An ex boyfriend is already a transgender

@kokomo (1868)
Philippines
January 28, 2013 12:48am CST
Hi guys, What would you feel if you heard or learned that your ex boyfriend or partner is already transformed into another gender identity? Will you be hurt? How will you react on this kind of situation?
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@lsjapdoit (652)
• Indonesia
29 Jan 13
That is an individual choice all right, but I would still be surprised if that happens :)
• Philippines
31 Jan 13
If I’ll be stuck in such situation, first I would totally feel hurt it’s quite normal to feel pain most especially when breaking up with somebody. And surprisingly the person you have with has been hiding on the closet for some time in your relationship would totally feel off because he is not honest about himself. However, on a lighter note, I would feel happy for him because he already found inner peace with himself shedding off who he really is without any pretention. I would feel proud that he’d come out of the closet because such transition is indeed not easy to do.
@Angelpink (4023)
• Philippines
29 Jan 13
It depends , if we are that close already then i would be very hurt because i thought and believed that he was a real man and have learn to love him else if i knew that he was a gay before then i would not have loved him . Since he comes into open now , then nothing i can change and do but to accept him as he is . It might be so hard in his place hiding and covering the real him , so its better to understand him , let each live . Life is just like that , so strange and shocking sometimes but life has to go on...and be enjoyed .
• Philippines
29 Jan 13
Well as a man, if I see my ex become transgender then I will want to be friends with her for real! :)
• Philippines
29 Jan 13
Maybe the first thing that I'll do is to laugh, not to offend that person,but because people really changes into something you didnt expect them to.
• Philippines
29 Jan 13
For me, it depends. If I still love my ex, well surely it'll hurt but if I don't have any feelings for him/her anymore maybe I'll find it hilarious. But of course, I think that changing your identity is just a normal part of person's finding his/her self. We get confused all the time and for me, it's not a bad thing that you change your identity..
@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
29 Jan 13
If my ex will be a transgender well I will be amazed., and I will be insecure if she is prettier than me.. lol..anyways what are we become is already a past so if she is happy now I will be happy for her too.. people can do whatever they want as long as they are happy and not stepping down others,.
• China
29 Jan 13
That is crazy,and usually this plot will happen to novel or TV drama,it rarely happen in our daily life. But it really happen to you,yes I think on the very beginning when you heard the news,you must be hurted,but I think after a few days after you will get over it,because done is done,everyone of us should move on our life.
• Philippines
29 Jan 13
Wow... That would be a shock reaction. I really do not know how will i react for that kind of situation because i never experienced that before.
@toyota4k (1212)
• Philippines
29 Jan 13
Have you experienced that? If I were you, I would just say to myself that It's none of my business. Anyway he is my ex and I have had a good time with him.
@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
29 Jan 13
I don't think that I would be hurt about it unless I felt like we shouldn't have been separated. But it would really be weird to find something like that out. I would just be very surprised. It would shocking to learn something like this.
@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
29 Jan 13
Maybe I would be surprised. And then probably be proud of him eventually. Proud because he summoned enough courage to do what he wanted. Hurt? Probably not. As of this moment, I have no baggage, no left-over feelings for an ex.
@jadoixa (1171)
• Philippines
29 Jan 13
at first i would be shocked but then if that is what he truly wants then i just wish him all the best in life,,.what we have between us is already past and whatever makes him feel happy it is his own choice. so god bless him!
@doroffee (4233)
• Hungary
28 Jan 13
I'd be hurt, to be honest. I would not date someone who thinks they are other genders, because that would be complicated (he would want to become a female, yet I'm not attracted to women)... yet if he didn't tell me... well, then I would see this as him not being completely honest with me in our relationship. This is a thing that a person knows from their childhood, and a thing that should be told and explained early in a relationship. I wouldn't be hurt because I don't wanna be associated with a femae, but because I would feel that I lived in a lie.
@Mavic123456 (7910)
• Thailand
28 Jan 13
hmmm... this is exciting.. how can he be trans... when he became my BF. no wonder, he walks with more swaying hips than I do while we were walking holding hands. Hmmm no wonder he always borrow my press powder, he said his face is oily. Never thought... sigh... I thought he has such great lips, so pink, sometimes so red, he said the color depends on weather, hmmmm. he said, it's the lip gloss. tsk tsk tsk... never thought he wears lipstick. arggh!!! What will I do? hmmm I know I shall take my scarves he borrowed last time. specially the floral one...
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
I will totally be numbed by shock! Most probably,I will make my own investigation to find out if rumors were true hahaha! And if it is, I will ask him how did he realize that he is gay.What prompt him to come out in the open? Had he been gay before we broke up? OMG! I am laughing my head off now. I am actually imagining my ex-boyfriend if it were him.
@aejey322 (1006)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
Maybe I will really be surprised and end up recalling some situations that leads me to realize that he already has hints before. But I will not get hurt, unless he has done something negative to me when we were still together. But since he is already a past, then I do not have the right to interfere with his plans. I will be happy for him if he is really happy to his newfound life.
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
Of course I would be hurt! Because I would feel that I've been betrayed! Besides, I can't imagine that he lied to me all those time. :)
@pals101 (2011)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
If I am a girl, i would be happy for him, at least he found his true happiness and purpose in life..
@jenny1015 (13394)
• Philippines
28 Jan 13
I couldn't see myself in that situation really. Coz all the boyfriends that I had are the BAD BOY type. And knowing that one of them have gone through such transformation, I would definitely be in shock!