It is over, now what?

@CODYMAC (1357)
San Diego, California
February 7, 2013 1:02pm CST
On March 21st, 2012, I asked a wonderful woman if she wanted to have a relationship with me. On February 6th, 2013, that same woman is now gone... Where did she go? She left due to things that were out of our control. They were out of our control, and now it has ruined almost a full year of cultivating a loving relationship. Am I angry? A little. Am I sad? Much more. Due to things that no one would have ever seen coming, or ever thought would ever happen, came into our lives... I feel less stress knowing that I will be moving on in many areas in my life. One, to a new city,(Denver is just too cold for me) a new job, and a new way of life. This is going to be the start of a great thing. I believe that GOD wants me to do things, that I may not have been able to do if I were with her. But then again, I will never fully know. We still fully love one another, and our hearts are broken. But I see that there are things that need to be taken care of, and maybe this is a good thing. It was stated, that if everything was fixed, and nothing bad happens with the situation, then we will for sure be back together. But, if not, then I will not be looking for another. I have the almighty's work to think about. To all of my myLot friends, what do you think about relationships that turn out this way? I am not able to say the situation, but I will say that it is bad enough that it was neither her fault, nor mine, but a serious lie my family member said to the police. It caused serious trouble, and may get people placed in jail. And worse, my passport taken. If my passport is taken, then I will never be able to visit her. Thanks for your comments. And GOD bless everyone here...
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8 responses
@peavey (16866)
• United States
7 Feb 13
I'm so sorry, Cody. You were so happy. God has plans that we sometimes never fully understand, but it's important to trust Him and I can see that you are. Whether things will work out in the future is in His hands. I wish you the best in your next move and your new job.
@CODYMAC (1357)
• San Diego, California
9 Feb 13
Thanks peavey. Well some things have happened since the "status change". But I still need to find out some things, and then it should all be taken care of. We are trying to make sense of what is happening and also why. GOD works for us if we are on his side, and I know that he will make everything here in this right. He has too, because he promised to help out those who have been stepped on, and abused. We are still in love, but this is taking a toll on her and her emotions... Well we will see in the next few days what happens. God bless peavey and I shall keep in touch.
@peavey (16866)
• United States
9 Feb 13
Please do keep in touch, Cody. God bless you.
@hereandthere (32786)
• Philippines
8 Feb 13
all along i thought you were able to visit her here. maybe someone in your family is against the relationship so it's good to be away from them for a while and start anew in a place free of interference. as time passes, you might also find a different way to reconnect with your fiancee and for you to get together again.
@CODYMAC (1357)
• San Diego, California
9 Feb 13
Yes, I was planning to visit her there. I wanted to be there last July. But now, it is going to be a little later. I am sure that I will see the Philippines, but not sure when. That is what her concern is. If I had my passport taken, then i would not be able to see her. She would be able to come here of course, but if I was in jail, how would I help her get here? I just now see that things will be better, and are working out for sure. We will see in the coming weeks.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
8 Feb 13
Things maybe not in favor for the both of you now. But don't lose hope. Everything will be good in time. I hope for you to be able to gain back the relationship as well as a new job.
@CODYMAC (1357)
• San Diego, California
9 Feb 13
Thank you Jenny. It really will work out one way or the other. But I am seeing light at the end of the tunnel. We shall see what happens in the near future.
@maximax8 (28558)
• United Kingdom
7 Feb 13
It is a shame your relationship has ended. Maybe you can write the lady a private letter explaining your feelings and the situation. Try to keep your passport and don't let it go astray. It is great you have a different area and a new job. It is a pity when a happy relationship ends. Your life is heading in a different direction and I hope you will find that improves your life long term. In the short term you have some heart break so good luck with getting over that. Sometimes things happen which are past your control. I wish you luck in the future.
@CODYMAC (1357)
• San Diego, California
9 Feb 13
I know that we love each other, and now that things have been coming to light, maybe things will change for the better. Maybe things were supposed to be this way for a short while because of all of the things that were going on with my family. I guess secretly this was the reason I didnt want to move back to this city. This is a great town, but my family is here... Well, thank you for the response.
@tash01 (2032)
• Jamaica
7 Feb 13
Sorry to hear about your ending relationship Mac,but life goes on.you can start fresh again,and i hope that you will fine love again. It's over now what,move on enjoy life and have fun ask God to carry you through it all.
@CODYMAC (1357)
• San Diego, California
9 Feb 13
Life does move on and I know that is exactly what I have to do if things dont get fixed. But I know that they will, and her lies will be brought to light. And then I will be doing great, but sad. The reason is because she lied to police. And her children will suffer because of it. Moving here to Denver was a bis fiasco. That is for sure. I would not wish my current life on anyone...
• United States
7 Feb 13
Is this problem going to face you where ever you go? Must your where abouts have to be kept secret from her or your family.
@CODYMAC (1357)
• San Diego, California
9 Feb 13
Taking my passport is a big deal. I think that because of my sister, things are not going to look good for her for sure. I know that the police here in the USA dont take kindly to lying. They will charge her with things that will instead send her to jail for a long time. And the sad thing about this is that she has 6 children to take care of. Anyway, it will work out, and no, I will not keep my whereabouts a secret. I just didnt say here in myLot where I was going.
@mariaperalta (19094)
• Mexico
7 Feb 13
sorry to hear that... but life goes on. There are others out there for you. I bet you will find another special someone soon. Take care there...
@CODYMAC (1357)
• San Diego, California
9 Feb 13
Thank you. This is a different thing in that it involves me. Her lie will cause much heartache but now things have come to light that will keep me sane and my passport in my pocket for a short while anyway. Have a great evening maria...
• United States
7 Feb 13
I think the best thing to do now is live life to the fullest without her. if you said that she was not at fault then don't think about it any longer. I know that is hard to do but since there are things you are looking forward to do without her. then your already aware of the changes you may need to make in your life. good luck
@CODYMAC (1357)
• San Diego, California
9 Feb 13
I really think that moving on is a good thing too. But the lies have caused my sister to be placed in a squeeze and she knows it. Many people believe her, but they will soon see who she really is. I may be losing my passport, and my wonderful woman, but I know that we still love each other. That is bigger than anything. If I can get her to come here verses to go there as the lady suggested above, then it might work. We thought about that too, and still a little unsure. But whatever happens, happens. Thanks for the comment.