Ever had life change as you knew it?

@JenInTN (27564)
United States
January 24, 2013 7:22pm CST
That one day when it happened. Life changed as you knew it. Maybe it was for the good, maybe it was for the bad...momentary bad..I can't bear to think that anything is without purpose. Too many things have happened to me with purpose that I didn't see right away as having it. So what is that day life changed for you as you knew it? Was it a good change? A bad change? Still struggling with it or has it presented a purpose? Have you had several of these or just one big one?
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@Renhard (3480)
• Jamaica
25 Jan 13
The period I didn't get accepted to university because lack of funds. From there and then I knew my achievements weren't going to carry me anywhere. I needed to either get money or try to achieve so much that would shock their eyes. Just something. So this big change made me stay home one whole year trying to achieve more and more I did achieve. I feel that it wasn't a waste though because I did achieve more. This year I am going to apply again and see what happens. Hopefully things change for the better in the end. I have had other big life changes like two years ago or so I already got accepted into college to do computer engineering, but I denied the offer at the last minute. And I mean at the last minute when I already started the school because I realized that wasn't what I really wanted to do. I wanted to become a surgeon not a computer engineer really. I figured I chosed computer engineer in the first place because I wanted to come out of school early and started to work but at the end of it all would I enjoy it. I thought not, my grades didn't even match up to the students in that area. My grades were much higher and even the professors questioned if this was what I really wanted to do. Computer engineering wasn't a challenge for me, it was like a walk over subject for me. And even though I would excel greatly at that, I wouldn't enjoy it so best to do something I both love, and something that is manageable but a little more challenging. I love challenges so I think it is best I stick to become a neurosurgeon.
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@JenInTN (27564)
• United States
26 Jan 13
I think that you holding out will bring you great things. You will also save many lives with your career choice and sometime the "meant to be things" are for more than just ourselves too. Thanks for sharing!
@Renhard (3480)
• Jamaica
27 Jan 13
Your welcome, I just hope I make it so far. It will take so many years to study for that, but I promised myself to try until I am successful. Fifteen years is a lot to study. There is a lot of people who told me they could never manage to stay in school that long. I am trying to tell them, that is what some people have to go through to help others. That is why most doctors and such are well respected, because they go through so many stress to make sure you can survive a brain tumor or a broken leg. If mylot is still here in years to come I wish I can create a topic after it all name: "I have finally become a neurosurgeon"
@JenInTN (27564)
• United States
31 Jan 13
@allknowing (72973)
• India
25 Jan 13
HAPPY MOMENTS!! There is always this thought that accidents happen to others but I was wrong. It was on Valentine’s Day, of 2006, the vehicle that I was travelling by, was knocked down by a heavy truck carrying Naphtha. We were two in the vehicle besides the driver but I was the only one who was badly injured. For someone who is one moment bubbling with enthusiasm and the next is gifted with seven fractured bleeding ribs and two fractured vertebrae in the lumbar region it would be seemingly difficult to encounter happy moments in the 9 months that were required for complete recovery. But trust me I found them!! I know of people who have met with serious accidents and have also read about their trauma, and the painful recovery process but little did I know that there would be countless moments of joy in this whole experience until it happened to me. I love travel and have been among the fortunate few that have the globe trotting experience. I have been in and out of several planes. Several cable, gondola and roller coaster rides have been a part of my travel package. Cruising down the pacific ocean in luxury liners, several boat rides in the still waters of the Hudson river in the USA, a donkey ride on the precarious hillocks of Pehelgam, Kashmir, a walk in the Ice Palace of Jung Frau Alps in Switzerland and countless such adventures with no incidents of injury but nearer home I meet with this accident for reasons not known but it did happen. Right from the moment I fell there almost under the truck till I was able to get on my feet it was a smooth ride everything having fallen in place – good doctors, good nurses, countless friends/family members to cheer me, thanks to my mobile phone which really saved my life as the required contacts could be made because of it, maids to take care of me , finances taken care of – thanks to the medical facility that I had - each day bringing in new hope – the physiotherapist with her smile giving me hope with encouraging words – I could go on and on - suffice it to say there were moments of joy every step of the way. Who says calamities only give misery? I became a new person, having faith in myself, in my abilities and a new belief that one does not have to have a bed of roses to be happy. Happiness can come from any source and I became a testimony of that. The greatest joy was when I was told I could take the first step and to see the sky, the trees, the birds which were hidden from me for almost 6 months. Sitting on my wheel chair I toured my house, my kitchen, my bedroom, my landscaped garden, all this I had taken for granted as being something that would always be there but I got a second chance a new lease of life that made me realize the worth of every small bit that gave me joy which otherwise perhaps I would not have even noticed. I could climb up the stairs to my computer room – what’s so special really but after 9 months of total bed rest this sure was an invaluable gift to be able to climb the stairs one step at a time. Everyone rallied round me even my Vet recommended that I take something to strengthen my bones, which he recommends to his patients!! The orphaned children who I had spent time with on several occasions were en mass praying for my recovery.. So I was told while I was in the hospital. Being a Reiki Channel I kept it as my constant companion which no doubt played its role. Many who were witness to the way I handled this calamity returned with new hopes in their life as they also felt that no matter what if one knows to sail through any disaster that is what is needed to be happy. It is not how much one has but what one makes of what one has is the true road to happiness. I am now introduced to Physiotherapy which should be a way of life with the young and old not necessarily who have had injured limbs or whatever. I do it on a regular basis and feel I have a spring in my step though not the kind of step I would want to take but a measured one. I no longer am strapped to props to support my ribs and back and am back to my brisk walks and busy about my chores cheerfully savoring every moment that has been gifted to me.
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@JenInTN (27564)
• United States
26 Jan 13
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. It is truly inspiring and will help myself and many others think twice and take a moment to appreciate the wonderful things in our lives that we can sometimes take for granted. Thank you
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@allknowing (72973)
• India
26 Jan 13
@GardenGerty (105344)
• United States
25 Jan 13
In the last several years I have had many deaths in my family, including my high school sweetheart who was my first husband. He had a year's illness and we grew closer and closer and resolved things that we needed and it was a bitter sweet experience. It has proven to me that I can do many things I thought I could not do.
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@lelin1123 (15643)
• Puerto Rico
25 Jan 13
I have had at least to life changing moments that changed my life forever. It had to do with both terrorists attacks at the world trade center. I was working there both times. The second attack though changed my life more so then the first attack. The second attack took my friends and co-workers away from me and their families. I no longer had my second family to see everyday at work. I always thought I would have to work till I was sixty-two or sixty four. I was able to stop working at 50. Which was five years after 9/11. Due to that horrible ordeal I now live in Puerto Rico and by God's good grace I no longer have to work.
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@JenInTN (27564)
• United States
26 Jan 13
WOw! That was a life changing thing for me and I was no where near there. I can't imagine how it would have been for me if I were.
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@agent807 (726)
• United States
4 Feb 13
Most my recent life changes had to do with jobs. I lost my job back in 2011, but it took a year and a half to find another job. During that time, I was constantly fighting the unemployment office while I was looking for another job, and attending school. Because I went without money for so long, I lost my apartment, and was forced to move back in with my parents. Also, because there is so much political turmoil where I live, I was nearly thrown out of school. Dealing with all of these government issues has made it difficult to concentrate on anything else, especially school. The job search was so maddening that I was actually looking at moving to another state. As an experiment, I applied for the same job in three different states to see who would call back. I received phone calls and emails from the two locations that were out of state before I even received a phone call from here. I am still waiting for them to call back. I am still pondering moving out of this state since the way I see it, I have been here all my life, and I have not accomplished anything, and things are getting harder here. I did find a job back in June, which I thought I was going to like, but I realized that the job really wasn't for me. There were some things that I did not like such as working 70 hours a week, having one day off (which made school impossible because that one day was Sunday), and I didn't like working 12-15 hours without a break. There was too much stress, and where I worked at was can be described as a hostile working environment. Finally, I had enough. I had a plan on how to make it on my own, which I decided to act up on it, and turned in my resignation which I have not worked in the past two weeks. Feels interesting not working again, but I did it on my terms, which makes me feel good because I feel like I have some control over something again. I did land another job which is a lot more flexible, and more of what I have been doing when I volunteered to kill some time, but I haven't been able to start it yet, because there is a government department that is involved with this project, and they are having more political turmoil as we speak. While I am still in this state of flux, I am taking the time to craft this plan of mine because I still want to escape this prison they call a state. I want to be able to something on my own, and I would like to get away from my family because they have been too much of an influence lately, and not for the positive. I wold like to get my life back on track, but since I am in the middle of a crazy transitioning period, I think it is time to experiment with another track.
@JenInTN (27564)
• United States
6 Feb 13
Sounds like things are really tough in your state right now and if not for everyone, for you. I think that everything happens for a reason and if you can make something out of what you have been handed...you are doing just what you are supposed to be doing. Maybe if these things hadn't happened...you wouldn't be hashing this plan of yours out at all. I look forward to hearing how it works out for you and, whatever you do, don't give up. I work 7 days a week, supervise three shifts, and am taking two accelerated courses per week right now. Easy..no...for a greater good...yes. I miss my friends here a ton but I graduate this year. You can do anything you set your mind to.
@agent807 (726)
• United States
6 Feb 13
The economy is still doing pretty bad here, despite what we keep hearing from the politicians and the media that things are doing that much better. They are trying to get people the idea that Michigan is making this drastic turnaround from the terrible recession that we were facing, when people are still losing their jobs, and their homes. Maybe outside of here, things look different, and I guess that is how you get people to come to your state. But as a person that has lived here all my life, it is hard to see positives when they are easily outweighed by the negatives. A lot of people have felt this way as well since so many people have left Michigan in hopes of starting a better life. I think it is time for me to to that as well. It just came to me one day. What's funny is that once you get that moment in your head, everything, including your perspective on things just suddenly change. I have jotted down a list of places that I would like to move to, from what I have been gathering on my research. I also realized I have abandoned a lot of stuff to get to this point. I did lose a lot of friends, but the way I see it, if they were good friends, they would either help or encourage, not be such crabs. Thanks for the words of encouragement.
@JenInTN (27564)
• United States
8 Feb 13
Your right...friends are supportive even if it means losing you in a sense. There are places just like yours all over the US but there are also places where things are looking up. I had this mentor of mine move to a different country. I asked..almost pleading...Why? Why are you going and moving your family there and his answer was...Jenny..in this day and time things are global. I want to give my children every opportunity to succeed in this future. Being able to move is one of those ways to give them these opportunities and it doesn't mean forever. I was terribly sad but I understood and if it is not another country..it may be another state. We have to look at being adaptable in these days and times and it may not be the traditional way of thinking. I hope your friends come around. You deserve that. Take care.
@thesids (22351)
• Bhubaneswar, India
25 Jan 13
Hi JenInTN For me? Of course. Thrice or more! I will cite the last 3 here - 1. I got infected with Ulcerative colitis in 2000 - That triggered many things - bad health for sure but I still continued. Nothing changed much but I guess the changes that followed are due to this. 2. Got married in 2007 to the one whom I love and who loves me (I am more happy about the second one - who loves me) - I want to live for her. 3. Got attacked by Rheumatoid Arthritis in 2008 and was on bed for 8 long months - Was a painful thing as our marriage was barely a year old and I had to see the one whom I love the most on the planet suffering and doing things beyond capabilities. I got so much depressed and sad that one day I thought to kill myself. Somehow, managed to not do it and have been "alive" since then. The 3rd one has left me stay at home, and today I am unemployed. Initially, it was like end of the world but then today, I think it is somehow turned into a boon. Yes, I am still unable to earn enough to meet my own expenses but... it has given me a chance to look beyond what I was prior to this, it has allowed me go for things which I could never have earlier. It has made me more hopeful, more positive and above all, it has made me realize the value of many many things.. Today, I think I was blessed to have these ailments and do hope that soon, the better days would arrive for me when I can manage to earn better from home.
@JenInTN (27564)
• United States
26 Jan 13
Hi thesids! No illness can keep a strong man down and the fact that you have found the "one" for you is so special. There are people out there that never find that person. I used to think that everyone did eventually but I come to realize that my belief was very wrong. I am so glad that you have found this faith and positivity in your life. I believe it will make you stronger and happier. That is a belief that has been pretty much proven to be true.
@thesids (22351)
• Bhubaneswar, India
26 Jan 13
Unfortunately many people out there believe in achieving or getting together with the person whom they love and not the other side - find some who loves you and start loving that person. In this search and belief (which I think they do because of their egos or anything else, they forget that it is always better to stay with someone who loves you as s/he can go beyond his/her capacities for you much unlike the one whom you love and maybe the other one never actually loved you). I mean, if I was with a person whom I loved, there might have been a little more satisfaction for me but maybe this person whom I loved and was with never really loved me! That would never had done any good for either of us. Now, let me ask you... why did you post such a discussion? It everything all okay with you? I sensed some depression here, in your discussion and also in responses.
@JenInTN (27564)
• United States
27 Jan 13
I guess I am just really tired dear friend. Thinking of those life changing moments, both good and bad, that have brought me to this moment. I have to double up on my classes so I can graduate this year and I work all the time. I have been working some swing shifts so I can effectively manage three shifts and to be honest..I already need a vacation. It's just the beginning of the year and I am saying that. Other than just being tired I am ok
• Philippines
26 Jan 13
Well, we really can’t predict the future since the future is subjective the only solution that one should do though is to conform on the situation you are stuck with and find ways and means to solve and to execute a more good and flexible life. It’s normal to have ups and downs in one’s life, I for one experience such but although the downs are the most hardest to conform with most especially transitioning to the situation, I just keep a positive note on it and find a better solution for it not to be permanent in my lifestyle.
@JenInTN (27564)
• United States
27 Jan 13
Positivity has certainly been a weapon of mine for a long time. If I hadn't been so, I don't know what would have come of me. I think that there is great strength in keeping a positive attitude. It is not easy sometimes but I do think that things work out.
• Philippines
27 Jan 13
True, it does makes it more easier to achieve in resulting things most especially when we set a positive thought despite the worse case scenarios. Thanks for your response!
@KrauseHome (35507)
• United States
6 Feb 13
Well my friend, since you have known me for a few years you know I experience many good days and things in my life as well as the bad so personally you learn to accept it and hopefully learn to work thru everything to help turn the bad into the good. You also have to pray if you believe in god, and trust him to see you thru and in tome everything will be ok. Just learn to keep positive and in time, everything usually works out.
@JenInTN (27564)
• United States
8 Feb 13
I have a great faith in things working out. You set an example for all of us dear friend. Keep up the fight and roll with the punches..right?
@katsmeow1213 (29043)
• United States
4 Feb 13
Yeah, life changes everyday. We grow up and make changes. We move. We have kids. Kids grow up and move out and have their own kids. Older relatives die and are no longer in our lives. The big change I'm going through right now is with my job. I've decided I won't be going back to work as it's causing too much stress and both hubby and my doctor think it's best I just stay home for now and take care of the kids. It means money will be tighter and things will be harder.. but I do think being with the kids will be for the best.. at least until the fall when they're all in school full days and it won't be so difficult anymore.
@JenInTN (27564)
• United States
5 Feb 13
There certainly is a lot of stress in some jobs. I am glad that you decided to do what was best for you. I bet the kids will like having you there all the time too.
• Greece
4 Feb 13
I have had lots of life changes but the most dramatic one was probably the last one I had. After living abroad for years an opportunity arose for my husband to return home and of course I went with him. So at a time when most women were beginning to enjoy grandchildren and old friends, I started a new life in warmer climes. After 7 years I can comment that there is no such thing as a 'new life' - I have kept in touch with family and friends in 'the old country' and visit them as often as I can. My new life has meant a considerable change, I cannot speak the language fluently, I have made new friends but they never knew me when I was young and probably cannot imagine me ever being any different from the 'mature' person I have become. The shops are different, the social life is reduced, the weather is beautiful, my house is the best I have ever had, the view from the windows is breathtaking. A good change? Yes in many ways but of course I struggle from time to time. When tht happens I turn the clock back and go home for a short while. It was and still is an adventure that few of my friends have ever wanted or had. But I was always adventurous and it was likely that my life would be rather different from my peers. Having to adjust to new ways has kept me younger I believe because I live with daily challenges rather than daily comforts.
@JenInTN (27564)
• United States
5 Feb 13
Sounds like that is a challenge. I am a bit adver=nturous too and the on thing that I have noticed is once you have been the traveler..it tends to call at you sometimes. I know it does me but I have settled into a much different lifestyle too. It has been several years now and the main reason was because of the children that I settled. I bet it was tough moving somewhere where they spoke a different language.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
28 Jan 13
Aside from the days were my kids were born, which changed my life from not caring too much, to being a father (twice over), I think a day which changed me was the first day I got into university. It was both scary and exciting. It was when I arrived on campus and realized, I was not with my parents anymore. No one to protect me if I got into trouble. And no one to protect me even from myself.
@JenInTN (27564)
• United States
31 Jan 13
Great choice! We can be our worst enemy sometimes for sure. That is a day of awakening when we realize we are on our own.
• Australia
25 Jan 13
For me, it was finding out officially that my eldest son as autism. Life as l knew it was already changing. Then, nearly 12 months later, my youngest son was diagnosed with a type of autism called PDD-NOS. That flipped my world over. I didn't think we would get through it, especially when hubby had a breakdown about it. But I managed to hold everything together. I organised all the therapy at Early Intervention and worked very hard to get them both ready for mainstream schooling. This year is their second year of full time mainstream. Both my boys appear 'normal' and are leading a full life. I'm so proud of them and am so thankful for their diagnosis as it has made me a much better person :)
@JenInTN (27564)
• United States
26 Jan 13
I am glad to hear it is working out. Things sometimes happen that we don't understand but it causes us to get up off our knees and do something. It makes us stronger.
@mariaperalta (19094)
• Mexico
25 Jan 13
I had it... the day I decided to leave my ex and move 3600 miles back to mexico. I had taken enough abuse from him. Im so much better now...
@JenInTN (27564)
• United States
26 Jan 13
Good for you! No one deserves to be abused.
@sizzle3000 (3039)
• United States
25 Jan 13
The day that I Had my daughter my whole life changed. I think that many mother's can agree with that. You make all these plans with your life and your set with your ways, but then you get notice that you're expecting and everything changes. The way people accept that change is different but then you get another change. Everything changes the day that you have that bundle. Because then things get unsure yet you're so happy and that day things change for the better.
@JenInTN (27564)
• United States
26 Jan 13
Your right. Bringing life into the world changes everything. I know it made me a better person to have my children.
@sneha12 (46)
• Nepal
25 Jan 13
I also think what happens in our life these all things have some purpose. Some good change happens where as some bad. In this stage of life i am facing all the negativeness of my life. Failed in love ,carrier other relations every where negative change. Good things are not happening so really very upset.
@JenInTN (27564)
• United States
26 Jan 13
I am sorry to hear that but just think...you may have failed in love because your true love is still out there. Only good can come from the future if things are really bad for you right now.
• Kochi, India
25 Jan 13
Strangely I have had nothing of that sort.Maybe its because of my easy go attitude,that I don't give too much importance to anything."Changed my life as I had known it",that sounds pretty supernatural to me.If I were to tag any event as "changed my life",it would probably be a meeting with the God or the aliens.I always fantasied me getting superpowers after coming in contact with Aliens,and when you wake up from all of that,it feels so horrible.
@JenInTN (27564)
• United States
26 Jan 13
It can feel pretty supernatural too..lol.
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
25 Jan 13
I have had several over the course of my life. My most recent one was when I up and quit my last job. I have working in food service most of the time I have been working and I just decided I was done in food service. I have gotten a few seasonal jobs for now, but I still have to decide what I am going to do with my life after tax season is up on April 15th and I have to find full time permanent employment. So I guess I am still in the middle of mine.
@JenInTN (27564)
• United States
26 Jan 13
Finding that "right" job is a challenge. Good luck with that. I used to be in food service too and I know how fed up you can get with it. Good luck with finding that job!
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
25 Jan 13
I think that the vast majority of us have had a lot of different events that have happened to us during the course of our lives that have changed our lives as we knew it. For example, the first major change in my life that I can think of was when I was fourteen years old and my father passed away. Then it happened again when I was 22 and my daughter was born, 24 and I got married, 26 and my son was born and even 30 and my husband was diagnosed with cancer. Some of these changes have been good things and others have been bad, but they have all had a tremendous impact on my life as I know it.
@JenInTN (27564)
• United States
26 Jan 13
We all certainly have had life changing events. Thank you for sharing yours. They can be hard and it sounds as though you have had your share of those. I know that loss is inevitable but I sure hope that you don't have to experience anymore.
@Dominique25 (9475)
• United States
25 Jan 13
Yeah it often feels like things are constantly changing in my life. Sometimes it feels like this are improving and then other times it just seems we are hit with a lot of bad things. We will have to take things slowly though. I hope in the near future we are able to get ahead of ourselves and feel more at ease about our circumstances. Our most present change we are still struggling with.
@JenInTN (27564)
• United States
26 Jan 13
Change is not easy.. sometimes not even when we want it. I have had many occasions when I have wished for changes but they didn't quite happen the way I wanted them too. I hope that you don't struggle long and that your change is a blessing.