that unwanted emotions..-.-

Philippines
January 29, 2013 1:13am CST
I shouldn't be affected because I am moving on, right? But the fact that my ex-boyfriend tells me that he already has a new girl, it made me have this unwanted emotions that really bothers me now... I really hate myself for being so shallow because of simple things like this, but I myself don't understand my feelings sometimes. You know, the fact that I am in the process of mending myself from that painful relationship, there he is, happily telling me that he's happy with his new girl, who is his high school crush before whom he courted as well. I don't know if he's just playing around or something, but he's intentions whatever it is of telling me that bothers me now and I can't focus on the things I should be doing! Blimey! I just hate him for making me feel this way again! tsk! :/
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14 responses
@lsjapdoit (652)
• Indonesia
31 Jan 13
People in your situation would act the same way you do, and that's only humane. Don't stay there too long. Keep networking and making new friends. You will find a new suitable boy friend in no time :)
• China
30 Jan 13
Since you have gotten over your ex-boyfriend,so you should feel easy about all this stuff,it is common sense that people will find new lover after he/she break up with his ex,and so do you,you no need to feel sad about that and your Mr right is waiting you,please move on.
• Philippines
30 Jan 13
Hello! I think what you feel is just normal. You should have told him that you are happy for him. Just move on, focus on improving yourself, and in time you will be able to forget your feelings with your ex and who knows, someone better than him is waiting for you. Be positive.
• Philippines
30 Jan 13
Dont let emotions get you down. Boys are most of time like that because they dont invest much on feelings. Its normal for girls to be like that especially if you havent fully moved on. Just think positively, focus on your interests, family and friends. Always keep in mind that you are special and if you just broke up with someone the reason is that it just didnt work out and he is not worth it. You made mistakes to learn, so start a new beginning. Be jolly and thankful for everything you have.
@andy77e (5165)
• United States
30 Jan 13
How long were you with him? Were you living with him?
@mariaperalta (19094)
• Mexico
29 Jan 13
shame on him to even tell you that.. if he truly cared for you.. hed know you need to get on with your own life. Take care. Hope you find someone better than him....
@ulan12rc (223)
• Qatar
29 Jan 13
It is a natural emotions what you've feeling right now as you have said you're just moving on so it means you are not yet done with him, you still feel that something for him that bothers you now. Need not to hate your feelings it will eventually subside as time goes by, try to help yourself to divert your thinking to another things and make yourself busy to avoid remembering him. As much as possible do not entertain such feelings for your fast recovery, make your mind occupied by more important things than him. Good luck!
@alberello (4755)
• Italy
29 Jan 13
Well, dear friend, you should know that there are things like emotions, feelings, moods, etc. that can not be absolutely controlled by our will, unfortunately! So I completely understand that now knowing that your ex is already accompanied by another girl, this bothers you, a lot! I do not think he wants to play to hurt you, but it is still quite sincere telling fact that now he is happy with his new "crush". You, anyway made ??strong, try not to think too much and live your life. I know, however, that these words will not help, unfortunately, to "dry your tears," and I am sorry!
• Jacksonville, Florida
29 Jan 13
I think you should do something you want to do. Find hobbies you enjoy and do them. Go out with friends and family. Surround yourself with people who uplift you. Stop worrying about him and what he is doing with his life. Worry about your life and making you happy. Once your truly over him you will find someone new to spend your time with and the thoughts of "him" will be over and done with. If your always thinking of him and what he is doing there is no way you will find someone new to make you happy! He sounds like a mean person so he is not worth your time and energy anyway...
@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
29 Jan 13
I would tell him to leave you alone and that you do not want to hear about his life. Try to do things that you enjoy. Spend time with family and friends and before you know it you will meet someone who cares about you. Keep yourself mind busy so that you don't think about him and his life that much. I know how hard it can be I felt a similar way after me and my boyfriend broke up awhile ago.
@mythociate (15600)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
29 Jan 13
"The best way to get over somebody, is to get (involved with) someone else!" That's (sorta) how the song goes; your ex is just showing that he is too weak to make it without someone else. You can either take it as a sign that you are "Stronger" (an awesome song by Kelly ... I wanna say the last name is 'Rowlands'? maybe I'll look that up---opening MyLot Search in another tab, typing in 'Stronger, song, Kelly' ... No! it's "Clarkson," Kelly Clarkson! Now, where did I come up with 'Rowlands'? I'll 'Search' that later ), or else it's a good example for you to follow---find you a new boy & make him yours!
@WakeUpKitty (8706)
• Netherlands
29 Jan 13
I can't help saying it but your ex is a childish person or he is a sick person. If the relationship is ended why does he feel the need to tell you he already has a new gf? This says way more about him as it says about you. Might be he just wants to stab you again or he is showing he is not such a pathetic person as he is in reality (and which I think he is). Fact is (it's proved) that generally speaking men do have a new gf within 3 weeks after the relationship is ended. Women take 5 years for it. It's also proved men do need someone to take care of them, women are happy they get rid of the guy they Always have to take care of. It breaks them down in time (so they are not that stupid anymore to start a new relationship to be that free cook, cleaning lady, nurse, nanny, for free). It's also natural it does take time to find yourself back again. Even during the period you did start a life alone. So be patient with yourself and be happy with every minute, hour, day you managed and you gave yourself some great quality time! You will notice it will get better each day. Please pamper yourself (write it down to do at least 3 great things for yourself daily). Plus tell your ex not to call you anymore or speak to you since you are not interested in his pathetic life. BTW I doubt his new gf will like his behaviour. Seems to me he is not really ready for the new relationship otherwise he would not invest time/energy in keeping you updated.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
29 Jan 13
If you re still mending your broken heart, then why are you still in contact with each other? What s he trying to prove? I think he is very insensitive towards your feelings. And for the thing that he did, I think you should stop feeling sorry for the lost relationship and start making a wonderful life without him. If he is capable of being happy after you, then you can do it yourself as well. Don't spend another day thinking of him. Move on and never look back.
@songst557 (232)
• China
29 Jan 13
He just want to make you angry,that's all,that way,he can make himself more important,or even he is thinking how to get you back cause he is the regretful one.Don't worry about it,whatever the truth is,just ignore him,make him can't connect you,like,put his phone number in black list,won't exceed one month,you will find his real purpose.