed weekend.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
25 Jan 13
First of all it is very important to be honest at all times. Also when you argue stick to the subject at hand, don't start bringing up things that happened in the past, that never goes well and makes the argument last longer. Also don't name call. Calling each other names is very hurtful.
• Dhaka, Bangladesh
25 Jan 13
Hi ladym, Thank you very much for your response and sharing of your knowledge. you are very right. Have a very nice weekend.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
26 Jan 13
I think that me and my partner are doing ok. We allow each other space to pursue each others dreams while taking time to support each other. We allow each other to be upset and vent without holding it against each other. We are considerate of each other without losing ourselves. We are not perfect and we argue sometimes but we know that we will still be together tomorrow.
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• Dhaka, Bangladesh
26 Jan 13
Hi Jen, thank you very much for your response and participation in my discussion. You are doing fine. You keep on doing these good jobs for each other. Have a very blessed weekend.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
25 Jan 13
a loving elationship is neve all one-sided. it has to work for both partners to last and develop and be nurtured. sharing your thoughts good and bad and supporting one another only strengthens the bond.
• Dhaka, Bangladesh
25 Jan 13
Hi sender, thank you very much for your response and sharing of knowledge. You are very right. I agree with you. Have a very nice day.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
25 Jan 13
Things aren't great all the time. And yes, there were times where in my husband and I had huge fights. But somehow, we have lived through it all. I do try to be a better wife for him and I always hope that he sees that, too.
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• Dhaka, Bangladesh
25 Jan 13
Hi Jenny, thank you very much for your response and sharing of knowledge. It means you are passing a good conjugal life but all are not like that. There are some people who does not know many things and react in the family and as a result, peace of family is disturb and sometimes separation takes place. Have a very nice day.
• India
26 Jan 13
Hi friend, both couples must have trust and understanding with each other to keep their relationship for a long time without any issues. They must avoid EGO and become an open book to each other to maintain their good relationship for a long time. A little secret have the ability to spoil a life long relationship, so we must avoid hiding anything in a good relationship. Both husband and wife must be open book and share every thing to keep their relationship for a long time with out any problem. They must have a proper understanding and loyal to each other to avoid issues in their life. Husband and wife relationship is an intimate one and there is no secrets between this pure relationship. If any one of the couple hide anything from its partner and the s/he come to know about he secret, surely s/he will get a huge pain in the heart for the hiding activity of the partner. Always be frank with your spouse and give equal importance to him/her. Consider them as your best half to keep your relationship in a good manner
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• Dhaka, Bangladesh
26 Jan 13
Hi Vidyaprakash, thank you very very much fro your response and participation in my discussion. You are very right. You have written so many good things, which are new in this discussion. Thank you once again for your informative response. Have a wonderful weekend.
• Philippines
25 Jan 13
Just be true and honest to your doings. Just be who you are. Discussions from time to time is good for you've able to express yourself and git rid of problems within tolerable stage. Good relation is an ever ending responsibilities to both parties to maintained. The human wants is always unsatiable for now on you need to explore and through discussions you can adjust yourselt to the demand of the situatons.
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• Dhaka, Bangladesh
25 Jan 13
Hi, thank you very much for your response and sharing of your knowledge. I agree with you. You are very right. Have a very nice weekend.
• China
25 Jan 13
dear, as for the maintaining of good relations with friends beside you, i think the most important part is mutual trust and understanding. Frequently we start the argument because we think others do not understand us and hold their own opinions, but if we change the position, we put ourselves on the position of others, then we may know more feelings of others, that's quite important.And i believe if you start to think for your friends, they will know and also consider for you, that's the way to creat good atmosphere, thanks.
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• Dhaka, Bangladesh
25 Jan 13
Hi Olivia, thank you very much for your response and sharing of your knowledge. Yes I also believe that for maintaining a good relation mutual trust and understanding are very important factors. Argument is not good for maintaining a good relation with the life partner. Have a very blessed weekend.
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Jan 13
Constant communication plays a big role to maintain good relations at home. How will you know others feeling if you don't have constant communication. Even you asked those old people who are still strong relations with their family.
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• Dhaka, Bangladesh
24 Jan 13
Hi Julyteen, thank you very much for your response and participation in my discussion. Yes you are very right. Constant communication plays a vital role to maintain a good relation. Have a very nice day.
@ladynetz (968)
• Canada
24 Jan 13
From time to time it is really hard to maintain a good relationship. My husabnd is very demanding and wants to be in control all the time.Has to know everythign and at all times. I have nothing against it as long as you're not putting on us too much pressure. It's like I have the ring not on my finger but on my neck and it is suffocating me. So when his way is not same with my way of doing thins, I explode.And he does what I want. Otherwisw I am compromising a lot and take care of everything. Up to a point.
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• Dhaka, Bangladesh
25 Jan 13
Hi Ladynetz, it is really a undesirable news that your husband always wants to run you as per his desire. In the 3rd world countries and less educated ladies are suffering this type of problem from in most of the societies. However, try to make understand your hubby that you should have some degree of freedom to run your life and personal choice. Good relation may last long for mutual trust, sacrifice for each other, patience, honesty, good communication and sharing of feelings etc. Dominating attitude cannot develop good relation. Have a very nice weekend.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
24 Jan 13
Love is enough to maintain a lasting relationship. Because love is patient, love is kind. Love is not jealous and not envious. Love is never boastful or proud. Love understand and accept the one he/she love as a whole. Love is unconditional if two loving hearts know the real essence of it.
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• Dhaka, Bangladesh
24 Jan 13
Hi Jaiho, thank you very much for your response and participation in my discussion. Your comments are very nice and it seems like a good poem, which touched my heart. Have a very nice day.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
24 Jan 13
We don't often see each other these days. We call each other once in a while to see how the other is doing. I think honesty in a relationship, being comfortable in each other's company, doing interesting and fun things together is good for me. I'm satisfied with deep and fun discussions between me and my partner. I'm not romantic though.
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• Dhaka, Bangladesh
24 Jan 13
Hi Aja, thank you very much for your response and participation in my discussion. Yes you are very right. Honesty is the best policy and it plays a vital role to maintain good relation. Have a very nice day.
@shahmi (81)
• Sri Lanka
24 Jan 13
yes it is correct I also met with this case. I think if we want to Maintain our Good Relation so we must listen them very much and when there is a problem if we give up then we can Maintain our Good Relation but it is very difficult
• Dhaka, Bangladesh
24 Jan 13
Hi Shahmi, thank you very much for your response and sharing of your knowledge. You are very right. I think love, mutual trust, honesty, sacrifice for each other and communication are required to maintain ever lasting relation. Have a very day.