I don't take to too much flattery...

@Cutie18f (9563)
Philippines
February 8, 2013 7:34am CST
I don't know what got into a friend of mine who was making a lot of noise about how thin I have become, and I gorgeous (her words) I am looking now, etc. etc. I thought it was too much flattery and I wanted to change the topic and talk about how she looks instead, but she would go back to more flatteries which I did not want to hear. I know how I look and I think she was overly exaggerating. I wondered why. It was then that I realized I do not like too much attention and flattery thrown my way. It is embarrassing to be told how good you look now when in fact you're still the same old cow. What do you think of too much flattery and how do you react to it?
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5 responses
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
9 Feb 13
I know a lot of people who do that to make friends. But too much of anything is bad. And i wouldn't want a person who exaggerates flattery because it would appear sarcastic to me or that she would appear fake. No one Iikes fake friends
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
Hi Nurse! That is true. I was beginning to think,"what's up in her mind?"
• Penrith, Australia
9 Feb 13
It seems as if she's trying too hard to be your friend.
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
Maybe, but I don't know why.
@toniganzon (53392)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
I was told a liar by friends because every time they tell me i'm beautiful i always told them i'm not. I don't want to be noticed by my physical appearance. I want to be noticed by my character and brain. I guess it's pretty common among women.
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
I think we have the mirror to tell us how we are and often, I do not like what I see. So when someone gives me all those nice descriptions I begin to doubt that.
• Penrith, Australia
9 Feb 13
Lol cutie, you shouldn't doubt yourself too much. It will sound as if you're being too critical about your body. You are beautiful, we are all beautiful. (i hope you're not mad as i used you to praise myself too. just joking) @toniganzon, it really is tricky when people say so many nice stuff, if you agree with them they think you're so full of yourself but if you don't agree they aren't so positive about it either.
@mythociate (15963)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
8 Feb 13
Like water off a duck's back. that is, I just let it slide through my ears down the same canal "How're you doin`" "How's your day?" & "Hi!" take down the noisy river in my ears
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
8 Feb 13
I did that, like not mind it, but she just kept on with it. She was probably fishing for compliment to herself.
@mythociate (15963)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
10 Feb 13
So what's the harm in giving her one, in sort of 'brushing it off' with a "you too"?
@ksktika (271)
• United States
9 Feb 13
i don't really like flattery, for me it's just fake. but some people like to do that. i don't know why. just do everything in a normal way, it would be nice and okay.
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
I am, thanks for dropping by KS.
@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
14 Feb 13
I often wonder when people flatter you, whether it's their way of getting around you, if they need a favour or something, it's insincere. I actually find accepting compliments difficult, the way I describe it, is that any compliments or flattery bounces off me and any negativity, criticism I soak up like a sponge. I actually find it difficult to accept compliments, mainly because I don't think I am worthy of them, but that is down to chronic lack of self esteem and self worth.