Its not good manners
February 3, 2013 1:05pm CST
If you ask somebody how much he or she earns.. If you make somebody stand at your doorstep and keep on talking for ages over phone If you ask somebody why dont you have kids... If you make somebody do your chores day in and day out... There are many many such things...which can annoy you...no end. And you would have felt an intense desire to tell the other person...MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS OR Any othe expletive. But couldnt because you are too well mannered. So here is your chance to list the issues that annoy you... and hopefully others read them, and avoid annoying you. THIS DISCUSSION IS NOT GOING TO BE DELETED. Hopefully..
3 Feb 13
1)People who believe they are always right and wont even listen to learn. 2)People who constantly use slangs. 3)People who always beg and never offers. 4)Asking for a favor when I am busy and you are there playing games. 5)Asking for help at the last minute when you had so much free time the weekend before. So now you start to rush me and I get upset cause I had things to do but I help anyway. 6)Chopping your mouth while eating. (You know that loud noise some people make while eating with their mouth open) 7)Flies in a restaurant. 8)When technology fails on me when I really need it. Like my phone freeze when I need to call someone for an emergency. 9)When I have somewhere to go and the vehicle wont start. 10)When I was younger and no taxi/ public transportation wanted to take me home from school because children pay less money than adults. They prefer to only take adults, not knowing that children will turn adults sooner or later.
3 Feb 13
Wow...I can relate to quite a few of them, 1) 3), and 4) When technology or vehicles fails you, how does it amount to bad manners...and so also flies in restaurant, and the last one...lol But never mind..I understand those are issues that really annoy you. :) I will watch out on those. :)
4 Feb 13
Well, my friend. You must know that I am during the day, do not interact with many people. However, don't lack sometimes the desire to simply say to someone: "You made your things!." This for those who always want to comment on my own things. In particular, the first person with whom I should look for this language, it's my younger brother. He is interested in all that is mine. He always argue about everything I do. Why never learns to be a bit quiet?
4 Feb 13
I agree...notwithstanding the fact that they are our close relatives or friends, there are limits that shouldnt be crossed. Not many adhere to such limits. So sad...but it is very essential for the peace. I too have been a victim of such interference, and I too get very irritated, especially when they dont stop even after being warned...
3 Feb 13
There are lots of things that annoy me, where to start.People who are two face who stab other people in the back, yet they are the one you see with that person after they had been stabbing others. People who make a mess and never tidy it up and expect others to clean the mess up. People who use other people for things or go to see them when they have noone else to see. People who have children, yet palm them off on other people. People who promise things and never carry their promise out. Thats just for a start.
4 Feb 13
Hi Vandana, Just like you, there are many things that makes me annoyed too. Here is my list: 1. People who are envious 2. People who are happy with the failure of some 3. People who forget their debts 4. People who speak harsh word 5. People who easily judge 6. People who make fun of other's mistakes There are a lot more things that I know I dislike but for now, those are what makes me irritated the most.
3 Feb 13
There are people who lack knowledge of how to do the proper form. It is because of the environment where they grow up. For us of course will be annoyed for what reasons she asked that questioned it was too personal. The best way to do is not to answer back and smile if not find an alibi to get rid of the person. The worst people like that is of short understanding. I hope not to encounter one
4 Feb 13
Yes asking personal questions can be very very annoying. Smiling does not stop them. We have an uncle who is constantly telling others to sell properties, while he keeps on buying properties. I have put up a lot with that...and one fine day, I couldnt help saying "mind your own business". Now he is hounding another person.
9 Feb 13
I also think that good manners should always be followed in our lives. I also happened to be places where people does not keep their manners and sometimes I get agitated by this. I also does not think these things you have said are not good manners.
10 Feb 13
Yes...good manners keep everything pleasant and sweet, and we dont have any unnecessary enemies ...why turn a possible good friend into a possible enemy just with our behavior? Nobody likes to be told you are less important than the person I am talking on the phone. Nobody likes to be reminded that they dont have kids for whatever reasons. So..these things though small remain in the minds of people. Somebody who could help us when we need help might no longer be around to help us. Somebody who could have been a reliable shoulder to cry on in our pain, would just move away. Who loses?
• Bhubaneswar, India
4 Feb 13
The biggest thing that annoyed me for months after I fell ill and started walking again was - Why dont you find yourself a job? - and then it was - Why dont you go out for a morning walk? And today, I have overcome these annoyments as I realized they mean nothing to me and people would remain people. I have never asked any such question unless it was expected and I had a license (like - as an Interviewer for a job, I did ask many why were you not employed before or how much was your last salary) but then I think such questions were situations and I had to ask them. And, yes, I also ask some questions in case I feel them needed to be asked like if anyone came to me for advice - some still do
4 Feb 13
Yes....that is definitely annoying...make that most annoying...its one thing if the person is looking for job and has approached you, and it is another thing to suggest such stuff. A couple of days ago, I had a remark like that...what are you doing sitting at home, earn something...excuse me, what business is it of yours? And do you really know how I am spending time? And my responsibilities going forward? Such guys dont like their wives working but want other women to work... But I was able to brush it aside because I am sure he didnt mean it in harmful way. In fact, he was offering me the position of a director in his company with only alternate day attendance. However, I refused. That is a chapter that is closed. Want to learn new things and do something different. :)