Will you still forgive a family who always betray you?

Philippines
January 28, 2013 10:03pm CST
I have this kind of family members who always betray us secretly many times. and they never change till now despite of all the kindness I have shown to them. We only end with a fight every time I confront them to what they have done to me. for I believe I don't deserve it and they have nothing to reason out for their works. How about you? sometimes I need prayers so that I can have heart to love the enemy especially the secret one.
13 responses
@ctryhnny (3463)
• United States
29 Jan 13
This sounds so much like my family but no matter what they are mine and I love them good or bad. love thine enemy!
• Philippines
10 Feb 13
yes, although it is hard. we have to follow " Love your enemies"
• Philippines
29 Jan 13
Your a Saint if you can do it. Remember it is common to say forgiveness but I think as a human you have no right to forgive it is the work of GOD ALMIGHTY to forgive or whoever your Lord must be. I think you can forget the pain and let go of it but not forgiveness for you can't re-write the past. If I were you, I will leave that family members they are not worth for you, look for a family that you can trust in times of hardship. Family is not always of blood for sometimes, it is who will be at your side on hard times. I am maybe harsh but why not? check if really you are with the same blood, who knows at the end you will discover you don't have actual blood relations.
• Philippines
10 Feb 13
God give us the brain and God command us to forgive because in this God will measure us. This is the essence also of being a "true christian".Yes we are only humans created by God so we need to follow Him.That's what I realized now after reading the comments.
@gimong (124)
• Indonesia
29 Jan 13
I will forgive them all as long as they want me to succeed.We should have positive thinking to them .They act like that because they want to get the most positive for their family. and some times they are forced by some situation they can not reject it
• Philippines
10 Feb 13
my situation is I give positive thoughts to them i give kindness to them,but they still haven't conscience and giving back evilness instead of appreciating the kindness we show. I don't judge, that's why I always been betrayed.
• Jacksonville, Florida
29 Jan 13
It is more difficult to forgive family than it is to forgive a friend or a stranger. Why? Because we feel they should not have hurt us in the first place. Family is supposed to love us and bring us up not put us down or hurt us. So that makes it harder to forgive them... I have a very hard time forgiving some of the family members that have hurt me a lot. Like most people, I feel as though they should love and not hurt me. I do forgive eventually but it is very difficult to do... I will be praying for you that you will be able to forgive who ever it is soon. =)
• Philippines
10 Feb 13
thanks for sharing your opinion. yEs it hurts because instead of expecting them to be the firs one who will comfort us, but disappointingly they do the opposite thing. and it Hurts being hurt with someone you love and same blood. being betray with friends and others only hurts our pride but with family it's both mind and heart.especially if you been together since birth
• Indonesia
17 Feb 13
My advice would you have to be patien in dealingwith your problem Solve your problem with a pure heart I always pray for the best for you... Amien
@DoctorDidi (7030)
• India
9 Feb 13
No, I will never be able to forgive them. If I get enough evidence of their betrayal, I must try to take revenge. It is true that to forgive is to divine. But I cannot follow it in practical life.
@jenny1015 (13394)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
I have no personal issues with any member of my family. But I guess, the anger may or may not go away depending on the behavior of that family member. I am a very patient person. And I do try to understand each and every situation as much as I can. But of course, I can only take so much. If my temper hits boiling point, no matter who that person is, it's definitely the end of the relationship
@babyeve (1051)
• Seychelles
30 Jan 13
I will be able to forgive that person with time. But I am not able to forget the incident completely and will make sure that this incident does not repeat itself again. Much more, I would not be that close to that person again.
@averygirl72 (15521)
• Philippines
30 Jan 13
Your case is true, it can happen. You should forgive them because you are doing a favor for yourself by being kind and forgiving. However, don't trust people that betrays you because they are not good to keep in this life but be good to them and forgiving.
@lafavorito (2970)
• Philippines
29 Jan 13
Trust is like glass, once broken, it can never be be the same again. I was betrayed by my own mother so many times because of money. I forgave her wrongdoings but I do not trust her anymore. Everytime i see her, a big wall comes up between us. And no matter how much she tries, I just can't make myself trust her anymore.
• Philippines
29 Jan 13
Since it is your family. Just forgive and forget. But try to give a distance to them.
• Philippines
29 Jan 13
I've experienced the same thing and I exactly know how you're feeling. At first it really hurts but when you learn to accept events/decisions as they are then you'll start to forgive them. Whenever things do not go your way, you often get mad especially if its your family. In my own experience, it took about 2 years for me to fully understand and accept things. Maybe you can start to look at things from their point of view as well then slowly analyze the reason why they could have done that. Then, if you already tried your best to change them and nothing happens then let them be.Just be yourself and do good to others.
@berting600 (3461)
• Philippines
29 Jan 13
You better forgive your family,as whatever have you observed from their treatments towards you.They all know you are hurt by their actions,yet you do not know that they are still caring for your situation no matter if it hurts you still it could affect positively to your future.It is very hard to forgive a family,even if they like the best for you,yet you know all of it hurts your feelings,yet it is meant to curve what you like in life.You can forgive a friend easily than a family,which are on tract of you.The sooner,you could realized your family really loves and cared for you,that was because they have done weird actions against you,yet it turn out you are the one who could benefit out of it.