career or love life?

Philippines
February 7, 2013 10:26pm CST
my cousin is successful with her business but her love life is barely breathing. she's nearing 40's but she got no boyfriend. one we almost though would end up in marriage but it failed. right now, she's single and just enjoying her life. i guess, it's really hard to have a successful career and love life at the same time. one must give way for the other.
11 responses
@johndur (3049)
• Pasig, Philippines
8 Feb 13
i think it all depends on a person,how he manages his time and priorities to achieve success in both love and career.it just so happens that some concentrates much more on careers and forgot their lovelife.anyway at 40 its not yet late for marry someone.as the saying goes life begins at 40...
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
i guess she's really that busy with her business. she's just opened a new outlet of her business here so she really doesn't have time. and it would be unfair to her boyfriend if she will not have time to spend with him.
@johndur (3049)
• Pasig, Philippines
11 Feb 13
im sure if she will have a boyfriend she can still find time for him.
• Philippines
12 Feb 13
well, let's give it all to destiny. maybe she'll still find the man of her life.
@zearah (5289)
• Philippines
8 Feb 13
We want to be successful in business or career for our family and not just for ourselves.If we don't have a good relationship then who will inspire us? The best thing for me is to win a good hearted man and have a good career as well.If it cannot be possible to happen at the same time then set a priority for the mean time but always find time for family.
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
yes, i agree with you. family is always the priority. they will love you wholeheartedly. and never leave you.
@zearah (5289)
• Philippines
5 Mar 13
Purposely we keep looking for a better future for our fammily.You are true, whenever we dedicate our whole effort for the sake of family then good karma comes to us. As we all know that God loves us.
• Philippines
7 Mar 13
i believe nothing will go wrong as long as you follow and love god and your family. god bless.
• India
1 Mar 13
I agree with you but it is not true for everybody, I have seen in my relatives those who are successfull in their career and have happy love life too and they grow old with their wife and children. but it is not easy to handle both, we should alsways remeber why we do work so hard? is not it to make our family happier?
• Philippines
7 Mar 13
it's really not easy to handle both good relationships with work and loved ones that's why i really admire people who are successful in both.
@Mavic123456 (9702)
• Thailand
9 Feb 13
maybe it is in her destinity to become single. i know that there is this a vocation called " single blessedness not becoming a nun just being single. oh maybe she can still marry at late age. i knew someone who still got married at the age of 50s maybe never too late
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
of course it's quite different when you have your own kids. i'm thinking about her biological clock.
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
I guess depending on a person's point of view. Maybe she is not into love life that much. There are still people who can manage love life and work. If you are good in luti tasking then i bet you could handle both. It is just a matter if you are happy being single not sharing your success with a love one .lol
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
she's not a selfish person and i think she would definitely share her career success with someone she loves. right now, i guess it's just that the right person hasn't come along.
@silverfox09 (4727)
• United States
9 Feb 13
If she is enjoying her life and her job satisfied her every needs then all the best for her . I think we all have different expectation out of life that will make us happy . I do think its possible to have love and success, I have seen this .
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
i think that happiness is a choice. you can choose to be happy with what you really have. it's just a matter of perspective.
• Jacksonville, Florida
8 Feb 13
There are plenty of people who can be happy single. And some are not. I know a friend of mine has a very good job and plenty of money but he is miserable because he has no one to love. He wants someone but has a hard time finding them. He is really sad and would give up his career to find someone special to share things with. So I think it depends on the person and what they want out of life...
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
maybe he should learn to love himself more before he should look for his partner. i feel you should never look for someone because you will eventually meet her when the time is right.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
8 Feb 13
It can really be hard at times to have these both going well for a person ( especially for women - as some men would be intimated with girls or women who has already established themselves in the corporate world). I think though for someone who has the choice, it is only a matter of what the outcome would be, get one, lose one... but then some women have had such wonderful careers and have a happy family too. Perhaps she just was not able to find her right mate and thus she has not settled down yet.
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
maybe that's the problem. her personality is so strong that she needs/wants someone who could dominate her/or someone stronger than her.
@vernaC (1493)
• Romania
8 Feb 13
Maybe she's too comfortable of how she's living now that she's afraid to take a risk. I don't know and it's just my opinion, if she's happy and contented maybe she thinks she doesn't need a man in her life if only it will ruin her peaceful life. Being in relationship would demand time and it's time that she needs also to focus on her career.
@Metatronik (5911)
• Pasay, Philippines
8 Feb 13
What I have now is a successful love life but not a career. What I am happy about is that my boyfriend is totally supportive to me like if I am in pressure then he is motivating me. More so he is also hoping for what I want which is to become successful in career, not just hoping but he is praying for me. So I realized that when choosing between the two I think otherwise the lovelife can be advantage it just depends of whom you are going to choose. What matters most here is the personality or positive attitude of a person than you want to spend with. Because if you have chosen the person who is problematic but successful in career one way or the other there will be other things that can still sacrifice it can be as well in family. But this is case to case basis depending on the person.
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
well, i'm happy for you that even though you have only one side of the scale, it seems to balance your life. congratulations for having a very supportive boyfriend. and may you be successful in your life.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
8 Feb 13
I do think that happiness of a person should not be dependent on having a relationship. Maybe your cousin is happy with the way her life goes and having a partner is not her priority as of the moment. Or maybe she has coped up with just being away from such which have brought her bad feelings from a previous relationship. Anyway, the most important thing is her family is beside her no matter what.