What to do when you can do nothing

@savypat (20248)
United States
February 2, 2013 9:00am CST
Many times in life things happen that we have no control over. In fact, control is an illusion. Mostly I am talking about illness and especially when it happens to our loved ones. One of our first reaction is worry, but if you can control this reaction you can turn that energy into love. Your mind can do this, the more you practice the easier it gets. When you are surrounded by love and are projecting this toward any situation you are doing the very best thing you cn do. If you are in a situation where you can contribute physically then of course you want to do that, but if you can train yourself to first react with love, the physical help that you give will be so much more positive. All others will react to your energy and do the best they can, if you let worry be your reaction that also will feed others. Blessings
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@MissPiggy (1751)
• Indonesia
3 Feb 13
But what if our loved one lives in other city and is not feeling well? I mean right now my boyfriend is feeling unwell and I can't be there to take care of him. I have sent texts to remind him to take the medicine and have a rest. I try to sound lovely in the text so that it will help him feeling better, but inside my heart I feel so crazy worried about him!
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@savypat (20248)
• United States
3 Feb 13
When you are sending the energy of love there is no distance. just make sure your loved ones knows, that way his attention will be toward the love and he can encourage it. Remember the worry that you have is being sent also and does nothing but make him uneasy and encourage his own worry, you don't want that you want to encourage the love and put all his energy toward recovery.
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@dorannmwin (36692)
• United States
4 Feb 13
The information that you've shared here is something that most people have no clue about because they haven't had the unfortunate experience of having to go through something like this in their lives. However, this is something that I've been through more than once in my life. I actually do think that it is because of these experiences that I've had in my life that I have a tendency to love most people no matter what. It is the love that I've given and also the love that I've received that has been something that has been able to help me make it through the really tough times in my life.
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• India
3 Feb 13
love, worry, help ... all these has single point origin and that is your present state of mind with that person. We can not teach someone to love others and particularly how to love others. Yes, at the time of illness, if you touch the forehead of the patient and he/ she feels relieved, then be sure that he/she understands that you are with him/her. It makes miracle.
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@airasheila (5460)
• Philippines
3 Feb 13
A pleasant day savypat, Often times people tend to feel annoyed whenever things don't go accordingly to what they wanted. Especially if the results goes opposite on what they really wanted. But, I guess it is not really the best thing to do. Hence, as what you have laid out in your post, perhaps, it is really best to take situations positively. So in this way, we can still create a positive output in life. And yes, more blessings for us to come.
@vivek19 (219)
• India
3 Feb 13
Worry is not a solution if one of your lived one is ill. It will make him worry to. The best way is to fight back the situation by keeping yourself calm and finding a solution to the problem. That will also give encouragement to the ill person.
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
3 Feb 13
try not to panic. it is easier said than done but its something you should be in control of. your loving way will help boost someone to get well fast. have a nice day. ann
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@silverfox09 (4727)
• United States
3 Feb 13
Whenever some thing happen to a a love one and their is nothing we can do my first reaction is to pray , cry and worry . I will never stop loving them but I can really start praying for them because sometimes I dont remember to until something bad happen .
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@KrauseHome (33259)
• United States
2 Feb 13
Yes, a lot of what helps someone get better when someone is sick, or has a real medical issue, is telling them you Love them, and will always be there for them. Yes, worry is only a natural part of everything, but if you do not show your love and concern they often times will feel no one cares and have no desire to get better quicker. Just being there for them is the Best thing.
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@GardenGerty (90227)
• Marion, Kansas
2 Feb 13
Worry is often a fruitless response. I try to aim for a peaceful mind first of all. I do what I can, learn what I can, and then I try to be honest about what I am feeling as well.
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@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
2 Feb 13
Hi savypat, Of course you are right and there is much wisdom in what you say here.So many people need to understand this. Blessings.
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@inertia4 (26913)
• United States
3 Feb 13
You are right about control. I am dealing with something right now, an issue with the evil ex and my son. It is right now out of my control, and it is very stressful. But to turn that into positive energy will not be that easy. I am trying to do that. If I did have total control, the evil ex would have to bite her lip and eat her words.