Stress at work..

United States
January 30, 2013 3:56pm CST
I've been under a lot of stress at work lately. I'm finding the atmosphere to be very uptight and stressful. I've actually been having sleepless nights because of it. Every tiny thing is magnified so I'm constantly questioning if I've made any mistakes.. and I think the stressful atmosphere is causing more mistakes than usual. For months I've been struggling to get up and go to work.. but lately it's been getting worse, to the point where I'm really debating if I will keep showing up even though I have nothing else lined up right now. I feel terrible and hopeless. I think it's physically making me sick. I had an especially bad day today, and I've been feeling nauseous all day. I've been fighting hard for the past few months to find another job.. and over the past couple weeks I've stopped caring where that job may be (I'll drive a little further if needed), how many hours it offers, what the pay is.. I don't care, just anything to get me out of my current situation. But I still can't find anything. I keep trying to remind myself of all the reason why I can't quit. Money isn't the only thing.. although it's a big part of it. My resume is part of it also.. if it's this hard to find a job now, how much worse would it be if I quit my last with no notice or couldn't stick with it when things got hard? I'm also trying to remind myself that I'm not the only person with a stressful job. So please.. do me a favor.. tell me about the stress at your job! Maybe it will make me feel better!
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7 responses
@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
31 Jan 13
I wish that I could advise you to leave as you know what stress did to me. I wept tears of blood and was so scared of my boss that it made me physically ill and helped with my heart problem. You cannot leave without giving notice and preferably not until you have another job. I will pray hard that a job will materialise soon for you. I am so sorry that you are going through this nightmare. I don't have the stress of that job again but just the stress of the twins really at this point and of course, I do miss my salary when I used to work full time. It does make it difficult to manage but I give thanks that I still have my part time job as this really helps.
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• United States
31 Jan 13
Yes I remember the stress you went through, and it really wasn't fair. You do have your part-time job and that's great. I think you are better off now.. off course I wish it hadn't taken the heart problems to get you to this point.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
31 Jan 13
I work in a small shop. In the office, there's just 5 of us, and two of them are owners. Aside from doing my own responsibilities, I'm also in charge of keeping things moving on the floor, and parts out the door. I find that the 9 hours I spend at work isn't enough for me. Sometimes when I bring my kids to their after school activities, I sneak back into the office to do a little more work. The piles on my desk keep growing and growing. Not to mention my annual audit is coming up soon, and I haven't started on the things which I promised my auditor last year that I was going to do over the year. I guess I'm going to cram again. And this does not help lower my stress levels.
• United States
1 Feb 13
Hmm.. you need to delegate. But I understand, small shop, probably not a lot of others to delegate to. Perhaps you can convince them to hire you an assistant to help with some of your duties. Convince them that if you can get things done faster your area of the department will be more efficient meaning more productivity (stuff going out the door faster, etc) which leads to more money. They could even just hire a part-timer to work 4 hours a day.. even that will take some of the burden off your shoulders (part-timers are easier to hire as they don't need as much pay and won't need any benefits, saving the company money). Maybe this part-timer could actually help all 5 of you in the office.. and take a small burden off each of your shoulders, depending on where they are needed that day.. again boosting productivity.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
2 Feb 13
We've actually been talking about hiring a part timer. Specially this year where the business is projected to get bigger. I have a problem with asking for help. But maybe when it's really dragging me down, I would finally ask for it.
• United States
3 Feb 13
Aw geez! Stop being such a guy! Asking for help is not a sign of weakness It would be a great idea if they hire a part-timer and that person is able to help you a bit. You don't want to drag all that stress home to your kids. Wouldn't it be great if you could watch their practices instead of going back to the office?
• United States
30 Jan 13
I went through the same exact thing you are going through a few years back. I ended up quitting but they closed a few months later anyways. I was just a complete basket case there, and it's too long to even put down what I went through. If you can hang in there at least until you find another job, I would suggest you do that. I never did find another job, but I'm older so the odds were against me anyways. It's a company market right now and they have their pick on who they want to hire because there are so many people looking. And they're nasty about it as far as I'm concerned. They never let you know whether you have the job or not..they just leave you hanging forever. I had to take an early retirement because of it which I didn't want to do at all. I lost money doing that. Try indeed.com as they are usually legitimate....I know our unemployment services here uses that website so I would imagine they're ok....but always be careful.
• United States
31 Jan 13
I just graduated college so I'm trying to find something more in line with that.
• United States
31 Jan 13
Oh, I'm sorry, I didn't know that. I hope you find what you're looking for, I was just trying to help.
@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
30 Jan 13
Right now, the main stress is learning a new system, and a new business, and fitting in, in hopes of getting hired on permanently...
@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 Jan 13
PS too bad you can't just transfer to that other branch....
• United States
31 Jan 13
Oh I know, I wish I could.. I liked it so much better there.. and the way my hours and days off worked out, I almost felt like I wasn't even really working. Now I'm back where they are understaffed and under more pressure and this week I wasn't scheduled for a day off at all..
@AmbiePam (48176)
• United States
31 Jan 13
I think you might know what I'm going to say. It involves a doc and a medication. Because all those symptoms sound like they are more than stress. If you don't have the money for the copay, I say take some video games your kids have and sell them to a used store. Okay, so I don't want you to steal from them. I was just thinking about ones they don't play anymore, and then on TV I saw a commercial for a place that buys back used video games. And I'm also assuming they have video games. They may very well not. So that's it. You can roll your eyes at me now. Shame on me!
• United States
31 Jan 13
Apparently I was having an anxiety attack last night. I didn't even know I had anxiety problems until last night.. but now that I think about it, I think I always have, just never really had a full blown anxiety attack like I did last night. I called into work today.. which caused some anxiety. I need some help figuring out my next move.. so I am going to try to get an appointment with not only a doctor, but also hubby's therapist.. but not because you said so
@gimong (124)
• Indonesia
1 Feb 13
It is general that we need condisive environment in every place and time. Sometimes the aplication of new rules can anoy us.Sometime we don't want to make them insult but it happens neither our friend or our bos do
@TLilly12 (1230)
• United States
31 Jan 13
I work here online, and I remember when I worked my last job, I hated going to work everyday one day, I went to work,and this woman that was in change, of my department said something to me on this day, and she made me so mad, I was going to go to the time clock, and clock out and quit that day, but my friend had came by my job ,and told me not to do that, I worked my last job for 6 years, and I am glad I no longer work there any more, that woman that worked there, the company got rid of her, because she was causing, too many problems.