Gay person was inside the ladies room.
By laydee
@laydee (12798)
Philippines
February 8, 2013 4:39pm CST
I was with my mom the other day and we went for shoe-shopping. When I went in the ladies room, there was a gay person who was fixing his hair. He didn't actually look gay until he swayed his fingers around his hair to style them up.
I was wondering, is this appropriate? Should a lesbian use the men's room too?
I know I was not comfortable. I am straight and was thinking "what about my rights as a straight person?". Regardless, how they feel on the inside, they are still a guy or a woman.
I have lots of gay friends and they don't use the ladies room.
Am I wrong to feel this way? Thanks in advance for your thoughts.
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10 responses
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
8 Feb 13
Actually I'm thinking it might be different for females. A man walking int a woman's bathroom is 10x safer than a female is if she wanders into the men's room. I imagine that with the way some straight men are, maybe a man who thinks or acts very feminine does not feel safe to go in there. Those guys might harass or beat him up. A female will only either chat nicely to them or quietly contact a manager that some dudes is in the ladies room.
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@hereandthere (45651)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
exactly. putting myself in their shoes, a gay man in woman's clothes and makeup has lesser chances of hearing verbal abuse or being groped in the ladies room. if a lesbian goes into the men's room, she might suffer the same things. i understand them, but... 
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@jade1986 (563)
• India
20 Mar 13
Even if a person is gay, he is still a man. By virtue of that, he should not get into a ladies room. Here it is frequently seen women entering men's room accompanying the kids or just in case they don't find the ladies' room. But that is acceptable but not the other way round. Even if a person seems to be a gay, how can you be so sure that he is actually a gay and is not attracted to women?
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
30 Mar 13
True. He didn't really look gay at first, but I just noticed it when he was fixing his hair. But yeah, he shouldn't be there in the first place. Gay or not, he's still a guy and should use the guy's toilet. If he wants to be respected, he needs to respect other people's rights too.
Thanks for the response, have a great mylot experience ahead!
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
21 Feb 13
That's rather odd. All my gay male friends use the male toilet. The only reason I can think of is that their was a homophobic person in the male toilet or he feared their would be and instead of going with this buddies (to prevent anything from happening or getting the management (had something just happened) he opted to use the ladies' room. I can't say I agree with that choice.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
21 Feb 13
True. It was actually odd for me too because I have lots of gay friends and they never use the ladies room. Perhaps you're right, maybe something happened that traumatized him so he opted to go to the ladies room. But yeah, he should have reported it to the management instead. However, he didn't looked shooked up. He just looked normal and confident doing his thing.
Thanks for the response, have a great mylot experience ahead!
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
No you are wrong. I myself don't find it appropriate for a gay to stay in a ladies room.
He should be at the Men's room for his is a man after all even if he is effeminate. If the gay is not comfortable in Men's Room then that is his problem but he has no place in the Ladies room and hence should be asked to go away.
He should be at the Men's room for his is a man after all even if he is effeminate. If the gay is not comfortable in Men's Room then that is his problem but he has no place in the Ladies room and hence should be asked to go away.1 person likes this
So this means I agree and I am one with your feeling. It is not right for that gay to invade the ladies room. If I were you, I will tell that gay right away that he is in the wrong place.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
9 Feb 13
Thanks for sharing, i think it is not good, if it happened here, one will hand over the person to police, but after beating much lol.
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@Adoniah (7513)
• United States
8 Feb 13
Actually, there is a law in most states prohibiting men from using the ladies room and vice versa. It was designed to cut down on rapes...Women are easy targets now...especially since many of the "gay" are really "Bi"...
@rog0322 (2829)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
8 Feb 13
Hi,
People talk about gay rights and some things that promote the lifestyle. I think it can really complicate our life if this is not checked in a timely manner. Even if they are here to stay, I can't imagine swinging males during the early history of the nation, what with the constant struggle with nature and with one another, life is not easy then.
Now that the civilization is getting better, here they come like it is their world, crying foul every time their queer actions are scrutinized by a straight person. If it is not straight, then it is crooked, who wants crooks for that matter?
@jadoixa (1166)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
i guess it is okay for the gay person to use the ladies room, i guess there is nothing wrong as he doesn't mind at all about the women or ladies there because he feels he is a female himself, also it is up to them what CR they would like to use., if a lesbian will use a man's or whatever..it is up to them, i think there is no malice here at all considering how they feel or see themselves relating to CR they would enter or use., maybe the men or women there just would not feel comfortable but to them there is no malice.
@teotimoponcerosacena (1552)
• Philippines
9 Feb 13
Your feeling is natural, you have the right to be angry, why not report to the proper authority what you experienced. To the management of that shopping center. If you report that incident then the management will know what is happening on there surroundings and can implement reforms.
