"Material things aren't important at all"

@Porcospino (18385)
Denmark
February 4, 2013 12:09pm CST
While I was waiting for my appointment I talked to a woman who was waiting as well. We discussioned material things and she said: "If someone damages one of my belongings I don’t get angry. Compared to a situation where you lose a family member, material things just don’t count. If a friend borrows something from me and breaks it I tell them not to worry about it because it doesn’t matter" The things that she said made me think about my own opinion about that topic. I have never been very attached to to material things and I am not interested in buying a lot of things, but it would still bother me if I lost my laptop, cellphone or similar things mostly because of the information, phone numbers, pictures etc that I have saved. I would be a lot of work to reconstruct those things, but of course it is true that those things don’t matter at all compared to a situation where I lose a person from my family. What do you think about the things that woman said? Do you agree? Why/why not?
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@airasheila (5459)
• Philippines
5 Feb 13
A pleasant day Porcospino, With reference to your main topic, for me, material things are still important to me since these things are the fruits of my hard-earned money. Same thing, if any of them got lost or broken, I would get angry but only to some extent.
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@gimong (124)
• Indonesia
5 Feb 13
I do agree with you
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@BriannaM (18)
• New Zealand
5 Feb 13
She is a very wise woman. I know what you mean about losing the "big" material possessions. Because some of them have memories on them that you can't replace (such as the photos etc).. But still I would rather lose those than a family member/friend.
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@Porcospino (18385)
• Denmark
7 Mar 13
I feel the same way. I would much rather lose material things than a family member. My phones and the other things that I have saved are important to me, because it is way to remember the past and remember the people who are no longer a part of my life, but material possessions like my laptop and my phone can't be compared to the loss of a family member. The loss of a family member is much more painful because a person can't be replaced. I wouldn't say that material possessions aren't important at all and I appreciate the material things that make my life easier, but compared to a person they aren't important.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
5 Feb 13
I dont really agree with that because everything has a value. You can only not care about something if it doesn't have any value to you. I value my things especially that i dont have so much of it and the effort I've put into getting them isn't something that i can just throw away easily,
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@Porcospino (18385)
• Denmark
4 Mar 13
I understand what you mean. I partly agree with the woman who said that material things weren't important at all, because when I compare the loss of a material thing with the loss of the person there is no doubt that the loss of a person is much more painful since a person is irreplacable. On the other hand I wouldn't say that material things aren't important at all. If I worked hard for them and if they make my life easier and more comfortable they have a value. Not the same value as a person of course, but I still appreciate them and I am grateful that I have furniture, a laptop and the other things hat I use every day.
@allknowing (66716)
• India
5 Feb 13
Material things would matter to me if they helped me lead a comfortable life. I indeed know where to draw the line.
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@Porcospino (18385)
• Denmark
4 Mar 13
Many material things improve our lives and make our lives more confortable. I appreciate the things that I use them in my daily life, but they are not as important to me as my family and my friends.
• Philippines
5 Feb 13
Yes, material things are easy to replace but all others can't. You just need money to replace all material things but relationship lost of family members in different. The lost of thing wherein stored important documents and valuable items is very hard to replace, if not hard to re-construct, for sometimes we don't have enough files on hand to replace what was lost.
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@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
5 Feb 13
I feel the same way as you do. Those things that you have mentioned would certainly make me annoyed if I were to lot any one of them. But it is incomparable to a loss of a family member or friend. We should learn not to attach ourselves to material things and money because they are things that just "accessories" to liven up our everyday lives. A person'e life means more than anything else.
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@Porcospino (18385)
• Denmark
3 Mar 13
Yes, it is annoying to lose things like a cell phone and a laptop. We can buy a new one, but would be a lot of work to reconstruct the information that we have saved like phonenumbers, pictures and all those things. I would not be happy if I lose one of those things, but of course you can't compare it to the loss of the person. A person is irreplacable. It can be annoying to lose material things, but they are not irreplacable. I agree with the thing you wrote about not attaching ourselves to material things. Of course those things help us in our other daily lives, and I appreciate that, but when I think about a person and a material possesion there is no comparison.
• Philippines
5 Feb 13
Our lives involve the growth of modern technology since unless you're living in a cave, I bet you'll be angry if you lose your laptop, or cellphone, or whatever cool gadget you have. For me it's normal since it represents my hard work. I get buy these things because I worked hard for them. I didn't buy them to break or lose, I bought them to use.
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@Porcospino (18385)
• Denmark
16 Feb 13
Material things are not that important to me if I compare them other things in my life like my husband and my family, but that doesn't mean that I don't care about the material things at all. I would be annoyed if I lost one of those things because they make my life easier and I have worked hard in order to be able to buy those things. I would also feel annoyed if I lost all of the pictures and other things that I have saved on laptop, but my friends and my family members are more important to me than any material possessions, because they can't be replaced. I partly agree with the things that woman said, but I dont' agree 100%.
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
5 Feb 13
Hey, if my friend wasn't intentionally break my things, like the cell phone, or computer, I won't get angry. Because accident might happen, and he/she might not intend to do it. I would choose to forgive, in return, I hope that my friend would do the same to me. Actually, it was depend on how your weigh your material world against friendship. I hope people would understand it too.
@Porcospino (18385)
• Denmark
16 Feb 13
I would react the same way if a friend broke one thing my things. Accidents happen sometimes and if a friend breaks one of things and doesn't do it on purpose I would forgive him or her. Of course it would be annoying if I lost the things that I have saved on my laptop and had to start over, but my friendship would be more important to me than material things like a computer or a cell phone. I hope that my friends would also forgive me if I broke something by accident. I think that most of them share my thoughts about material things and don't focus too much on their material posssessions.
@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
5 Feb 13
What she said was true, but sometimes those things are quite relevant in terms of its value depending on how it was acquired. I mean, if something is my given my parents, then the value would be something more personal than monetary. I guess i'm a little bit sentimental when it is related to those kinds of stuff.
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@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
4 Feb 13
Well, I have really never been a materialistic person, so I really do have to say that the things really don't matter all that much to me. If I was faced with making a choice between the latest and greatest video game system and helping out a friend of mine in whatever way, I would choose to help my friend out every time. In fact, I am the kind of person that would give the shirt off of my back if there was someone that needed it more than I need it. So I suppose that I am saying that I agree with this statement one hundred percent.
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@Porcospino (18385)
• Denmark
14 Feb 13
I would also choose to help a friend in that situation. That would be much more important to me than buying some material things. I have never been especially interested in material things. I am happy that own certain things which make my life more convenient, but I have never been a person who had to buy the lastest things or certain brands. My friends sometimes tease me because I don't know the brands that they talk about, but those things have never been important to me.
@WakeUpKitty (8706)
• Netherlands
4 Feb 13
No I don't agree. If I have to work/save hard to buy something, are treating it with care, not only because it did cost me money but also because I intend to do with it forever (so no more wasting of money, saving energy the environment) I do not like it if others steal it, damage it and force me to make more costs. I do think it's not important to own a lot (like my granny said: what is the need you can't take it with you into the grave anyway), it's also proved that people who have savings (money) are way more happy as those who own a lot of stuff/property.
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@Porcospino (18385)
• Denmark
6 Feb 13
To a certain extent I agree with her. When I compare a situation where I lose a material thing to a situation where I lose a family member or a friend there is no doubht that the situation where I lose a material thing is less painful than that a situation where I lose a family member because a family member can't be replaced. On the other hand I wouldn't say that material things don't matter at all. Like you say when we have worked hard to save up the money for something I think that it is natural reaction to treat it with care. It would bother me to lose some of my material things, but of course that kind of loss is less painful than a situation where I lose a family member.
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
4 Feb 13
I agree with what the woman said, but only to a point. Of course the loss of a loved one is much more devastating than the loss of a material item, but that does not mean that material items have no value. It depends on what kinds of items you are talking about. If the items make my life easier and more comfortable, yes they have value. If they make a job easier for me, yes they have value. For example I would rather have a home than sleep on the street. I don't need a big mansion, but having a home, a material thing, makes my life a whole lot more comfortable than being homeless. My bed is a material thing, but it makes my life more comfortable than sleeping on the floor, therefore it has value to me. Tools to do a job make the job easier and therefore have value. However, a ring on my finger has very little value to me, other than me having something pretty to look at. It makes no difference whether I have a 2 carat diamond or no diamond at all. Having a big ring does not make my life more comfortable or easier for me. Therefore, it all depends on what kinds of material things you are talking about.
@Porcospino (18385)
• Denmark
5 Feb 13
I agree with the things that you wrote about the items that make our daily lives easier and more comfortable. I think that they have value and life would be harder without them. Some people person don't care if they have any belongings at all and they choose to live a very simple life without any modern conveniences and feel satisfied that way. Some people don't care about brands or expensive things, but they have basic needs that they want to fulfill like a place to live and a bed to sleep in. Like you I don't care much about exensive things things. I don't need the lastest things or the popular brands, but I appreciate the things that I have which make my life easier.
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
5 Feb 13
i used to think that material things were important pretty much until my dad passed away and then when i helped my mom clean out all his stuff, it really changed my opinion because 'you can't take it with you' is a reality and sure it is nice to have stuff but is it really needed? i would probably be upset if my tablet was stolen (i don't have a cell phone) but would be way more upset if a family member had passed away.
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@sshiva95 (77)
• India
5 Feb 13
I feel its okay to get angry but one shouldn't blast off the roof. You can tell it to the person in a calm manner and try and put some sense into them only if it happened due to their negligence. If the reason is something genuine then its okay
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@amemarie (15)
5 Feb 13
I would have to agree with the woman. I've never been materialistic; oftentimes when my boyfriend asks me what I would want as a gift, I simply would not know what to say. Of course I do have some things that I want, but having him is a gift in itself. Sometimes he does insists and I'd just suggest we can do a fun activity instead. I think experiences are much better. They create memories that are worth treasuring. :) Buying necessities is not being materialistic. I think being materialistic is tied w/ buying unnecessary wants and believing that these wants will only be the one to give you happiness. Relationships and memories are the most important things, in my own opinion. :)
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@lisacope (82)
5 Feb 13
I agree with the sentiment of what she said, but to say "material things aren't important at all" is a little extreme. As someone else pointed out, there are many material things, such as a house, a bed etc, that whilst not always 100% essential, they make life more comfortable, safer, etc. Often times material things can save lives, too. Although I don't think the woman was talking about that really, I think she was talking more generally, and I like what she said. It's good not to place too much importance on (most) material things, because the majority of them, as she said, don't *really* matter. It would be an annoyance if something broke, like your cell phone, but I do think it's pointless getting *too* upset about it or placing too much importance on it. If I couldn't afford a new one though, I would probably place more importance on it than if I could just buy a new one.
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@rog0322 (2834)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
5 Feb 13
Hi, I would agree if I am not in the material world. You see, I am so attached to what is material that I would die without them: food, air, water, sunlight and all the things in the environment. It is a lot of humbug that anybody is not attached to the things material in the surroundings. The immaterial world, while being an integral part of our life is also important but without the material component, maybe I would not be around to appreciate them.
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• United States
5 Feb 13
I agree with her. But, I have been this way all my life. People are more important than belongings. I have never been one for material things. Of coarse, i get upset at losing something important. But, i get over it. Doing thing and spending time with people are more important than belongings.
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@allknowing (66716)
• India
5 Feb 13
Material things would matter to me if they helped me lead a comfortable life. I indeed know where to draw the line.
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@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
4 Feb 13
Yeah when it comes to what is most important I agree with what that woman said. Our family and friends should be the most important in our lives. We never know what could happen tomorrow or the next day so it's vital that we let them know how much they mean to us. I do agree that there are a lot of memories that we hold on certain items that is important to us but when it comes to always just trying to buy and have the newest and latest things then that in itself isn't important. There are so many people who always have to have the best of the best when it comes to material things and they are often times willing to sacrifice what is most important to get it.
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@Porcospino (18385)
• Denmark
5 Feb 13
It is true that we don't know what is going to happen tomorrow. I think it is important to appreciate the time that we spend with our family and friends and let them know how much they mean to us. When I think about my family and my material possessions, I simply can't compare those things, because my family means so much to me. My possessions make my daily life convenient and I appreciate them, but they aren't important to me compared to my family. Some people find their possessions very important and always want to buy the best things and the latest things, that is true. My father and my brother are like that, but things like that have never been important to me.