A new nanny is in, and up for observation, and I hope she'll last this time
By jureathome
@jureathome (5361)
Philippines
February 8, 2013 1:31am CST
After about a month, we managed to find another candidate for the nanny job. She's a 21 year old lady, single and no experience as nanny, but has been a househelper for my in-laws' neighbor and family friend. She had good feedback from the family she worked for before, and endorsed her to us, because they already found a new helper when she left to take care of her sick mother.
Even without experience as nanny, we want to give her a shot, as she was also interested in trying out and would appreciate some training and guidance, as needed.
It's a week now, and things seem to be going on fine, and she's learning fast when it comes to childcare. My eldest who is 4 years old seems to like her and is at ease being with her. My 8-month old baby, however, is still adjusting, because she's really clingy to me. I'm the primary caregiver for my baby, so it's not easy for her to be left with just anyone, especially a new face. But, I've noticed she really tries to get the baby's heart. Just today, the baby cries less and not that fussy anymore.
I really hope we've already found the one we've been looking for a long time now. And, I hope she'll also persevere to last the job. I promise to be a good employer and maybe, even a friend.
9 responses
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
8 Feb 13
That's good to know that even if she isn't an experienced nanny, but a house helper instead, she managed to cope up with the works of a nanny.
Our child when she was a kid had a nanny and at the same time helper, who was also single and very good at the house and at our daughter. So much so, that when her mother took her to come with her to a far province , my daughter cried and i couldn't help but be sad.
People who are in way have helped us at home are really a treasure to keep. So, love her as her employer.
1 person likes this
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
I am not very good with dealing with non-family members living in the same house, because I didn't experience having a nanny or helper in my growing years. So, it is also a learning experience for me to manage having a nanny. It's a challenge to be a good employer.
I can see that my eldest daughter likes her because she spends time with her in the living room. So, I'm happy seeing that picture.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
That's good to know , jure . I am sure they will get along well, it's a good sign.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
11 Feb 13
I'm just glad that starting yesterday, I noticed my baby cries less when I give her to the nanny. And, she even smiles to her the moment I pass her on to her nanny. Now, I just hope the nanny won't get too tired of taking care of them. She definitely deserves an increase. It'll be a surprise she'll get this coming 15th - her first salary from us.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
9 Feb 13
Especially for now that there is already kasambahay bill then hoping that she can do good things inside your home and wouldn't demand for more. I hope as well that she won't be abusive as other helpers are doing. It is really hard to find a good helper that can be really trusted. I know you will be a good employer especially if she is not abusive.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
Im not very familiar with what the bill says, actually. Could you she me some light on that. I would want this nanny to take advantage of that if she qualifies.
@Lindalinda (4111)
• Canada
8 Feb 13
I am glad you found a nanny that seems to be promising. It is not easy espcially since our children are our most precious charges. My son and daughter-in-law had a nanny for a year after their second baby was born. It worked out well but they found that the nanny just could not provide the stimulation that their 3 year old needed. So then they put both children in professional day care after my daughter-in-law went back to work. You promised to be a good employer, that is wonderful. Be fair and do not exploit her. As far as friendship is concerned hold off. We found that keeping everything on an employer/employee level worked best. The former nanny is still on good terms with all of us. Good luck.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
You have a point there, and actually I can more easily put off an employer/employee relationship, and I've been doing such for the past nannies. However, they all didn't last, and so I thought, maybe I was too indifferent. I wasn't harsh or rude, either, but seeing other employer-nanny relationships around us, those who have a closer relationship last longer. If I can do that, it's really going to be very off my personality, but if necessary, I can put on a show, and maybe later, it'll become natural.
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
8 Feb 13
I hope she's will love her job and stay long, nowadays it is very hard to find someone who will trust specially handling babies. 
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
Yeah, it really is hard to find someone trustworthy and patient enough with the kids. My kids are not that difficult at all. Perhaps, the baby entails more effort because of the carrying and feeding, etc.. but I just hope she'd persevered to last.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
8 Feb 13
I hope she works out for you as well. Bet thats tough teaching a new one all the time. Good luck this time.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
Oh yeah, it's really tedious to be training a new person too often, and adjusting to a different personality, and all those stuff.
@pomwango (1353)
• Kenya
8 Feb 13
i think with a nanny whats the most important is the kids get to like her.if she can blend in with the kids then you can cut her some slack on the house chores.thats the way i find it easier to deal with them when the kids are too young.as for the 8 month you will have to let her spend more time with the nanny so that you are sure she will be able to feed the baby and take care of her when you are not at home.try by leaving the baby with the nanny as you sit in another room where the baby can't see you and with time make a point of pulling further away.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
Yeah, that's what I'm trying to do. I stay in the bedroom with my laptop and give her the baby. When I hear the baby crying too hard, I'd go down to help and see what the problem is. But as the days pass, the crying gets lesser. And, she takes my advice on how to pacify her and play with her. I can hear the nanny making funny sounds more often, now.
I'm really glad about the effort she's giving. I'll take your advice on cutting her some slack on household chores. Although, she's really responsible and would find something else to do, when I take the baby from her.
I'm really glad about the effort she's giving. I'll take your advice on cutting her some slack on household chores. Although, she's really responsible and would find something else to do, when I take the baby from her.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
Here in the Philippines, nanny services is not too expensive, as long as you have a stable income. Right, still under observation, some people could be too good to be true and just waiting for you to slip so they can take advantage. I'm more careful now, because I've experienced theft from a previous nanny and also someone who has psychological issues.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
8 Feb 13
It is really hard to find help these days especially a nanny whom we can entrust our kids. I hope that the nanny you got would be really be helpful to you and would be a friend to your kids.
I have been taking caring of my kids since 2007. I find it hard to trust just anyone, so I just never took another nanny.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
That's true, even with just 6 months solely taking care of my babies, it's not easy for me to just entrust them to a new person. It's just that, I need to get help because I have plans. However, when they're both big enough, probably in 4 or 5 years from now, I'd have no need of a nanny, because the kids can already help me take care of themselves.
@teotimoponcerosacena (1552)
• Philippines
8 Feb 13
The desire of that nanny of helping his sick mother is one reason of doing her worked well. Her care given to her mother is also a proof that she is a good person and being your new nanny to the children is beneficial to your family I think the factor that will make her strong attachment to your family will all depend on how you will treat her as a nanny in the future to come.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
With the past nannies we got, I wasn't the very sweet employer who loves chatting with them, but I'm confident enough to say that I have treated them with respect and was humane all the time. It's just not my personality to be very friendly and appealing to people, but I'm also not the type who would insult and scream at helpers or nannies.
I do hope this new girl would appreciate our warm approach for her, this time, as much as we can.
