Cake Vs. Pride

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I had an interesting discussion with my mother, or should I say a series of discussions. My birthday is on the 30th (today's the 24th I believe). Every year for the past few years, I've had a delicious Black Forest Cake from the bakery down the street. Black Forest Cakes from there run about $25, but they're BIG, and they're DELICIOUS!! I only get them on my birthday, and they are worth every dollar. My mother usually springs for a special dinner at her house, a cake, and gives me a card with $50 in it. My husband asks me what I want, and we figure out what's in the budget. This year I got a new dress, and we're going to our favourite Serbian Restaurant for dinner on my birthday. So Mom mentioned that this year a black forest cake might not be in HER budget, and would i like another kind of cake? Hubby and I completely understand Mom's circumstances this year, and since he likes this particular kind of cake as much as I do, he said he'd gladly buy me one himself!!!! This is not me being selfish. Remember, his favourite too. :) This was him offering to make things a bit easier for Mom. Mom kept trying to convince me to get a cheaper kind of cake, even though we told her Hubby was going to pay for it. I finally just ordered the Black Forest Cake myself, and paid for it with the cash Hubby and I set aside. I called Mom, and left her a voice mail letting her know I appreciate everything, and not to worry about the cost of the cake. I mean, it's NOT like I'm buying my own birthday cake, and even if I was, I'm happy getting the cake I want, even if it means I pay for it myself. For Hubby's birthday I was able to give him a vacation in Montreal, because I had not spent an Air Mile in 10 years, and everything was free. We do what we can with what we have, and if others are not as financially able, they are not the only members of the family. If you were in Mom's position, would you be happy that someone else was happy to pay for the birthday cake your daughter really wanted, or would you insist on something cheaper, because you wanted to pay for it yourself? As the daughter in this case, no matter how big or small, if someone gives me a million bucks, and someone else only gives me a hug, every contribution to my birthday celebration is equally valued by me. Your thoughts?