When it comes to my mom, I do give all the best and respect...

Philippines
January 29, 2013 11:06am CST
A pleasant day Fellow Mylotters, I am not an ideal daughter but when it comes to my mom, I do give all the best and respect to her though at times she always turns her back to me since I am not her much-loved one. And because I do respect my mom a lot, I always got mad whenever my brother and his wife raised their voices whenever they communicate with mom. But, my mom just ignored it. Instead, she always told me that don't mind them, eventually they will realize what they are doing. So I opt to be quiet regarding this matter but there are times, I can't take it anymore. As in they keep on raising their voices as if they are just talking to a kid. And this annoys me very much. There are times, I want to talk to my sister-in-law and confront her about this but should I ask permission first from my mom. And if I do it first, for sure, she wont allow me to do that. Instead she will again tell me, let it just be, for sure eventually they will realize what they are doing. Oh my, until when this thing happen. My brother and his wife are old enough and they should know how to respect an elder.
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11 responses
@lsjapdoit (652)
• Indonesia
30 Jan 13
You have done the right thing to respect your mother. You are also wise to be quiet instead of getting into argument with your brother. Perhaps you could ask your brother and sister in law if they like their kids to treat them the way they do your mother. Who knows this can make them change their attitude towards your mother for the better.
• Philippines
30 Jan 13
Good day lsjapdoit, I have done that and apparently it didn't went good. Plus my mom just told me not to mind what they are doing, she always insist that, time will come, my brother and his wife will realize eventually that what they are doing is not proper. So, what more can I say, my mom instructed me this way.
• India
30 Jan 13
Hey airasheila, Your brother his wife raise their voices because they need you to go in a good path and they need not to see you in troubles. Take the things in positive way and try to adjust with it and make sure that you don't get hurt by them
• Philippines
30 Jan 13
to thewonderboy, i guess, you have some confusion here, the point here is, my brother and his wife is the one raising their voices to my mom. and because of this gestures that they are doing towards my mom that is why i feel disappointed. since for me, respect should be given towards our mom.
@Angelpink (4023)
• Philippines
30 Jan 13
Hello Aira ! I can relate with this situation. Oh somewhat we are in similar situation. I am not mom's apple of the eye since childhood until now. I am dad's favorite but he was in heaven already. Despite not being the favorite , still i respect mom that much and not making me her favorite doesn't made me love her less ! I still love my mom very much though she boldly show unfairness and favoritism. I have accepted the fact , that some parents are really like that , we can no longer change that, just learn a lesson and continue loving her because nurturing me inside her womb is enough to tell that she also loves me thought not as special as my sister.
• Philippines
30 Jan 13
Indeed, there is no way to change it. And I don't even plan to modify it. Only, I just hope that one day, even the time that I will passed away, she can shout these words out, friends, this girl is my eldest daughter and I am proud of her.
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
30 Jan 13
a mom deserves all the respect in the world so do all our elders and parents.unfortunately some people dont care much about this.i think you do your part,you can't make your brother change and his wife can behave that way because she sees her husband do that,just make sure you give your mum the best,this will bring you blessing in future.
• Philippines
30 Jan 13
i guess, you said it so. that is, i can't really push my brother to change so as his wife.
• India
30 Jan 13
Any way I am glad to know that you had a good mother who supports you and cares you a lot. May your your brother and your wife see you a little cute child and this might be the simple reason why they advice you every time. Anyway Don't mind them, go up with your decisions but make sure that you have the full support of your mother. I don't mean that you have to leave the and don't respect your brother and his wife. Just act smart to the things. I mean that act like an one who hears them and who acts good to the things. So that they won't advice you any more.
• Philippines
30 Jan 13
thewonderboy, i am not sure if you got the point of discussion here, the reason why i am somehow angry at the situation is that, my brother and his wife doesn't know how to respect our mom. hence, for me, my mom deserved to be respected. instead, my mom just ignoring the situation that she was not being respected by my brother and sister-in-law. and that, my mother is just telling me, not to mind my brother as well as his wife since eventually they will realize what they are doing is not proper.
@chiyosan (29390)
• Philippines
28 Feb 13
I am not a perfect daughter too, and i havee had my fair share of giving her headaches and some scares too. The scares i am talking about was when i had a boyfriend in my senior year of college. Mom was worried I might get myself pregnant so she was really always trying to know where i am and where i will be. I completely understood her and of course I tried to make her feel and realize i won't do that and break her trust. When it comes to my mother, I know that I will always choose her, I will always try to please her and try to make her feel that she is loved and respected. I owe it to her. She has sacrificed a lot for us, especially when my dad left us for another woman. My mom concentrated on work, all she did and think of was for the betterment of al of us, my brothers and I. She worked and strive to let us finish college so we would have better lives and would not have a hard time to find a good job and make a name for ourselves. I have seen her sacrifices, and this is why I knew in my heart I will always see to it that she will feel that we are giving back to her all her sacrifices and they weren't for nothing. Mothers are really wonderful. I am not a mom myself but I think I would know how I want to be and what I want to be like when I become a mother myself.
@julyteen (13265)
• Davao, Philippines
30 Jan 13
It is our responsibility to do our best for our mother because they are the who understand our weaknesses. I am sad because I don't have mommy right and only my father presently living with me. My father although he respect me much but sometimes I need to tell him hurty words so that he will be aware about his mistakes.
@toyota4k (1212)
• Philippines
30 Jan 13
There is no one else other than a mother whom we owe much to. She was the one whom God used in order for us to come to this world. She deserves the most of love we can give. If you don't do that, don't expect your children to give you all the respect in the future.
@mariaperalta (19225)
• Mexico
29 Jan 13
I was the same way with my mom, she was truly my best friend. She will have passed a year next week.. I miss her very much. Take care there...
@Raine38 (8756)
• United States
29 Jan 13
I can understand your feelings as a daughter. Maybe you can talk to your bro and sis in law, and tell them that whatever and however they want to treat your mom is their problem and their own weight to bear on their conscience. But maybe with you around, they can try to avoid disrespecting her. Just when you're around or nearby because if they can bear to do that their own mom/mom in law, well, you can't. They're old enough and they know whether its right or wrong, soon they will also realize the error of their ways. When they reach your Kim's age, they can only hope some extra patience and extra courtesy.
29 Jan 13
Don't worry about it.She probably doesn't feel disrespected.It happens a lot,especially with children who are a mother's favorite.The mother does not usually see the bad side of these children.Only the good side.
@subhojit10 (7384)
• India
29 Jan 13
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Aw, that is so sweet of you and it is very touching when u said that u might not a be a good daughter but when it comes to your mother u try to keep her happy and content and i think it is a characteristic of an ideal daughter who is concerned about her mother. No matter what one is thinking about oneself but it is always our duty to respect and love our mother and father. What say?