Is it possible love someboy just the way they are?

I think it all depends on how one views or defines love, and how to love. Yes, I do agree that the fairy tales we are all made to be aware of are quite overrated, if not very overrated. This reality has hardships, mind boggling and soul tearing challenges that are very crucial. I think that relationships often go downward is because we often expect the fairytale to somehow be true for us, one way or another. I have seen some couples who have survived the test of time and have done quite just as you said any couple should- give to one another. A person whom you decide to be with has to be someone that complements you. The way the are complements you- meaning that he helps you in your weakness and adds to your strength. But knowing who should that person be, is the challenge. I think it comes to knowing the kind of life you want to live and the life you would want to share, and how you would live it. That first, then the somehow important and trivial things such as likes/dislikes, good/bad habits, etc.

It is possible, esp. if you meet someone at the moment you are yourself. But most of us are not. We get dressed up, do our best but in time we don't care about that anymore. Even if you are not trying to change someone you will change/grow closer. That is natural.

It is possible, friend. That is depending on your acceptance with the man that you cherish the most. Love did not classify anyone unless those lovers promise to love each other...

its only possible..if u actually..Like the way they are... if u dont like th eway they are..dont love em.. say..u like a girl with long hair..and then she said i wanna cut my hair really short..and wanna have a gf relationship too..same time with u..it will be awesome..." but u might say.."No..dont do that..i ilike u already the way you are..' that what the phrase actually means..

The question is, is it possible to love somebody just the way they are? Yes it is possible. You are right no on is prefect but when you are in love your not going to care if they are prefect you just cant' help but love them. No my husband is my dream guy but is perfect for me the way he is. No he isn't shape but it's his personality that made me like him and want to be with him and it still is. Have been together for 4 years married 3 years.

It is possible but rare. You need to realize people have mistakes and those mistakes are part of who they are (flaws). Love is perfect but the person is not.

well to me loving someone is just about that. loving him/her just the way they are. i believe in true love, that means accepting the person as the whole package. when you love someone, everything about that person is acceptable. imagine the guy at the next table at the restaurant lets out a loud burp after his meal, you'd probably think it's gross. but if it's done by the man you love, you'd think it's kinda cute. granted, there will be something about the one we love that we wish he/she would change. but that is not enough to make me love him less. i accept him as he is and i thank him for accepting me as who i am. if i am not perfect, why would i think i deserve a perfect man?

Yes I think that if you have the will to love somebody you can love him/her. Love is to accept the other person with virtues and faults. If I´m not perfect, how could I expect that somebody loves me? I think nobody of us if perfect. And we should try to look for somebody the most near to our own vision of our soulmate, this way loving each other would be less hazardous. The perfect man or the perfect woman, are nowhere in this world. Love is acceptance, mercy, peace and charity. And many things more, you can read it in the Bible 1 Co 13 1-13. It´s a very beautiful description of love. Happy Valentine´s Blessings Babyeve... dainy

I love my husband Just the way he is....I love my children just the way they are....Ect...Ect...We are all very different, and it takes a lot of work to make a relationship work, and become perfect....and when you have love to start with, any thing is possible.....

I think it's totally ok to love someone just the way they are.to be honest,my husband is a the type i dream for, i know he has a lot of weakness,however,i still love him and married with him. because i can accept him,no one is perfet and i do have a lot of shortcomings,yet my husband loves me much,sometimes he even think my shortcomings is cute. Hi,we have that saying right ? i love you not because who you are but because who i am in front of you,i do not need any dress up,i can totally be who i am,isn't great ?

You sound like a Proverbs 31 woman, a virtuous woman who 'loves her husband all the days of her life.' On first reading that, I thought, "Oh, like King Arthur & Gwenivere (Sean Connery & Julia Ormond), where he was one of her father's friends so she always loved him?" But no, the Proverbs 31 woman works to make herself worthy of a good husband, loving 'the space in her life that she needs him to fill.' See, the truth is that you never love anybody else; you love 'the way you are compelled to be when you're with a particular person.' So no, you can't love anyone just they way they are; because if they don't need your help to change (or to continue being the way you like), there isn't anything for YOU to do!

if they are not having really bad things in their personality i mean something more than the usual silly small things, sure you can love any one the way they like, but again if that their bad things are not huge or really something you hate to be with or among that thing of their daily life

I think just please you man will not get the back sometimes,so in your case,I think if you really want your man treat you great you should find someone love you more than you love him,then you will be satisfaction.

I think it is, but it won't last very long. Love is blind especially at first when you're all happy and you can't see that your partner is just human who makes mistakes and who isn't perfect.

Perhaps at the beginning you can stand it and you don't mind it. However, as time goes by, you will find that you want to change some of your love one's bad habits. And at that time his/her shortcomings are obvious for you. So I don't think it is possible to love anyone just the way they are, especially you have close relationship with them. You want them to have a change as the way you like.

Yes you can. Love is choice. No it's not easy. But unfortunately opposites attract and I've seen people that were oil and water, and still choose to love each other, even though they had very little in common in so many ways. Based on your statements, I think you give yourself to men in hopes they will give back. That is NOT the way to find out if a man will choose to love you. In fact, typically if a woman does whatever she can to please a man, the result is normally that he has little respect for her.

In my opinion, if you are not able to love someone with all his/her faults, you don't really "love" this person or, at least, not "enough". Love is not based on looking for the faults of the other person and, after, trying to change him/her. It is alread explained in the Bible: but love covers all transgressions (Proverbs 10:12). To love a person includes to accept him/her as he/she is. But, naturally, you have to be cautious and choose well.

You make sense, babyeve. And I have just realized that now. So maybe all those time that I was so madly in love with the person, I was really blinded with all his flaws.....But, isn't it just what love is all about. You love a person just the way they are? And if some problems do happen along the way, everything could become either for the better of for the worse.

Its interesting to respond. I may be wrong, but this type of question comes to mind particularly in two situation. First, when someone is search of a love. Second, when someone approaches you to love / marriage. In first case, i think one may get trapped with a person of completely different nature/ taste/ living. In fact love is not a process to think and start. It happens, even without your knowledge, when you find someone caring for you. In second case, it is possible that you are introvert and your friend want you to come out of your thought. Perhaps you are thinking like him since last few days. But as a whole, if someone think, getting a love is the solution of his/her problem, then definitely his/her life will be like a beggar only, who can never be a chooser.

i think this might be possible as long as we try to see his/her strenghts more than his/her weaknesses.personnaly speaking i can't do this because i have many expectations from my partner.in movies all seems to be very easy and we all wish those stories but it is harder in real life..