"Going back to an old Relationship"

Philippines
February 6, 2013 6:13pm CST
Before i was sad to the relationship i had and recently one of my old "one' contacted me.. do you think to get back with him is a right decision? Happy to all responses you share my FRIENDS! have a nice day!
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12 responses
@chiyosan (29396)
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
I think you should assess how or why your relationship did not work in the past. There is no problem going back to an old relationship if both of you had mutally agreed that at the time you were still not mature to be in a relationship. But ifyou ask me, if your relationship was broken off by a third party, or if he cheated on you, then i would advise that you should just remain as friends with him. Why would you even want to go back to that relationship that hurts you? Think about it, think carefully. There is a reason why it did not work out before, and it could be that it was really not meant to happen.
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
Hello my friend thanks to your comment... i will consider all your words and think very well before i act.. thanks again and have a happy day!
@MoonGypsy (4617)
• United States
7 Feb 13
consider why you broke up before. what kind of person is he? is he changed? have you changed? did you break up only to grow apart. i would never go back. i wouldn't be able to forget why we broke up in the first place, especially if it was really really bad.
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
Thank you my friend... you've got the point. i will consider many things before to have a good decision and take good advice from friends.. have a nice day!
@cupkitties (6374)
• United States
7 Feb 13
Without knowing the reasons as to why you broke up in the first place or what kind of a boyfriend he was, we couldn't tell you. Has he changed any or still the same person? Most importantly how do you feel about it? Are you happy with him. If you're happy with him and he is treating you well, then its okay.
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
Thanks for the response my friend... it's a long sad story if i could tell you.. i am happy now with your comment and i take all the best.. thanks a lot friend.. have a happy day! takecare
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@dpk262006 (41800)
• Delhi, India
3 Mar 13
Hi. You have not mentioned the details of your previous relationship and your present status so it gets difficult to comment. Having said that in my personal opinion, I do not think it is advisable to re-start any old relationship, when you both were party to its ending.
@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
25 Feb 13
hi, its not bad when we go back to our old relationship because giving a second chance is not that bad,but for me if that will happen,i will go back to that relationship and try it in second chance to be with that guy,but of course i need to be alert and aware.
• United States
22 Feb 13
Well I always say that an ex is an ex for a reason. They may look and sound good, especially if you're single, when they contact you but you have to remember why you broke up in the first place. I have an ex who calls from time to time inquiring about dating again but every time he does I remember the reasons why we aren't together now.
• Philippines
18 Feb 13
With the way you have responded to the responses of fellow members, I believe that circumstances can tell if you can go back. It's a personal decision that only you can make. Some say that it would be sweeter the second time around. Others may think that it would just be re-injuring the wounded heart. If you think the advantages are more than the disadvantages, then go for it. In the end, it's about you that matters. It's your happiness, it's your life.
@jenny1015 (13401)
• Philippines
8 Feb 13
Hello, mods! How are you feeling about this person? Has he told you that he want to have you back? What was the reason that you broke up with him? Your answers to my questions will help you think ,more clearly if you would still want to take a chance on this guy.
@dainy1313 (2356)
• Leon, Mexico
7 Feb 13
Hello Mods, I will tell you my own experience. I went back to an old relationship and it was the best for me. I met him when I was 13, we dated six months, and we were neat friends for 11 years, when I was heartbroken I began dating him again, and we got married two years later. I didn´t want to meet nobody new when I was heartbroken, I was very hurted by my ex. And moving to an old relationship made me feel comfortable, happy and safe. We have three children now and 16 years of marriage. It´s up to you! Blessings Mods... dainy
@WakeUpKitty (8718)
• Netherlands
7 Feb 13
It's hard to say because I don't know why you did break up. But I think most men just come back because they are not able to live alone. They need someone to take care of them. Personally I would never take my ex back again (my ex bf is already trying for 7 years).
@jricky1 (6810)
• China
7 Feb 13
It's totally up to you but i do think that since the relationship has past,the god wants you to go for a new one and maybe better person is just waiting for you.Good luck and to find your real soul mate,don't live in the past no matter it's good or painful.
@rsa101 (13344)
• Philippines
7 Feb 13
It depends on how the relationship ended in the past. I guess it is you who can really assess if it is worth restoring back the relationship and just forgive each other on that note.