The second time around:-)

Philippines
January 31, 2013 2:56am CST
Is it ok if I get married again after four years? Ive lost my husband 2years and 6 months ago. He was been missing since then, and the company already declared that his dead. But no one exaclty seen what really happened. Im into a relationship right now, Does four year is enough?
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12 responses
• Philippines
3 Feb 13
Yes you can! . Apparently it's been a couple of years now. You should find your happiness! . However, be careful and be wise in choosing a man to marry with. You want to get marry to be happy again, not to be hurt. You deserve the best of your life daisy. Godbless
• Philippines
3 Feb 13
Thank you friend. yes I do deserve someone best. I want to re marry to be happy again, and not to the man who will just hurt me. Im happy now coz I think im on the right track. I have a boyfriend who always make me feel that I am always loved and thats all that matter.
@sulynsi (2815)
• Canada
2 Feb 13
I think it should be said, this is a very sad situation. I can only imagine how hard this has been for you. Not even knowing what has happened to your dear husband. My deepest condolances to yourself and for your little girl who lost her daddy. Whatever you choose to do, for her sake as well as your own, I wish you all the best.
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
Thank you dear friend:-) My mind is hanging with our situation. Whenever he is, we hope and pray that he will be at peace. Its not that easy but Im trying to move on. My daughter already had an idea about the situation.
@wolfie34 (26893)
• United Kingdom
31 Jan 13
Life is too short to wait around, time moves on, people change, and if you are happy, truly happy then why not get married again? True love doesn't come round very frequently and when it does you want to grab it with both hands and don't let go. Good luck to you, I wish you well. I am sure your husband wouldn't want you to be unhappy and would hope that you find happiness now that he has gone.
• Philippines
1 Feb 13
Thank you. Hope whenever my husband is, he will be happy for me. I loved my husband more than anyone else. But that was in our relationship. And it will always be cherished. Now its time for me to recover and think more of myself.
@MyLeeian (18)
• Saudi Arabia
31 Jan 13
Love has no limitations. Go on, be happy, i will give you my full support. If it is for your happiness and you really love each other, why not. To have a partner in life as you grow older is very important.
• Philippines
1 Feb 13
Thank you:-)
@ally12 (1205)
• Philippines
31 Jan 13
I dont believe in time frame. Its not what is should be consider in making decision. It is our selves that is should be assessed. Are we ready enough, whats our reason, is it valid? If you feel that you are ready to love again and you have the right reason to be and not only because you are lonely and you need a company to fill the absense of your lost husband then why not? Tho for me as long as I dont see my husband's remains I will never consider to find new one. I'll be hoping of him coming back to me, but again that was me and I am not you..
• Philippines
1 Feb 13
How can you wait if you are unsure of someone? I dont even know if Im waiting for someone alive? He was gone in an ocean, so probably his remain cant be seen. Im ready to feel in love again. But I do consider the feelings of my n laws. They are not yet ready, Im ready..which will i follow?
@Archie0 (4676)
31 Jan 13
I think it should be fine. Until and unless you both are in love with each other, and you feel secure with him. Because once again you would not like anything bad happen with you. So you have to be a little wise here.
• Philippines
1 Feb 13
Yes, I can feel security with him. But I dont love him as much as I loved my husband before.
@chicgale (2983)
• Philippines
31 Jan 13
I think it is enough already. The important is, you two are in love with each other.
• Philippines
31 Jan 13
Thank you:-) Yes Im on my process of loving him with all I have. Were just waiting for right time for us.
• China
1 Feb 13
Four year is longer enough,the previously four years must very tough for you and now you can move on definitely.
@mariaperalta (19225)
• Mexico
31 Jan 13
wow... thats a tough one. I can understand you moved on. Id think after 4 years hes gone forever. But you really never know. What do they say happened?
@marjivy80 (198)
• Philippines
31 Jan 13
well, it's okey as long as both of you are very much sure of what you will be entering. and of course the love and respect were there.
@vernaC (1493)
• Romania
31 Jan 13
If you are ready to move on for the next chapter of your life then it's ok. But if you have kids, I think you should also ask them if they are ready and how would they feel about your plans. If everything is ok and everyone is ready for this then go and be happy.
@raynejasper (2326)
• Philippines
31 Jan 13
.hi. I think four years is already enough as long as you are happy with the person you have right now. Well, when someday he miraculously returns, then he will understand. You have the right to be happy. Just make sure that you will be spending your life to someone worthy of your love and attention. You didn't mention if you have kids. Anyway, whatever your decision is, you just need to be ready with all the consequences.