What Kind of Love is this? What should i do?

Philippines
February 4, 2013 5:12am CST
Its was year 2007 when i fall in love to a person, our relationship last for 7 months, we parted our ways with no valid reason, i'm clueless. Were in-love, and suddenly its gone, she don't talk to me in person, she just talk to me in her mobile, and said " lets stop this relationship" i ask to my self what i have done? it take for me couple of years to forget what had happened and moved on, i found new relationship, but i won't take long, i'm comparing my present relationship with my past, which is wrong. at present year 2013, suddenly she popped up in my facebook account chat, saying " hi and she miss me" we decided to see each other this coming month May for she is working in other place, i'm so excited, i still have the love for her, but deep inside i'm scared, scared of the past or something, what should i do? do i have to cancel our meeting? or continue?
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@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
4 Feb 13
well there is nothing wrong with meeting your ex after all meeting her doesn't mean you are getting back together just meet and find out as much as you can about what happened when you broke up, how her life has been and how she is now her answers will help you decide whether to get back together or not (if she wants back with you) What happened to you in 2007, I had that experience about 13 yrs ago I never heard from him anymore, and I don't want to whatever the reason my ex did it, it's in the past and I am now married 12 yrs with someone else
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• Philippines
5 Feb 13
I want to reply to all your post guys, but i decided to make reply for all of you, you all guys is really a great a big help, all your points of view is the same, maybe its right, i was trapped in the past, because there is no closure in our relationship, and i need answers for it, coz i gived all my time to her,. another story popped up in my mind, what if she want to come back to me? 3 days ago i broke up my present gf for the reason that i'm going to meet my ex, i don't want to fool my present gf which my ex now, i still love the past, maybe the reason i don't want to move on after all the bad things that happened. that you very much guys... i really appreciate your help guys..
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@rsa101 (14960)
• Quezon City, Philippines
5 Feb 13
Goodluck on this much anticipated meeting of yours. Maybe this is important to you that you even broke off with your current GF so that it may not looked like you are folling around with her. I guess that is just fair that you did that to be honest with your feelings with her(your current GF). This meeting would then spell either closure or continuance of your discontinued relationship. So whatever the result would be you would openly accept and maybe be happy with it.
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• Philippines
5 Feb 13
thank you guys, hope good result will come up.
@KrauseHome (35526)
• United States
4 Feb 13
Personally many times when it comes to Love and a relationship it can be awkward. Maybe she found someone else at the time, and was a little scared because of the feelings she knew was being emitted, so she was running trying to take time to figure things out. And then things have happened to where she might have realized just how much she really cares about you, and wants to apologize and try and give it a second chance. If this is truly someone you Love and want to be around, I would just play it by ear. Take time to see her if she follows thru, and then see how things go from there. If it does not go as good as you would expect and hope then time to move on, but if it works out well, then she could be the one for you. Remember the saying if you Love someone set them free, and if they return back to you, then it was meant to be.
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
4 Feb 13
Personally the curiousity would be too great of an opportunity to pass up I would arrange to meet with her and find out exactly what was going on for her to be so cruel and end your relationship without a good reason. I would also think twice about getting back with her, what if she does that again to you? I am sure you don't want to go through the heartache again. Certainly see her find out the answers which I am sure you want answering.
• India
4 Feb 13
Your friend is choosy in making partner. She perhaps compares with all alternative friends and try to get attached with the best one. Saying hi and miss you may not be of that potential as you are expecting from your point of view. There are people who love to keep a pocket book of their ex-loves and want you to enroll there. You should definitely meet her, but keep your mood very casual. I think ,as you have written "i ask to myself what i have done?", is the sole reason of your parting. She might be interested in doing people... lol. Dont stick to her mentally. Of course you can enjoy few golden moments with her. Dont think her again as life partner. She is not loyal to you at least.
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@CarraC (70)
• Canada
4 Feb 13
If you are seeing someone else, like in a relationship with someone new, then I suggest that if you meet with your past, you keep the conversation on a basic level. Don't mess up your present because of your past. What if she runs out on you again? What if she just needs someone's shoulder to cry on? She haven't given you a reason for the break up...If she cared so much, she would! Don't mess up what you have now for something that was already messed up!
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• Romania
4 Feb 13
Maybe she was afraid to continue with the relationship because she wasn't prepared for the next step.But you'll find the answers only if you see her.I understand you are scared because you don't want to get hurt and you still have feelings for her and you love her.You should go and see if she also has the same feelings.You both have now more experience, i guess you know each other very well and maybe the relationship will work this time. You should't cancel the meeting, it's a good thing you have the chance to see her again and find the real reason she stopped the relationship.This way, even if you won't get her back you'll be able to continue your life.
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@rsa101 (14960)
• Quezon City, Philippines
4 Feb 13
It looks like you were not totally moved on with her since you still cannot get over her after your separate ways years ago. I also suspect that the relationship you are in is not the right one for you since you still look for the past. If I were you, you should be careful you meeting with her. Do not expect anything in this meeting and always be on alert about this meeting. He duped you once and she could do that again to you.
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@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
4 Feb 13
Wouldn't you wanna know what really happened back then? I am sure you would want some closure on that. Now if you find yourselves still having the attraction, why not gove yourselves another chance? Who knows/ Maybe this time is will be for keeps. Good luck!
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@waflay (2727)
• Nairobi, Kenya
4 Feb 13
Hi, it is only by being apart that the true worthy of a relationship can be felt. If she still have feelings for you then you have a choice to make, whether to accept her back or to decide otherwise. From 2007 till now! This is a very long time, and a lot can happen in this period. You might try it out, a risk is better than nothing, know the reason she wants you back or what makes her miss you even though she left without clear explanations.
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@WakeUpKitty (8706)
• Netherlands
4 Feb 13
As I understand you are still waiting for answers. So might be a good idea to ask for these answers now. You are also still living in the past, so it might be a good idea to find out (by meeting her) if you are right about your feelings. It might be possible they just exist in your fantasy through all these years. It's 16 years ago you met her, this is a very long period. People do change, people also need to live to gather their own life experiences. To find out what or whom they like or dislike. This is normal. I doubt you are the one for her, also because you are not able to let go and you did not continue with your life. If you would be together with her you want to go back to 2007. This is impossible. 16 years is a life time to many. Go for your answers or discover there are no answers and see what happens.
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@SHAMRACK (8450)
• India
4 Feb 13
Dear friend, I feel it would be you to decided whether to select the first love or the lastesh. But I feel the lastesh would be better. The first one could go without showing any reason. The second one I do know bit of her character. I feel it you who have to decide who gives you more comfort that is mental peace and happiness. Moreover it is not sure the latest would leave you too. But the first one had already shown how she feels for you.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
5 Feb 13
You know friend, I experience the same thing as you. I decide to meet up with my ex then settle everything and make the relationship back again. I don't think that her proposal to come back with me is a kind of hoax. I find out that she come back to me because she need some money to go back into other country again. That is the second time that she fools me and I want to advice to think and examine first what the reason to meet after a long time being alone...
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
5 Feb 13
Be brave lol and face your fears. You're a man, are you not? I don't like how your relationship indeed. If a person breaks off like that over the phone, it kind of means she does not respect you enough to break up with you personally. She must have grown tired with you. And you really deserved the explanation. YOu should have asked for it instead of just letting end things like that. It's terrible of you to compare your past and present relationship. You will never be satisfied with any relationship if you are like that. Move on, man. And it seems this women renewed his interest in you. It's suspicious really. I don't even this is love, but merely infatuation. But that can change of course. I say, you confront her and get your answers. Don't be carried away with your feelings. It's important to use your head, your common sense also. Bear that in mind.
@Dassodils (2013)
• India
4 Feb 13
Ya.. Nice..Feel something wrong with her behaviour. But I think that there will have some reason behind it.First try to realize her and give some time to open her mind.and then you should try to clear the all doubts.I f she is ready to be like the old time,I f you are believing her reasons,you should not leave her in any reason. I think that you can't to love other girl like her.So don't lose her in life. Thank you..